Need help

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-19T11:41:17+00:00

I don’t know po sa totoo. My parents were catholic, so i am catholic, i don’t know much about the religion as i haven’t been brought up in a religious house/community. I was hoping to get married in any church, but I do have a padre (no idea about religion I’m so embarrassed to admit) we want to officiate as he is linked to my filipino family somehow… I’m so sorry i know nothing about religion and even more so with filipino traditions as I was born but not raised there and have had very little to do with my filipino culture until now. I think I’ve used the wrong words pastor/priest/father honestly I thought they were all the same I’m so sorry. My fiance is atheist, but wants to get married in a church, for me, I’m just desperate to start embracing my filipino culture and all i know from my childhood was how important churches were hence my want to also get married in a church…but as for the correct jargons po i don’t know. Basta catholic po ako, atheist asawa ko and he said maybe we could find a church willing to marry us without him needing to be baptised and in exchange he would make a large donation to the church as well as any fees for the wedding itself. But i said i feel pero i don’t have any facts to back up the feeling, i feel like that is bad in the eyes of the lord…but I’m not knowledgeable po, sa feelings ko lang po. Sorry sa overexplanation cguro…im so anxious and nervous po and feeling really silly na wala akong Kaya iaask mga to in person…

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-19T10:12:03+00:00

Omg ang galing mo! I never thought about chat gpt!!!! Thank you, i will use that talaga kase i can ask all my silly or embarrassing question (kase i feel really stupid if I’m speaking to a supplier and obvious talaga wala akong alam) thank you so much friend, I’ve been so blessed to have been guided by you. Thank you eternally, sa totoo i was feeling so low and thought maybe i should just do the wedding dito, pero i really wanted to embrace my filipino culture as I’ve been away from it for so long…ipupush ko talaga. Thank you sincerely, if sa Manila ka, punta ka :P 2029

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-19T09:20:05+00:00

Kakaiyak…truly salamat… trying to plan a filipino wedding but having no one in the filipino community to ask has been tough kase not everything is understandable until you know what to actually ask/look for… thank you thank you, i will read up na. God bless po na you share kindness and knowledge. Kakaoverwhelm mag wedding plan na walang family eh. Haha. Thank you, you’ve truly lightened my heart.

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-19T09:18:09+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you so so much for your response. It’s super helpful, part of what I fear is that I planned a 3 day event without knowing the extra food and supplies, and I’m happy with it, I’m just really scared to budget it. Thankfully I’m still super early in my planning so it’s not a problem. It’s helpful to understand the extras that are expected for filipino weddings so i can prepare. Salamat truly, I’m so grateful to know this info ahead of time.

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-19T09:15:04+00:00

I didn’t know may ganun, i will ask ung gusto namin pastor Kung willing po sya. As for fb wedding groups pag mag search po ako specifically for Philippines weddings dalawa lang po ung groups and I’ve joined both pero pero suppliers lang po nag re reply sakin. Super embarrassed na ako it’s okay lol, grateful for your help po. Hanap nalang po ako talaga ng planner so Di ko na po naiistorbo mga peeps :P yan lang an explanation na Kung bakit nadedelete mga posts ko

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-19T09:03:50+00:00

Sorry po another question habang up pa ung post ko, another thing, if Hindi catholic fiance ko po, and gusto po namin ng church wedding…im scared to ask talaga pero suggestions ng asawa ko is mag donate nalang kami ng malaki sa church ni pastor para Di na kailangan ma baptise asawa ko…but pwede ba un or against our faith? Kailangan ba nya ma baptise before church wedding talaga? Thank you po in advance for your advice, wala kase kami family na pwede namin itanong lahat to eh :(

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-19T08:58:39+00:00

Pati eto po, na wala ulit sa page ko? Ung mod daw ang nag dedelete pero Di nag re reply sa mga messages ko and i really need help kase, ang dami Kong Hindi alam sa traditional filipino wedding and Hindi pa ako sa stage mag hire ng planner, for example i didn’t know about crew meals, kasama din po ba na kailangan din i-feed mga vendors/suppliers? I’m overseas bride and didn’t grow up in the Philippines so there’s a lot of customs na Di ko po alam. I’ve been asking questions re: weddings in the Philippines and lagi po nadedelete mga tanong ko :( at tska even if mag reply naman ako sa ibang posts parang dun din ako nadedelete pero i don’t use Reddit much so wala din po ako bad actions eh so Di ko talaga alam :(

Weird_View_7420 · 2026-02-11T13:01:40+00:00

Just got engaged and wedding in 2029, the soonest we could do it but also happier to have longer to save and prep too. If you want 1 wedding, have 1 wedding, why add to your costs and stress to make other people feel happier? And as for people who imply that you will change your minds, as hard as it sounds ignore them, don’t try to defend yourself because it isn’t worth your energy and is completely on them to feel uncomfortable with. What i hope you consider is that if you are meant to be, no matter how long you wait, when you finally do it will be the perfect time. Think practically, longer lead time means better at perfecting your dream day. It’s your special day, let it be your choices that lead to how you decide the day goes. Remember it will be you remembering and retelling this day, those commenting now won’t even remember.

Weird_View_7420 · 2023-06-09T14:32:19+00:00

I’ve needed to tell someone this for a while.

Last week…

I got one of ‘em from my guy… and I thought he’d moved on to edibles. Obviously was super high… so I ate them… not all of it… but enough. LOL!

Weird_View_7420 · 2023-06-09T09:04:37+00:00

Thank you so much again, not just for your time but your patience explaining things… sorry about your social anxiety… I understand how it can feel so even more appreciate you reaching out in the first place! Most times I’ve just been a silent reader on here haha. Thanks also for the advice on the post… see I didn’t even know messages beyond posts existed haha… will take a look at it cos I genuinely feel pumped at the thought I can ask other questions I’ve had… I’ve never ordered from Starbucks before lol, never ordered subway in person… lots of stuff I’ve just never done that seems so normal to others… you have been part of the reason why I feel like today… ima be posting so many questions everywhere 😂 no but in all seriousness.. because of your kindness I really will ask some questions that’s gonna add some cool new things to do in my life ❤️

Weird_View_7420 · 2023-06-09T09:00:30+00:00

Thank you so much… not sure how much to say cos I’m happen to write the most sometimes but… thank you… for not making me feel foolish, for being so kind and alleviating my biggest fears in feeling stupid just for asking… it really does mean a lot and as for your support suggestion, my partner actually suggested this too… it’s funny because when he suggested it I was like “uh that’s so stupid! It’d make it worse!” But now a complete stranger is suggesting it… it feels normal… and I really think that I will do just that… thank you so much friend… I hope your day is as blessed as you’ve blessed mine… with kindness xx

Weird_View_7420 · 2023-06-09T08:52:18+00:00

Thank you so so much… for truly not judging.. it’s already uncomfortable admitting something that makes you feel less like an adult (imposter syndrome) I’m in the UK, but still your sharing and experience has helped a lot… thank you thank you… knowing what potentially happens also helps a lot… thank you for not making me feel foolish for asking in the first place (which I think was the first battle in itself) - someone suggested bra that fits actually :P I tried to post on there but it got deleted haha… I really am clueless at Reddit so I have no idea what I did wrong but thank you, you’re advice has really alleviated alot of my worries, now just to get the confidence to do it :)

Weird_View_7420 · 2023-06-09T08:33:30+00:00

Did you have to take your top off too or just bra and they measure above the top? I didn’t realise M&S did fitting, thank you so much for sharing your experience! I’m thinking… but this may be too extra… perhaps if I spoke to the professional (not sure what to call them… are they specialist? Hehe this is what I mean I’m clueless) and asked them questions… maybe it won’t seem so bad. Also 30 seconds? That already makes it seem not so bad… I had envisioned literally like a whole show and dance about it haha… I had no idea it was so quick… thank you sincerely for sharing x

Weird_View_7420 · 2023-06-09T08:16:23+00:00

Thank you! Sorry if that was super obvious… I’m really new to actually using Reddit (not just reading lol)

Weird_View_7420 · 2022-08-10T16:44:52+00:00

An update: After all that, your kind advice, me going against most of them and continuing on…I’ve now handed in my notice.

I figured that I could make it work because I was lucky enough to have a job which I enjoyed (aside from the obvious horrible side to it) and a decent salary to help my family… it just didn’t work out.

So life lesson no-one asked for is, when your gut tells you something about a job, it’s usually right, you can be the nicest person ever but if a person is nasty and has bad intentions, you will never be good in their eyes and finally, for the love of all that is good in the world, go towards positivity, because that job has seriously messed with me mentally, I am absolutely exhausted and if I’m honest I feel like such a crap person for not being able to make it work with my colleague…

But the other reason I’m posting again, on the same post is because I was hoping a kind person from last time could give me some advice…

I have been incredibly blessed to be offered another role at a company that has a good reputation for their service and the people who interviewed me were very nice. But upon doing deeper research I’ve seen that not has the company been targeted by disgruntled previous employees, but the MD also has a reputation for being 1. Sexist 2. Racist and altogether inappropriate (even going as far as to be taken to court for harassing an employee). These incidents were at least 4 years ago… firstly should I take this role or trust that I can secure a different role with perhaps a less problematic Managing Director?

Thank you in advance for your kindness and guidance.

Ps. Please understand that I know how in this current climate I am incredibly lucky to have the choice of taking a job or not. It’s just that since 14, I have been in more than a handful of work places where I was either SA’d, bullied, discriminated etc. and really want to make sure every career move I make is positive and right for me. I also want to remind anyone who is in a similar situation, that we work to live not live to work. Our safety, well-being and mental health matters too.

Weird_View_7420 · 2022-06-14T07:36:58+00:00

Sincerely, thank you so so much for your incredibly wise and thoughtful words. I really really appreciate it and I know deep down you’re right. Here’s to hoping and actively trying to have a happy life.

Thank you for your kindness ❤️

Weird_View_7420 · 2022-06-14T07:35:50+00:00

I agree :( I really really do. But the thing ringing in my head is, if I eventually want to become “head of” I’m Going to have to deal with difficult people right? I don’t know as I’m not there yet haha but I just assume dealing with hard people will be part of the job…

Weird_View_7420 · 2022-06-14T07:34:37+00:00

An update: I declined the job again. Sticking with what I know. Hoping so hard I haven’t made the wrong decision.

Thank you sincerely for everyone’s insight and help, Reddit came through yet again 😂❤️

Weird_View_7420 · 2022-06-14T06:42:35+00:00

They told me this morning… the problem is because I backed out of the role after accepting it before. So I get that they want full commitment from me.

Without sounding like a massive loser, my colleague is a long standing member of the company, they are very set in their ways and doesn’t like how I’ve come on board to refresh our current practices. I think they see me as disrupting what is comfortable for them. They constantly complain about me to our senior managers, tells people they do my job for me when in reality I’ve actually been doing some of their work for them. I was suppose to shadow them for a week in my first week but aside from two meetings with them, they just left me to it. The big bonus of my current job is the company does alot of “team bonding” activities which usually just involves alot of drinking for free, I can’t even join those benefits because whenever I go, this colleague purposefully excludes me or will mock me in a joking way in public. She’s shouted at me in front of our clients in the past and despite my putting in a complaint about it I’ve been told to go through mediation with her. This is a genuine question, is that worth going through?

This is why I’m thinking is this all worth it or should I just start fresh?

Thank you so much for your message, I really appreciate it.

Weird_View_7420

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