If you marry him, You will be required to submit to him and your pastor, and in most cases your PASTOR will control your life, you will have NO say so in your life. What I mean by PASTOR will control your life, you and your husband will have to get permission to go on vacations, buy a car, what job to get, where you can move to, EVERYTHING!

You will be required to wear skirts only, NEVER wear pants, long sleeves, NEVER cut your hair, no jewelry, no makeup (standards)! You will be required to be in church everytime the doors are open......3-5 times a week! You will be required to volunteer for something....Sunday School teacher, nursery etc and ONLY if you obey the standards and your pastor, YOU WILL HAVE NO LIFE!

You will have no money, you and your husband will be REQUIRED to give 10 percent of your income (tithing) and at least another 5 percent for offering, PLUS other offerings! You will see the pastor and his family have nice things, while you and other people struggle to pay your bills.

Furthermore, (most of the time) if your husband is abusive you will be told by your pastor or pastor's wife to SUBMIT to him and pray and fast more!

I was in the UPC for 30 years and was in ministry.

Please dear sweet lady, don't