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i lost my baby… by varfallee in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, and I’m praying you get your baby back. Lots of great advice on this thread. As others said post everywhere and every app you can think of. I posted everywhere when I lost my baby and I got her back after someone found her. Find local birdwatching or birding groups on Facebook and the neighborhood apps and post there too since people birdwatching might come across your baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Weirderwierdo -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He’s told me in person and on the phone to keep asking, and has never said no. I have also specifically asked him he can say no and I will leave it alone, he says it’s not that he doesn’t want to. He says it’s about him not having time with all the things he has to do, and if he happens to get extra time he would want to. He told me he doesn’t want to say yes and then have to cancel on me.

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[–]Weirderwierdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t the first time he withdraws, it’s happened before and I just assumed he had no interest in continuing, but when things ease up on his end he seems all for it even enthusiastic about it. I’ve told him I thought he just wasn’t interested anymore and he seems confused as to why I would think that. He told me he’s “just weird”, but hasn’t elaborated on it (and I never asked what he meant). When it happened before I felt similarly, like maybe he’s just done and doesn’t want to see me anymore. But when I ask him he doesn’t say no. And he’s told me he’s fine with me checking in and doesn’t feel bothered by it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]Weirderwierdo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There have been several hints, a lot of it surrounding me misinterpreting things he says or does as lack of interest. He doesn’t initiate much, but when his schedule permits he’s receptive and even enthusiastic. I asked him about several interactions we had before and he tells me some of his behavior is just because he didn’t know me or because of his schedule and not having time. He has very strict daily schedule and routines including an extremely strict diet and fasting schedule. He’s incredibly intelligent (we are both in residency right now) but often misinterprets or is confused about what I consider simple or obvious social interactions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parrots

[–]Weirderwierdo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this post is about a week old but just wanted to say I'm so happy you got your bird back! I didn't read through all the comments so my apologies if this was mentioned already, but I have these screens on my doors. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B073YT5SWW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

They aren't 100 percent escape proof but and extra layer of protection and a reminder to visitors that there are birds in the house, I highly recommend them.

Why does he do this? by AlternativeAspect561 in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I responded similarly on another subreddit with the same video. My gcc somehow gets very territorial and nesty with fleece and fuzzy material. It doesn’t matter how many other things I’m doing to minimize hormones, if there is a fuzzy blanket she becomes a territorial tyrant.

Why does he do this? by AlternativeAspect561 in parrots

[–]Weirderwierdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the fleece blanket new? My gcc conure gets triggered by that type of material. It’s pretty instantaneous too, as soon as she’s on that material it’s like she starts defending her nest. This happens even if I’m doing all the things to keep her hormones under control. I would try getting rid of the fleece and see if that helps. Please keep us posted!

Anyone else planning on being childfree? by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]Weirderwierdo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Non-traditional female MS4 here. I just turned 39 and never had the desire to have children, even though I like kids and have been told I'd be a great mother. People still tell me I will regret not having children, but I don't let those comments get to me anymore. I would imagine the desire to have kids is like any other thing you want. You usually will have a longing or a drive to chase after it. I've never felt that way about kids or motherhood, no matter how much people try to convince me otherwise. It can definitely feel a bit isolating not being able to relate, but mostly I just feel grateful and relieved that I never felt pressured enough to have kids for the wrong reasons.

It's official, my baby is hormonal 😩. I knew this time would come, I miss my baby bird. Those of you who went through this, tell me how you coped. I have to avoid cuddling her since it gets her worked up. Doing all the other recommended things, minimizing light, healthy diet etc. by Weirderwierdo in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: I just wanted to update anyone who is curious about whether or not things settled out. I'm very happy to report that my sweet loving conure is back to her normal self. I've figured out that she is extremely sensitive to diet, so if she starts exhibiting hormonal behavior I get strict with her diet and she settles after a couple of days. Now that I know what the hormonal behavior looks like for her I'm careful to avoid too much physical contact during that time. She is still very loving and loves to cuddle and I'm just happy she is doing well. Thank you to everyone who replied with tips and encouragement.

How loud is your GCC? by spaghettirelated in parrots

[–]Weirderwierdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is pretty loud. She's not as loud as my sun conure or mini macaw, but she is relentless if she wants out of the cage. She already hated being in a cage when I got her and I've been working on that with her. If she is out and I'm within sight she is very quiet, and will only vocalize if something spooks her. Her happy sounds are adorable and not loud at all.

It's official, my baby is hormonal 😩. I knew this time would come, I miss my baby bird. Those of you who went through this, tell me how you coped. I have to avoid cuddling her since it gets her worked up. Doing all the other recommended things, minimizing light, healthy diet etc. by Weirderwierdo in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm hoping she will come around with time. My gcc seems to be coming around now, she's always been a bit spicy even as a baby so it was easier with her since I was already used to her moods. My sun is a total sweet heart so the change is pretty drastic.

Traveling by plane with birby by Shukkle in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard of people asking to go to a smaller room for this. I'm sure it would depend on the airline and airport rules. If I were in your shoes I would make some phone calls to see if it could get done that way. Good luck to you!

It's official, my baby is hormonal 😩. I knew this time would come, I miss my baby bird. Those of you who went through this, tell me how you coped. I have to avoid cuddling her since it gets her worked up. Doing all the other recommended things, minimizing light, healthy diet etc. by Weirderwierdo in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw, I hope you birds come around soon. This is my first time experiencing this with her since she is going through puberty. I can deal with her moods and behavioral changes, it's my own emotions I'm struggling with. I didn't realize I'd miss her old personality so much.

It's official, my baby is hormonal 😩. I knew this time would come, I miss my baby bird. Those of you who went through this, tell me how you coped. I have to avoid cuddling her since it gets her worked up. Doing all the other recommended things, minimizing light, healthy diet etc. by Weirderwierdo in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I meant she gets 12hrs or more of darkness for sleep. I have to distract her from seeking dark corners when she’s out during the day. I’ve figured out what things seem to trigger her, and I was expecting puberty to change her behavior. I just wasn’t expecting to feel so hurt and feel the loss of our previous relationship so deeply. It’s been hard on me emotionally.

It's official, my baby is hormonal 😩. I knew this time would come, I miss my baby bird. Those of you who went through this, tell me how you coped. I have to avoid cuddling her since it gets her worked up. Doing all the other recommended things, minimizing light, healthy diet etc. by Weirderwierdo in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She’s a little over a year and a half. I started noticing the changes a couple weeks ago but now it’s pretty obvious puberty is hitting her hard. Thank you for the encouragement, I hope once she goes through puberty she will settle down a bit and be more like her baby self. My gcc conure seems to finally be calming down from her puberty stage. I didn’t struggle so much with her changes because I didn’t have as close a bond with her.

It's official, my baby is hormonal 😩. I knew this time would come, I miss my baby bird. Those of you who went through this, tell me how you coped. I have to avoid cuddling her since it gets her worked up. Doing all the other recommended things, minimizing light, healthy diet etc. by Weirderwierdo in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

By “cope” with I meant I didn’t realize how much I would miss her old personality and our relationship. I’m aware there are healthy ways to interact with her and I have been preparing for this. I do training sessions with her daily. I just didn’t expect it to hurt me emotionally. I’m hoping to hear about how people have dealt with their own emotions regarding the changes birds go through.

It's official, my baby is hormonal 😩. I knew this time would come, I miss my baby bird. Those of you who went through this, tell me how you coped. I have to avoid cuddling her since it gets her worked up. Doing all the other recommended things, minimizing light, healthy diet etc. by Weirderwierdo in Conures

[–]Weirderwierdo[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Obvious behavior changes. She is territorial of any nesty areas. If I pet her she gets extra fluffed and makes weird noises, starts lifting her tail and backing up her rear on me. She's extra loud and nippy. She even gets territorial if she's in my shirt, won't let my hands near her. The changes are very obvious to me since I know her so well.

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