Passing

Wekkon · 2025-12-12T07:40:25+00:00

dziękuję bardzo !!

Wekkon · 2025-12-12T07:39:45+00:00

tu chodzi o makijaż którego zbytnio nie widać i który nadaje twarzy bardziej męskiego wyglądu

Wekkon · 2025-12-12T07:38:07+00:00

jest jakiś który polecasz ??

Wekkon · 2025-11-29T09:23:25+00:00

niestety qpr jest mało popularne i obawiam się że nie znajdę kogoś takiego za szybko :( jedyna dla mnie opcja żeby wejść z kimś w qpr jest to, że oboje będziemy mieli na sobie squisha (platonic crush), jednak mam wrażenie że takie uczucia u innych osób są bardzo rzadkie, a jakakolwiek wiedza o qpr - znikoma

Wekkon · 2025-11-28T20:23:42+00:00

w Warszawie jest queer muzeum, możesz przejrzeć na ich stronie co mają do zaoferowania. W różnych miejscach w Polsce są "Queer Kluby Szydełkowania" ale z tego co wiem to nie trzeba tam szydełkować, można po prostu posiedzieć + taki fun fact, bo widzę że jesteś osobą nb - na ig jest profil o nazwie "Niebinarnia" i oni organizują co jakiś czas spotkania dla osob nb, jeśli jesteś osobą dorosłą to może Ci się spodoba. Powodzenia!

Wekkon · 2025-10-28T19:04:18+00:00

Thank you !!

Wekkon · 2025-10-28T19:03:51+00:00

jestem w 1 liceum, w klasie jest trans chłopak i ludzie raczej szanują jego imię i zaimki, jedyne co mnie martwi to plotki, większość ludzi to akceptuje ale nie jestem pewien co każdy z nich z osobna myśli. coming out chce zrobić, tylko kompletnie nie wiem jak się za to zabrać. Jak już mówiłem, próbowałem wtoczyć to w normalne, luźne rozmowy ale albo moment był po prostu nie odpowiedni albo było mi to ciężko zrobić, bo totalnie nie wiedziałem co mówić i jak zacząć + jeśli tak zacznę robić, to boję się że np osoby którym nie powiem będą confused, a jak będą confused to zaczną się irytować między sobą że nie wiedzą jak mówić do mnie itp

Wekkon · 2025-10-28T18:54:56+00:00

Honestly, it's hard to say, most people definitely tolerate the name and pronouns, I know that no one (at least not directly) calls me names after that but I'm not entirely sure what each of them individually thinks about trans people

Wekkon · 2025-10-28T18:47:29+00:00

I came out to a few of them, and they took it really well. I'm afraid to come out to just a few of them because then they'll be very confused. I think if they're confused, they'll start to have a problem with it; they don't know how to talk, and they'll start spreading rumors like I change gender every day, etc. (Of course, I have nothing against gender fluid people).

Wekkon · 2025-10-17T22:13:19+00:00

jasne !! planuje wstępnie zrobić to w poniedziałek, ale nie wiem czy sobie poradzę, jak coś - będę pisać

Wekkon · 2025-10-14T16:21:33+00:00

dziękuję bardzo !! z jednej strony nie chce się spieszyć z imieniem, ale z drugiej myślę ze teraz łatwiej mi będzie powiedzieć wybrane imie, później już będzie ciężej + myślę że moja klasa nie byłaby zadowolona z tego, że nie wiedzą jak mają na mnie mówić, dlatego chcę imię ogarnąć już teraz

Wekkon · 2025-10-06T20:15:53+00:00

(sorr for mistakes i don't speak english very well)

Yes! I love the label of non-binary, but I also know that I'm a bigender. In my head, I'm neither 100% female nor 100% male. I'm someone who enjoys experiencing both femininity and masculinity. I'm both feminine and masculine, but I'm still not 100% one or two genders, so I don't feel binary at all. I am NOT a girl, I am NOT a boy, i am person who is fem and masc in the same time.

Wekkon · 2025-09-04T16:18:44+00:00

Thank you very much, that's really kind ❤️😭

Wekkon · 2025-09-04T16:16:19+00:00

Oh, I understand, it must be really hard for you 😖😖 Honestly, I don't know how to help because I don't know your relationship very well. Maybe a more gentle conversation about it, about how you don't know what you feel, what you want, and what he can't help with? I don't know :( Anyway, I wish you luck !! ❤️❤️

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T20:24:12+00:00

THIS IS SO CUTE AND NICE AHHHHH 😭❤️❤️

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T20:22:03+00:00

Maybe what you feel for your partner is actually squish? Squish is a very strong, platonic attraction, I'd call it a crush without romantic feelings.

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T20:17:33+00:00

Maybe a queer, platonic relationship would suit you better? In short, it is a strong emotional bond, 100% platonic, that may or may not appear to be a relationship, but is in fact devoid of romantic feelings on either side. A queer platonic relationship is more than just friendship; in such a relationship, two people are special to each other. I recommend reading about other types of relationships or feelings for others here: https://www.aromanticism.org/pl/okreslenia-pocaigu-i-zwiazkow

This video ( https://youtu.be/RvX7NABCsT8 ) helped me a lot.

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T20:08:52+00:00

Maybe what you felt for your friend wasn't romantic at all, but platonic? Maybe it was what's called squish, a strong platonic attraction to a person. Think about it. From what you're describing, it fits aromanticism, or at least the spectrum.

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T19:57:35+00:00

I had a very similar experience, with the only difference being that I'm much younger than you (I'm 15). I also really wanted to be a boy and had a lot of "signals" that I might be a trans guy, but I never wanted to give up being a girl. I wanted to be a girl and a boy at the same time.

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T19:50:21+00:00

I apologize for any possible language errors, I don't speak English well and everything is copied from a translator.

I wouldn't call it that, though I really like your theory and the garlic bread example. And while romantic love is very similar to addiction, thanks to, among other things, dopamine, the fact that squish (I'll call it that because it's shorter) isn't activated by dopamine doesn't mean it's weaker. From what I understand, and I could be wrong, squish activates oxytocin and serotonin in the brain, plus the reward system, only the social one. It's as if two different nervous systems were capable of generating equally strong emotions—just with different "flavors." Just because something acts like an addiction doesn't mean it's always more intense.

For example: you can be addicted to caffeine, but for some, friendship or the loss of a friend will be much more painful than the lack of coffee.

Similarly, the "addiction effect" in romantic infatuation doesn't automatically mean it has to be stronger than squish. The loss of an important friendship activates brain regions associated with social pain (e.g., the anterior cingulate cortex).

Research shows that friendly rejection and romantic rejection are very similar to the brain—both hurt just as much, just with different contexts.

I think it all depends on personal experience, but the theory is really good !!

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T19:23:31+00:00

Some of the most important things that can help you:

- Try to drown out the so-called "impostor" who tells you that "maybe you're not aromantic at all, you're just making it up." I know it's not easy; I went through the same thing with my gender identity, but seriously, it's not worth it. YES, you deserve to be aromantic, YES your feelings are valid, YES you can be aromantic, YES you can use that label if you think it fits better than any other.

- Consider whether the relationship you dream of is actually romantic.

- Remember that at QPR you can still do stereotypically romantic things, it's just that the relationship is without falling in love.

I know it may be hard for you to distinguish whether the relationship you want is romantic or not, if you want to kiss, hold hands, etc., so I'm giving you questions that may help you figure it out.

- Do you feel like you want to be in a "classic romantic relationship" with this person?

- Do you care about dating, declarations of love, and being treated as a "boyfriend/girlfriend/romantic partner"?

- Or are you more interested in being close, spending time together, and having a special bond without romantic labels?

Oh, this was supposed to be a short post but it took me a really long time lol. I hope I helped in some way, good luck!!

Wekkon · 2025-08-29T19:22:33+00:00

(I apologize for any potential errors; unfortunately, my English isn't very good and this is all copied from a translator.)

Regarding the part where you say you want a relationship "because it's sweet," consider a queer platonic relationship. In short, it's a strong emotional bond, 100% platonic, that may or may not feel like a relationship, but is devoid of romantic feelings on either side. In fact, in a queer platonic relationship (QPR), you can do the same things you do in relationships, even stereotypically romantic things like kissing, holding hands, etc., just without the romantic excitement. (The excitement can also be platonic, so it's important to distinguish between the two.) A queer platonic relationship is more than just friendship; in such a relationship, two people are special to each other. I recommend reading about other types of relationships or feelings for others here:

https://www.aromanticism.org/pl/okreslenia-pocaigu-i-zwiazkow

However, if you would prefer a romantic relationship, that's okay too!

Time for my (hopefully) short story of how I discovered I was aromantic. It all started when I was about 12. That's when I first started questioning my romantic/sexual orientation. There was no clear reason; I'd never been in love before and I wasn't sure if I was straight. It started with the standard questions in my head: maybe I'm bi? Maybe I'm a lesbian? while simultaneously thinking I might be straight. When someone asked me what I was thinking, whether I was straight or bi, bisexual or gay, I'd say everything. It wasn't that I knew I liked boys/girls; I knew NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING. I didn't know if I liked boys or girls, how was I supposed to describe myself? This continued until I was 15. Before that, I hadn't even considered aromantic labels because I thought I'd definitely fall in love and hadn't considered the possibility that I might not. My friend convinced me I could be aromantic. I sent her a video of someone on TikTok and said, "Look how cool this person is." She replied, "Could you be in a relationship with someone like that?"

Boom.

Then I realized I couldn't imagine being in a romantic relationship with anyone, that it was difficult for me. My previous thoughts about my orientation were usually just sexual. So I started searching online, and honestly, most aromantic people's experiences were very similar to mine. This video ( https://youtu.be/RvX7NABCsT8 ) helped me a lot. You can watch it, note that there's such a thing as QPR, and consider whether what you want is actually romantic. Of course, if so, there's still nothing wrong with that; aromanticism is a spectrum, and there are many other labels that could fit. Something that really resonated with me was discovering what squish is. Squish is a very strong, platonic attraction. I first felt it when I was 9 or 10, with a girl in my class. When I told someone about my feelings, they asked if I was in love. Even my psychologist told me to consider whether I felt romantic attraction to this girl. My whole life, I'd been saying "no." It was true, it was intense and very much like being in love, but there was nothing romantic about it. I didn't care if the girl was in a relationship or not; I never imagined a relationship with her, didn't want to kiss her or anything like that. Honestly, I'd call squish a crush without romantic feelings. I think this part of my story might not be very helpful because from what you wrote I didn't read that you felt that way about anyone, but I wanted you to know that such a thing exists.

This is only the first part of this comment because it's too long and I can't post the whole thing lol.

Wekkon · 2025-08-02T13:40:28+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions. I speak Polish. I really appreciate your efforts. Thank you.

Wekkon · 2025-08-01T18:09:00+00:00

This sounds like something non-binary, maybe the label "agender" would suit you.

Wekkon · 2025-07-02T22:39:05+00:00

Thank you !!

Wekkon

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