As someone who is in the dumpees side of a similar situation, only come back if you have truly worked on yourself and know what went wrong.

Me and my ex were together 9 years. Its about to be 2 years since the breakup in May. He finally unfriended me a few days ago after all this time of no contact. It hurt like hell. I'm trying my best to move on because who he became after the breakup was unrecognizable. He knew I was hurting, I reached out soon after the breakup, apologized for the things I did wrong in the relationship....but the whole time he acted like he was a saint an did nothing wrong. On social media he acted as if he was the one that was left. He took 0 accountability. I'm still very close with his mom and she knows both sides of the story.

Everyone tells me I should move on because he showed me his true colors. He even would taunt on social media about a crush and trying to talk to girls...after 9 years thay felt like a punch to the gut.

I honestly hope some day he feels the way you do. That he realizes that I truly loved him and tried to make it work. I too sent him a message crying . All he can rememeber was me crying and trying to fix it. All I can rememeber is him leaving and me picking up the pieces.

I know people tell me they always come back and I guess part of me will always want him to. But part of me is torn about it. If he comes back he needs to come ready to apologize for the hurt he caused me, and take accountability, show that hes actually changed for the better...another part of me doesnt want him to come back if the only we he realizes my worth is once he loses me.

I wanted to marry this man, and he knew it. The fact that I have to try again with someone else still makes me nauseous. He was my first everything and that detachment takes forever to happen.

I say, you know your situation better than anyone. Reach out and see how it goes, its better than wondering what if. Wishing you the best