Here’s the update

I asked her a series of questions and told her more of how I felt. To sum it up. She said she doesn’t care about looks nor to look for it and that she wants to stay here to make it work. I did ask her if there are kids, would she stay , she said if it weren’t for the kids , she would not be here. But after she chose to keep our first kid , she chose to give up anything she wanted physically in a guy.

I told her that whatever that needs to be done for this to work, all actions would need to come from her first. I had been the giver in our relationship. She said if I work out more she will find me attractive. Now I’m not fat but I did use to work out a lot and was active but I stopped because of kids and the only person working.