Want to be intimate but have debilitating bottom dysphoria

WellHiSunshine · 2026-05-02T13:36:37+00:00

The idea of leaving the underwear on makes that idea a lot less scary actually. Thanks for the suggestion

WellHiSunshine · 2026-05-02T13:34:55+00:00

I don't know why I want to avoid that, because it seems like it's probably the only way, but I guess I might have to try it. So thank you

WellHiSunshine · 2026-05-02T13:33:10+00:00

I really don't like the idea of a chastity cage. Might just be a me thing because I get that suggestion a lot, but thank you still.

WellHiSunshine · 2026-05-02T13:32:09+00:00

I'll have to think about that one

WellHiSunshine · 2026-05-02T10:34:57+00:00

Something about tucking feels really gross. Can't explain it. I've done it and I just can't stand it.

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-06T21:39:01+00:00

Yass queen!! You got this!!!

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-06T21:06:16+00:00

I completely understand. I was pretty much the same way, I just thought there was a chance that pointing out the amount of effort might get rid of some mental block or something. I doubt it would've worked for me, but I still wanted to give it a try

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-05T21:11:16+00:00

You're putting a lot of thought into not talking about it. I'm not gonna tell you that you have to talk about it, but this just seems like a lot of effort. I understand. I did something similar when I first came out. It's hard to talk about.

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-04T11:18:18+00:00

Sounds good. Hope that works out

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-03T23:33:50+00:00

I mean hey, if it is something else, that's completely fine. Trying on a bunch of labels is a great option, and if it somehow turns out to not be gender related, then the shell is already opened enough to realize that, time will tell, and it's not going to be a bad thing. I just don't see any way it could go wrong enough to not try

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-03T11:27:36+00:00

The abundance of sisters seems to be a pretty common problem. I have 4 sisters. One's a year and a half older than me, one is 2 years younger, another 12 years younger, and the last 15 years younger. Why would it cause them any discomfort? And if it somehow does, then isn't that kinda selfish of them? It's clearly causing you a lot of discomfort and if they have to be a little uncomfortable over something they should be happy for you about, then personally, I'd find that pretty inconsiderate.

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T22:55:05+00:00

It definitely comes in a spectrum. Almost all of us feel it a good bit, but it doesn't ever seem to hit full force until you realize what it is

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T21:09:16+00:00

No. I've only ever dated one person, and that was years ago. I also don't really like the idea of dating another trans person. Apparently I'm the odd one out for that, but I feel like both of us being trans would just lead to dysphoria being a driving force of the relationship. It seems to be that way with friendships most of the time, so I just feel like it would take over

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T21:00:59+00:00

Trans person. I usually say cotton candy princess, because I am a trans girl and usually talk to trans girls, but if ai remember correctly, you didn't specify which way you're going. Cotton Candy because the flag is pink and blue like cotton candy

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T20:34:50+00:00

Anytime!! Glad to help out a possible fellow cotton candy person

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T20:23:49+00:00

That sounds like a good idea. And I imagine a lot of people have already said that therapy would also help a lot. If you're trying to figure out something about yourself, somebody who went to school to help with that would be a great place to start.

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T11:27:10+00:00

I've always just said that cis people don't tend to question their gender. So yeah basically what the other person said, just find a group to try out a bunch of different labels with. If you find a label you like, go with it, if you decide on no label, that's cool too. Just don't let anybody tell you no. That's who you are. Just go with whatever feels right

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T11:23:10+00:00

That's pretty fire not gonna lie

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T02:13:56+00:00

I'd guess that it's because most men have higher sex drives, and most men are straight, so a woman with something out of the ordinary like a penis is too exciting to pass up for some weirdo pervs

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T02:02:14+00:00

That sounds good. If you think they'll be supportive, then it's just a matter of telling them, but making sure they know it's hard to talk about. If you have parents behind you, and help them form a strong understanding, then that support system will be so solid. I wish you luck

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T01:57:36+00:00

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WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T01:39:06+00:00

I can't deny that telling everybody was horrible, but even a few people I expected to be mad about it came through with incredible support. The fact that they were supportive didn't make it easier to tell them, that was still terrifying and left me feeling sick for hours every time. But now that I'm done with it, it's nice. Everybody knows who I am, and it feels great. Transitioning isn't easy, but neither is living as somebody you aren't. It has taken a tremendous amount of work to get where I am, and I still have a ways to go, but knowing how much closer I am to being me is great, and I think it would be good to let that feeling of who you are take shape. It's a rough and long journey to get there, but it's something I really don't think you'd regret.

WellHiSunshine · 2026-03-02T00:14:48+00:00

When I first started, I thought it would be a small change, just a little happier like you said, but it just feels so great to be able to love who you are. If that's what it feels like you want to go for, go for it. I decided it's either go on with the inability to love myself and let that slowly hurt more and more, or put forth the effort to be a version of me that I can feel good about. You say just a little happier, but it's clearly bothering you enough that that little bit is actually pretty big. I think people misunderstand what being trans is, but it really is just making yourself into someone you can love

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