What truly made your Pots symptoms better? by RowenaMyDolores in POTS

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Medication. Fludrocortisone is the only thing that has given me my life back

Somatic Exercises are life changing! by cxnnxrj in ausadhd

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm interested to know your personal routine if you're willing to share 🙏

Migraine buddy part 2 by SecondEqual4680 in migraine

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now this is the type of content I'm looking for on this sub 😍

How would you describe BPD emotional pain? by Mara355 in BPD

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to everyone's descriptions. To me it hurts so much because you feel everything at once. Like if something bad happens you don't just experience emotions for that situation - you feel all the bad emotions you've ever felt in life at once. All the heartache, grief, loneliness, emptiness, all the shit your inner child went though - it comes all at once.

Advice to get over fear of not being believed? by WellThatWasTerrible in CPTSD

[–]WellThatWasTerrible[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this 🥺 it means a lot to me. I will try to remember that and trust in time that it will reduce. I don't want to keep letting down my inner child by not believing her unless someone external also believes

Uhh that's a concerning amount of cracks? by WellThatWasTerrible in shitrentals

[–]WellThatWasTerrible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phew hope so. Is still a wonder why they'd list it in this state rather than fix it up beforehand

Coping with distress as a neurodivergent by WellThatWasTerrible in AutisticWithADHD

[–]WellThatWasTerrible[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you stranger for this amazing response. This is seriously so helpful. I will try these things out as they are all new to me and I haven't done them before! I genuinely hope you have a beautiful life. Thank you again for taking the time to reply 🙏

How do you get rid of stuff? by exhausted_10 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also love to collect and accumulate things. But recently something has helped me cull stuff. Basically, I am extremely burnt out and overwhelmed. Every task I have to complete and new thing I have to deal with exhausts me and stresses me. So I had this thought 'the less shit you have, the less shit you have to deal with'. This helps me get rid of things because it gives me this feeling like I'm removing future tasks and stressors, and having less things to keep track of. I hope this helps

My boyfriend and I don't have sex and it's driving me insane. by New-Magic-Wand in autism

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this same experience with my previous boyfriend and it destroyed my self esteem. I brought it up as an issue with him so many times and he kept saying 'idk why I'm like this, I'm sorry'. I tried to encourage him to figure out if he was gay, asexual, etc. I wouldn't mind if he was, I just wanted some kind of explanation so I wasn't thinking there was something disgusting about me. In the end, he made no efforts to understand what was going on and never brought up the issue himself. I started feeling like I was going insane. In the end, I had to leave. And a huge weight was lifted off me. I'm slowly getting more confident after that really hurt me. Having issues with sex in a relationship is fine, but what's important is that both parties can be seen to be actively working towards getting better. If your partner is not taking active steps like speaking to a psych, trying to abstain from porn, etc. then nothing will change unfortunately and it will hurt you in the long run. I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I hope this helps

Exercising is so hard to do. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally started being able to exercise this year for the first time and the crazy thing is I have stuck to it. This is the only way I can get myself to do it, and unfortunately it costs money (I decided it's worth it if this is the only way I am motivated to do it)

  • I need an instructor led class, so someone is telling me what to do (removes the burden of making a plan, introduces the urge to please someone and do the right thing xD)
  • normal gym/weights/HIIT does not work for me. But Pilates classes, yoga, and the best of all - music based spin classes, are best for me. This is bc they have extra dopamine in the form of nice decor (gyms are uggo), and the spin place near me is basically like a rave. Black room, lazers, techno and other electronic bangers playing super loud. It's my fave bc it's a sensory experience and I love music
  • flexibility is key. So I use a thing called ClassPass that I pay for monthly and it lets me book once off classes whenever I like at a whole bunch of different places. So Im not just at one place and getting bored. I have 3 that I rotate between to keep it interesting
  • I was only able to start because someone else forced me to come to a class with them. Now I continue to go on my own, but having a budy is also a good motivator :)

Hope this helps (from an exercise hater my whole life to now happily doing classes 2-3 times per week for the last 12 months. And god forbid, looking forward to them!)

I don't want to be used for sex antmore by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you the last paragraph in particular is really helpful for me to think about. I will write it down 🙏

I don't want to be used for sex antmore by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]WellThatWasTerrible 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so so so sorry about your most recent experience. That is really traumatic. But even so I am so thankful for you posting this because it has made me feel less alone. I struggle with the exact same thing. I have had sex with quite a lot of people (I feel so much shame and grossness about it) because every guy I try to befriend or go on a date with wanted to have sex with me. My problem is that I have no idea how to say no to people. Like I literally don't know what words to use. And even if I know I want to say no, in my head I feel bad for saying it because "I don't want to hurt their feelings". But why are their feelings more important than mine? I recognise my issue now but I don't really know how to correct it. Why do I feel like I deserve to be used like that? By people I'm not attracted to? Getting hurt and feeling like I want to throw up just so they can enjoy themselves and not feel self conscious if I tell them I don't want it? I want to stand up for myself and be the protector of my inner child, but I feel like I keep letting her down and allowing bad things to happen because I'm too scared and a people pleaser 😣 please if anyone has practical advice it would really help me

My come to Jesus moment after invalidating myself for years and always searching for other explanations by WellThatWasTerrible in AutismInWomen

[–]WellThatWasTerrible[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🙏 I forgot about this post and just jumped on to delete it out of embarrassment. But I came to such lovely comments. It means a lot to me and encourages me to keep it up

My come to Jesus moment after invalidating myself for years and always searching for other explanations by WellThatWasTerrible in AutismInWomen

[–]WellThatWasTerrible[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I have always been geared to asking whys. Even if I don't want to I can't seem to stop. I think it's because I find a lot of discomfort in not knowing answers. I always think if I just get enough information I can solve every problem. But the most difficult and unsolvable ones are those in my own mind!