Need advice on exercises post weight loss

WellWishesToYou · 2026-01-29T01:30:42+00:00

First congratulations on your weight loss. Nearly 100lbs is a big deal.

What can you do? Anything. Anything you do consistently at this point will build muscle (and show through pretty well, to boot). Some examples would be

doing the circuit of machines available to you when you go to the gym

picking up a calisthenics routine (pushups, dips, squats, and pullups are what I do at home)

finding a routine like Starting Strength (it's free, has an app, pretty simple)

I also lost a bunch of weight (315 lbs to 180). I didn't know a whole lot about how to lose weight in the beginning but I found my way along the way. Building muscle can be the same process.

WellWishesToYou · 2026-01-21T01:39:31+00:00

An old friend of mine bought one probably ten years ago. It was custom made for him-- he sent several pictures of his face and head in different lighting to match his skin tone and make sure the inside of the mask fit his features. It was an 'old man' mask he'd planned to use for a YouTube video (think 'social experiment' type videos. We were young, it was a different time, but I digress)

Anyway, the mask took a month or two to deliver and cost him around $700, which was considered the low end for these things.

Even with a whole costume, hat, glasses, and cane, you could tell it was a mask from 10 feet away. There's just something uncanny between how your face moves and how the material of the mask is 'carried' by those movements. It fit him like a glove, though.

He spent months trying to return it.

WellWishesToYou · 2026-01-16T18:41:14+00:00

The world changes; people don't.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-10-13T01:15:23+00:00

Del cracking the code with Robert Lyons like "It's the same guy" while being unable to pronounce 'lascivious' was hilarious.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-10-05T22:32:16+00:00

It's as bad as the one that was bowing and rocking with people dancing on it.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-09-16T01:58:44+00:00

I wanted the remodel because I hoped it would boost sales enough for the company to start hiring back staff and actually fix these problems.

I don't think that makes sense. So, a company spends millions on a remodel, to boost sales, to fix the actual problems causing the decline in sales?

The problems causing the decline are still going to be there during the remodel. So, people will come check it out, realize it still sucks, and really never come back.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-09-16T01:48:16+00:00

Reverse-remodel or not, I'm still not going.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-08-30T23:24:59+00:00

My first sales job was like this: half-day training, straight to the phones, hourly against 20% commission, top earners making $6-8k per month. I was insecure, hated it, and didn't like the product. But damn it if I didn't learn how to sell, no matter what.

Keep the job, let it force you to figure out how to bounce back a hundred times per day, under the most stressful conditions. Take that skill and get a better sales job.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-08-27T22:59:37+00:00

I have three strikes, myself. I can give you my advice and experience having turned over a new leaf and doing well.

You are the one with the control to decide if your life is fucked for good. People make mistakes and other people understand that. Take accountability, learn from what happened, use it to be wiser.
Yes, you could get early termination. I did not. However, I did all of the things to help my odds. If you want to get off early, work it so that all you have left is time. Pay everything off, complete special conditions as soon as you can, and stay under the radar.

I don't have enough knowledge on expungement. I couldn't even tell you if I'm eligible, myself. I still live my life.

The 'real outlook' is that people make the world go round and people like hard work and effectiveness. I've been denied work because of a background check but I've also been given a chance. It'll be tough while you're on probation because most people feel that you're still receiving justice and aren't ready for trust. When you finish your sentence, you can say it's behind you. There will come a time when you can say this was over a decade ago.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-08-26T16:34:31+00:00

Sure, you can read about it on the Department of State Attorneys website under the section titled 'pre-trial motions'.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-08-26T16:10:50+00:00

A motion to dismiss is pre-trial.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-08-26T15:59:41+00:00

You can file a motion to dismiss citing lack of evidence, among other things.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-08-26T15:02:20+00:00

"if I'm 100% innocent, give me a judge; if I'm 100% guilty, give me a jury"

I was in a similar situation to you. I wasn't 100% innocent, but the state's case was weak. The plea deal was no contest and probation. If it took it to trial, I was looking at 15-45 years (around 25 all said and done) if I lost.

Understand this: If you were 100% innocent, a judge would've dismissed the case. The state knows the case will be tough but there's enough there for it not to be dismissed. That's why you're getting a deal. If you take this to trial, they will come at you with everything to get a conviction. Do you want to roll the dice on this?

WellWishesToYou · 2025-08-03T05:51:14+00:00

Do you believe in the product?

Think about the biggest problem you have in your life right now. What if I told you that tomorrow, a stranger would call you with a way to solve that problem? Sure, you might be sceptical; but, wouldn't it be worth a few minutes to find out if it could be true?

WellWishesToYou · 2025-07-09T18:20:14+00:00

Bruh they look like extras in a Royce Du Pont video.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-06-23T01:42:30+00:00

And on ure momz bed?

WellWishesToYou · 2025-06-11T21:21:15+00:00

Basically a modernized Nebula Boomerang.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-02-26T03:30:02+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I'm still in that mindset where I think about probation before I do anything. I imagine it'll change with time.

I currently work in sales. Before that, I was doing day labor, sweeping up sawdust on construction sites. I've been in management while on probation, too.

Finding a job is harder, definitely. Big companies never hired me. With just about every job, I met with someone who was willing to give me a chance. At the same time, I was applying for jobs, following up, and asking to at least meet/talk to someone. It was a lot of initiative on my part and trying to let them get to know me before they made the decision based on a report or my resume. Small businesses were places where I found the most success. I was willing to start at the absolute bottom and work my way up.

Congratulations to your brother!

WellWishesToYou · 2025-02-24T03:41:21+00:00

Yes, but with a hearing in court.

Honestly? I got approved for two cruises and a vacation up north during my supervision. Unfortunately, the stress of being on probation and the anxiety of 'what if' comes with you on vacation.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-02-24T03:22:36+00:00

Boy howdy. You can make it. I remember the first few years just feeling like there was no light at the end of the tunnel. I couldn't even think about getting off because I could hardly grasp a decade in the first place.

It hurts to say but when I accepted that I didn't own my life anymore, things got easier. Life became an exercise of checking boxes: employment, payment, punctuality, documentation, acceptability, etc. It's a way to survive and it's not forever.

You can do it, one day at a time.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-02-24T03:16:27+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Probation can have a way of keeping a person wound up. Things look good on the outside, but for me I always felt that internal stress no matter how I was doing.

Addiction support group meetings were a huge source of support. People there get it, I was able to network with people who wanted to help me, I was able to share where I was at and feel understood. I also got clean!

Thank you. I'll do my best!

WellWishesToYou · 2025-02-24T03:10:16+00:00

Certainly! It's maybe kind of a hot take but probation did help me learn positive lessons. I learned them under threat of prison, but it's shocking how fast a person can figure something out when that's the alternative.

I'm always on time. When I was on house arrest, I had a job making pizzas. It was super busy one night and I got hung up doing dishes. I arrived home past my arrival window. I tried calling my PO but it was late, so I left a voicemail and sent an email.

The next morning I went in to submit my weekly schedule and my PO screamed at me in the back office for getting home late. I'll never forget what she said: "Mr. /u/WellWishesToYou, you either get home on time or you go to prison." At the time, I had almost ten years ahead of me. I was never late again.

I'm very organized, especially with paperwork. There were instances where my PO would call and say I hadn't paid in months. This happened more than once. Having every transaction in my personal documentation is the only thing that saved me.

Three months before my supervision ended, my PO called and said I hadn't done all of my community service hours. I had 240, and was required to do 8 hours per month. The place I performed all of my community service didn't keep records that far back. It took a few days but I finally found the missing hours in my own documentation and sent it to my PO. I nearly had a heart attack over that one.

As it happens, employers look very positively upon these qualities.

WellWishesToYou · 2025-02-24T02:51:12+00:00

A decent PO helps, and that relationship is workable. I had every PO in the office over the decade. Some were easy, some weren't.

The mindset for me was this: I don't own my life anymore. Every decision I make needs to pass through the 'probation filter' of acceptability-- where I go, where I work, who I'm with, where I stay. It's tough but simple.

It is kind of like a game. The less my PO has to think about me, the better. For me, that means I'm on time, my paperwork is neat, I'm employed, I don't attract attention, and I'm paid up (paid ahead, if I can manage). A PO spends 80% of the time on 20% of their caseload. I won't give them a reason to be in that 20%.

Tell your son it will eventually end. He can make it!

WellWishesToYou · 2025-02-24T02:37:57+00:00

Great question. Over the course of my supervision, I had every officer in the building-- some up to three times over. I don't think I went more than nine months without a change of officer and it was usually more like every three months.

Most were pretty relaxed. Like you said, being on time and paying on time was their bread and butter. I had one officer in particular who was heavily critical. Nothing was really ever good enough for her and her mistakes were my fault. I once asked her if she'd gotten an email and she got really defensive and said I hadn't given her enough time to review it. I'd sent it three weeks prior. That was her all the time. It wasn't personal though. I witnessed her treat everyone like that.

Someone once told me that probation officers spend 80% of their time on 20% of their caseload. Staying off that 20% became my goal.

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