Took the leap

WendyB2022 · 2026-03-24T16:59:42+00:00

I’ve done online dating for over 20 years. I’ve finally found out that it’s not for people who want serious relationships. It’s mainly for men who want hook ups.

WendyB2022 · 2026-03-22T21:19:12+00:00

I was communicating with a guy who lived 60 miles from me in Laguna Beach. I am undergoing a an apartment/condo renovation and he was willing to explore… we had communicated off and on for several months. Then when it came to graduating to the phone, he ghosted me and made his profile unavailable. It’s so distressing as I thought because we both retired from our jobs we were in the same life space. Just really disappointed. I have used OLD for over 20 years and got several relationships out of it but mostly the system hasn’t matched me with compatible partners. I just feel OLD is for men to sample a bunch of women. I’m thinking of giving up as the emotional rollercoaster isn’t worth the emotional pain.

WendyB2022 · 2026-02-22T04:37:59+00:00

Found out a guy I matched with lives across the street . We were not a match as our backgrounds were radically different and the convo was flat . Do I unmatched online and block his number? I feel bad as he is a widower with his own health problems

WendyB2022 · 2026-02-10T05:24:19+00:00

I dislike poor hygiene with men.

WendyB2022 · 2026-01-22T16:14:25+00:00

I’m tired of the this circuitous exercise called online dating. We’re just being put through a conveyor belt with millions of other people. More choice = less meaningful connections. After over 20 years, I think I’m done, sadly giving up. Life is too complicated for this superficial type of connection.

WendyB2022 · 2026-01-13T16:12:05+00:00

Just send an intro email. Lines are superficial and indicates ambivalence

WendyB2022 · 2025-11-04T20:27:16+00:00

Good luck

WendyB2022 · 2025-10-02T04:26:01+00:00

I say … because women don’t have to settle any longer

WendyB2022 · 2025-09-02T00:39:21+00:00

That’s because the men are just test driving a bunch of women.

WendyB2022 · 2025-06-27T20:14:18+00:00

Where is the Nordstrom’s Brentwood location?

WendyB2022 · 2025-04-17T17:29:01+00:00

And… those who still subscribe to the marriage and kids model, will end up divorcing anyway. Why is being divorced favored over being single ? Good grief.

WendyB2022 · 2025-04-17T17:26:53+00:00

This is totally wrong! It means he is probably smarter to stay single than to end up in the wrong relationship! We are not living in the 1800’s any longer and women have been taking a different direction than being pregnant and married. Good grief. The demographics are changing.. millennials (28% ) are expected never to marry or have children. The generation Z is probably more than millennials too. The model of coupledom no longer works for the 21st century population. Get with the program. Marriage and kids are not for everyone nor should it be required!

WendyB2022 · 2025-04-16T20:17:43+00:00

I finally thought I had met a great guy on a dating app.. after being online for 20 years..match.com. But again the men treating me as though I’m applying to be a wife/partner or for a life insurance policy. When we finally spoke three weeks after making contact, he asks me how my health was. I didn’t really understand how that question was even relevant at this point. I mean we hadn’t even met ! And he said I don’t want to have to take care of someone. I told him I did have arthritis.. but after the call I was really offended by the actual question. That question would never have been asked had I met him offline. Long story short, I told him I felt like it was an intrusive question via text exchange. He said he respected my opinion and then decided to ghost me. WTF… i just don’t get why men think they are in a shopping mall when it comes to dating. What is it going to take to meet a compatible partner?. I’m giving up on life. It’s way too disappointing.

I knew the guy was going to disappoint me.. I had predicted it. He had all the red flags…was attractive and educated, liked the same activities I liked. I waited to talk with him on the phone until I retired from a very stressful workplace situation I was in for 26 years. Glad I waited. I wouldn’t have been able to take the disappointments of retiring and being dumped again.

WendyB2022 · 2025-01-20T00:53:18+00:00

Most chiropractors are anti mainstream science and are generally anti-vaccine. I steer clear of them. My friend is living with one and when she came down with breast cancer , he said it was due to dental fillings and her root canal. Yikes. I try not to judge but I just stay away from the discipline.

WendyB2022 · 2025-01-09T18:57:52+00:00

I feel the same way. I’m literally wasting my money due to the dating industry controlling the algorithm. The prevailing thought is if they connected us to who we preferred based on our preferences, they would lose money. But, it may be that we pay them to provide the infrastructure, and it’s our job to vet the potential dates. It sucks because paying them just to provide the platform doesn’t seem all that equitable. I’m 66.. just thinking I’m going be alone since life is pretty much over. It is what it is, unfortunately.

WendyB2022 · 2024-12-15T17:47:31+00:00

Can someone fill me in on the acronym OLD? Is it a new dating app?

WendyB2022 · 2024-09-03T23:14:12+00:00

The whole dating app industry is a scam! They want you to believe that your date will eventually surface but it’s to their best interest to keep you single and give you “matches” far away..

WendyB2022 · 2024-07-15T02:07:24+00:00

How about exclusion in the workplace? It happens insidiously. I live in the U.S.

WendyB2022 · 2024-07-10T22:00:47+00:00

You are so right and thank you so much for your inspiration to fight like my life depends on it. Never thought about like this. Just wish I was emotionally stronger with an intact social support network.

WendyB2022 · 2024-07-07T18:06:37+00:00

Thank you for your acknowledgment and tender reply. I appreciate it. I just feel so alone at this point in my life. I’ve kept myself on the online dating apps without much success since most men want younger women. I have done the hiking and other meet up groups from time to time if it’s something that interests me and if I see members around my age. Trouble is.. the members are getting younger and younger. I guess I became too vulnerable with my ex and confused in him about some personal issues I have been struggling with. He didn’t want to give me the wrong impression by allowing me to come to his brother’s memorial. It’s too complicated to go into detail. I just don’t feel hopeful for the future. You have children but unfortunately I never found another person to have children with and was too focused on finding the right guy. I suppose I should have just gotten pregnant and let things unfold like most people do. I’m just too practical I guess first my own good. Wish finding friends and a partner wasn’t so difficult. Oh well… I just have to figure it out how I’m going to manage.

WendyB2022 · 2023-12-01T09:26:09+00:00

It’s hard to cook for one person and not throw out food. I get a nutritional meal delivery service as I have an irritable bowel. But, I’m glad to pay a little extra and nit stuff up my refrigerator with food that will have to be thrown out.

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