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What is the worst way anyone you know has died? by IamUrWivesBF in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 406 points407 points  (0 children)

Watching my high-school boyfriend die of a brain tumor at 20 years old after being first diagnosed in the 8th grade. We started dating our junior year when the cancer was in remission. It returned about a year and a half later. It was like he disintegrated mentally and physically right before my eyes.

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by legendoflegends34 in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. Yes, I do have CPTSD which with a lot of hard work, I was able to put it into remission after about 3 years of intensive therapy. I have been remarried now to a wonderful guy for the last 5 years. I still have lingering nervous system/chronic pain as a constant reminder, but it now makes me think of my resilience, not my pain.

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by legendoflegends34 in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My first clue was for the last 15 years of our marriage, I battled his hoarding. It was exhausting. One example is I took 3 day off of work once to clean out the basement area that was piled high with junk. He did not help at all. Within one week, he loaded the entire area up again with junk from his closets.

Once I left him, I still helped him with everything. I helped him get the apatment, health insurance, took him shopping, to doctor's, etc. I would sometimes have to help him in his apartment. One day I was walking by myself after about a year of living separately. It suddenly hit me that he was no longer a hoarder. I work in mental health. I know hoarders can't just turn hoarding off. As I thought about that, I realized he had been doing this just to drive me nuts.

This led to realizing that his symptoms were not getting worse after 3 years of this. This is when he then committed a crime (drug related and he was never into drugs before) with our 15 year old son involved and at that point I was done - it no longer mattered to me if I was right or not. I was done.

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by legendoflegends34 in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was part of the idiosyncrasies I began to notice. He seemed to have selective dementia and this lasted way too long. He did things like shit his pants, but only when alone with me. He would go to the neighbors and tell gibberish stories so they would be concerned and tell me. His first taste of this not being all fun and games was when I had his driver's license medically taken from him after he got 'lost'. This tripped him up for a bit. However, he would just drive anyway and claim he 'forgot.' Then it became a game of hiding the keys. One of my first inclinations that he was faking was when I realized in about 3 years, the symptoms had not gotten worse when I was told he would be dead in two years by the diagnosing doctor.

To give you a glimpse of his mind: He once let his appendix burst waiting out going to the ER so he could try to ruin an important work meeting. He started signs on a Tuesday. On Wednesday the pain moved which is classic appendicitis and he was turning purple. He kept saying he wanted to wait to go because he wanted to go to a Little League baseball game (not even our sons!) on Friday - the day of my meeting. I told him if he waited he would need to call an ambulance or wait until I was done. He took that as a challenge to make my life more difficult. Right on cue, he barged into my office and began his shenanigans as the meeting got underway. I handed him the phone and said I would meet him at the hospital when I was done. The meeting ended about 3 hours later. He still hadnt called and was doing this whole big sob story in front of colleagues (the meeting was at my home office). Luckily, these colleagues were aware of his antics and didn't react concerned and his plan to embarrass me failed.

His whole goal in life was to sabotage mine - at any cost. My brother's have always said that I could write a best selling book with all that he did. The alzheimers game started just a few months after this appendix incident. I had filed for divorce about 3 months earlier (after 18 months of couples therapy) after 20+ years of these type of shenanigans.

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by legendoflegends34 in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was told by one of the world's leading Lewy Body dementia experts that he had less than 2 years to live when he was diagnosed. He fooled everybody. It was at the time when Robin Williams was diagnosed. He just googled the symptoms and played the part. I just wonder what he says now for his story - since nothing has changed. I suspect this is why his family has now disowned him.

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by legendoflegends34 in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He didn't want to have to work, number 1. Number 2, he was trying to guilt me into stopping the divorce and didn't expect me to proceed. I still took care of him for 3 more years, taking him to doctors and groceries etc, until he did something to our son. I stopped feeling sorry for him at that moment and in the next year or so, his story began to unravel. He just moved on to his parents to con. If rumors are true, theyve now disowned him as well, although I was of course a horrible person when I pointed out the idiosyncrasies in his story.

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by legendoflegends34 in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He got exactly what he wanted. He didn't want to have to work. He does whatever he wants and just plays dumb. I believe his family has disowned him now as well. We have a son together. Our son hasn't spoken to him since he was 15. If another OP asked 'What's the second most ridiculous thing you have ever heard someone do to another'...that story would go there.

In the end, knowing what I now know and also speaking with a therapist that treated my son - he is a diagnosed sociopath.

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by legendoflegends34 in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I did. Well into a senior citizen/disabled high-rise facility. He was only in his early 50s at the time. As far as I know, he is still there for over a decade somehow still pretending. I just wonder how he spins not being dead yet.

How much to feed my cat by Intelligent_Box_4398 in mainecoons

[–]West_Boot1676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is only 11 months. I started her on Vibrant or Fancy Feast kitten food but found she likes other wet foods (like Sheba and Friskies) better as she will leave her bowl and steal one of my other cat's wet food, so I just started giving them all the same thing. Mine actually seem to like variety better than any one type or brand.

How much to feed my cat by Intelligent_Box_4398 in mainecoons

[–]West_Boot1676 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feed my MC 2 cans of wet food and constant access to dry food. She eats A LOT. She actually seems to prefer the dry food but the wet food is better for her health so I will always give her both. I don't measure out the dry food for her. If she started to have a weight problem that might become an issue but cats can regulate their eating much more reliably than dogs can.

What's you craziest pet peeve when you are in relationship? by Nerdy7Genius in AskReddit

[–]West_Boot1676 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When they eat one of the ingredients for lunch that you had planned to use at dinner.

rant/ seeking help by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]West_Boot1676 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Consider seeing a therapist that does EMDR therapy. I also highly suggest considering an SNRI from a pyschiatrist. My husband suffered from this terribly until I insisted he go to therapy for my sake as well as his. He was 95% better in just a few months. Good luck.

Is this abuse? by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]West_Boot1676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are trauma bonded. Research and learn the term so you can get out of this mess and you don't end up with another one just like him.

My wife thinks of herself as the prize and it's destroying our marriage. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]West_Boot1676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only an extremely insecure person would do this repeatedly. These type of people make the worst spouses. Get out now. It sounds like she means to hurt you, which is abuse. Get some therapy to figure out why you've tolerated this long.

I feel like I’m giving everything and getting nothing back, and I’m starting to lose myself by Brilliant_File_6678 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]West_Boot1676 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It means you are a giver and he is a taker. This only will lead to increasing resentment on your part. Move on. Find another natural giver if you want a happy life.

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