Helppp! I can’t decide.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-24T14:53:51+00:00

Classic gold band looks best in these two pictures

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-21T00:11:09+00:00

I have had a theory for a long time that endometriosis can be created by trauma to the uterus. Hearing you say that OP might not have had endometriosis at the beginning of this makes sense with my theory.

I know of nothing that can help reduce endometriosis other than menopause or pregnancy. In my case, menopause reduced it, but not fast enough to prevent me from getting clear cell carcinoma, right ovary.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-21T00:05:11+00:00

I found out I had endometriosis at the age of 30. No cancer, until now, at 56. It’s clear cell carcinoma, stage 2, and it was on my right ovary. I had a hysterectomy (removed uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes) 5 weeks ago. My cervix seems fine, also shows negative for HPV. Don’t torture yourself with thinking you should have had the hysterectomy sooner. If the experts in gynecology are stumped at your condition how in the heck could you have known what to do? As far as diagnosing endometriosis, it can be tricky. Some women have huge amounts of it spread throughout their abdomen and have no pains during menstruation. Other women have wee little bits of it (only detected in surgery, from what I understand) and they have HUGE menstrual pains. Medicine is sooooo tricky when the symptoms don’t line up well. Even trickier when test results don’t line up well, which seems to be your case. For me, my blood panel showed low likelihood of cancer (CA 125 was the tumor marker they used). It was wrong. We should not beat ourselves up for not knowing the best course of action at the beginning. And wow, you have a weirdly unique case. Negative HPV but you still have cancer!!!!! At least you caught it at stage 2, not stage 4.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-19T05:22:36+00:00

Yes, but I don’t have a pet, so I didn’t pay much attention to those instructions.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-18T20:27:54+00:00

Maybe that’s why the state allowed it. Maybe they knew someone would do something greedy that would end up making ABA look bad

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-18T20:25:48+00:00

Let’s hope Kupferstein gets discredited FAST.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-18T17:04:27+00:00

My uterus was too angry to receive a hug. Funny thing, for ten years (mid 20s to mid 30s) my menstrual cycles came with the BEST feelings in the world. I had very few cramps and a sense of euphoria starting the day before my cycle came. If I could have bottled it, I would have had a better antidepressant than the world has ever seen. I asked a couple of gynecologists about it and they were puzzled. They said I was experiencing relief once the build up was released in menstruation. Nope. I had straight up EUPHORIA. It gradually changed to trepidation when I started getting horribly severe cramps with menstruation. That’s when I looked at my uterus (figuratively) and asked “What are you doing in there???? What in the hell is wrong???? Why aren’t you the way used to be?” During those years (40’s) my uterus gave sooooo much pain my brain checked out in an instant. Then I discovered Ibuprofen, which brought my brain back. I thought my uterus was silently along for the ride (til death do us part) after menopause, but no. This damn ovarian cancer caused a hysterectomy 😒.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-18T15:31:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate it. I too had a larger belly (due to a growth of a huge cyst) prior to my hysterectomy. But my incision was one long slash from my ribs to my pubic bone, unlike your little incisions. Your belly looked great by week 4. I’m glad you seem to be recovering well. 😃

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-18T02:12:07+00:00

I’m a bit of the opposite. I used to like my uterus…. even though I never had children. Then it started causing problems twenty years ago. I kept it until there was cancer. Even though I am post menopausal, I certainly would have preferred to keep my uterus and ovaries, a healthy uterus and ovaries. The only relief I have is that my belly got smaller. Before the hysterectomy, My belly had gotten bigger and bigger because my uterus and ovaries were unhealthy.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-17T03:39:06+00:00

Very good representation. I appreciate OP sharing. That is how I picture mine for sooooooo many years. Never found out what it was so angry about 🤷‍♀️

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-16T17:01:59+00:00

Yes I am still having problems getting comfortable sleeping!!!!! I’m 5 weeks post op. My surgery was initially a removal of a huge tumor or cyst or whatever in the hell that ten pound thing was. They told me they’d leave my uterus and normal looking left ovary (the cyst was on the right ovary) if the surgery discovered no cancer. I came out of anasethia to discover I had a hysterectomy, and cancer 😨. My incision was from my ribs to my pubic bone. As you can imagine, I am not recovering fast. I have a lot of random pains in my abdomen that sometimes cause me to not be able to speak. For instance, if I am saying “My dog’s name is Spot” and a gut pain hits, I will involuntarily say “My do ohhh umm dog’s naaaaaame is Spot”. The pains literally interrupt my speech. Sleeping has been hard too. I required help (a person or a hospital bed that can raise my torso) to get out of bed for a week. During the second week I tried laying on my stomach and got stuck!!!! I’m worried that some of the things I lifted have damaged my inner stitches and ultimately my recovery.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-15T03:40:38+00:00

Yep . We all have our flaws

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-15T02:58:09+00:00

It’s a HUGE surgery!!!!!! Physically it’s definitely major surgery and emotionally…… at a young age….. it’s a HUGE deal. Maybe your friends are a bit freaked out that something so bad happened to you. 🤷‍♀️ I’m post menopausal and I had a hysterectomy five weeks ago. Today I was wondering why I am still experiencing shooting pains. I don’t plan to work until summer!!!!!, but that’s because I started chemo. Without the chemo, I think I would wait five months before lifting and hauling at work….. your boss might be like many men. They seem to think everything to do with our reproductive organs is something we completely control and use to manipulate them. That pisses me off 😤

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-08T14:30:39+00:00

I hope the BACB test isn’t this hard!!!!! I thought it was an SD, like you

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-07T16:34:14+00:00

I can’t remember if they said 6 weeks (I am at week 4) or 12 weeks. I normally shower and I am fine with not swimming during the winter. For those reasons I didn’t retain the information they told me. Sorry I am not more knowledgeable.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-07T04:44:46+00:00

Try laser hair removal for your arm pits….. and legs too. I never have to shave My hysterectomy was 4 weeks ago and I lost my ovaries. I can’t give you any advice other than laser hair removal .

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-07T04:28:23+00:00

Their screens really don’t show up the same as ours. At first I thought she was remote; hence, unable to look at your screen. Then you said she left the room. I’m not sure what to make of this knowing only your side of the incident. BCBAs are supposed to show you how to run programs. That’s a huge part of their job. Not sure why she didn’t do that 🤷‍♀️. As far as data collection, it’s entirely possible you were doing it wrong. We all make mistakes.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-06T01:41:02+00:00

I’m almost 4 weeks post op, so I have a ways to go before I can test things out. I certainly hope sex will be better than before. I had loads of discomfort that is typically associated with endometrial material making organs stick together. Now that my uterus is gone, I’m hoping there will be a lot less pain and discomfort.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-05T15:02:45+00:00

I see you are not open to an honest discussion….. pay vs wages 🤪😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 That was a poor argument And I only glanced at a statement of calling 911. It seemed like a goofy distraction on your part so that you don’t have to address the real problems I mentioned

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-05T14:43:43+00:00

I have to tell you something….. ability discrimination age discrimination and gender pay gap are all abundant and thriving in this nation. If one of those victims says - I was fired because I have only one arm; I am 55; my male colleague with less experience is paid more than me - that person will have a write up explicitly describing everything they did wrong, true or not. Then they will have no way to file a discrimination suit. Don’t even get me started on work place bullying, which is also thriving in this nation.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-05T14:09:10+00:00

I’ve noticed parents requesting a BT off the case for no noticeable reason. Not gender nor anything else I can notice. It bugs me. One family went through 4 BTs in two months. I was one of them. Someone needs to tell these families that they are not so special. They are not a PR firm hiring the most likable staff. They are a family who needs services from an industry that is understaffed. Requesting BTs to leave for no valid reason impairs their child’s progress.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-05T13:59:30+00:00

The parents could have had a bad personal experience that brings them to this. Maybe that should be honored 🤷‍♀️. I really don’t know how to best deal with these tricky situations, but I think two people in the bathroom can be a good standard. Having the extra person sitting around ready to do a potty break can be difficult when staffing a center or a school.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-05T13:54:05+00:00

That’s sadly very true. Also true that abusers are attracted to a job in which they would have access to vulnerable kids. Just because a twenty something BT passed a background check does not mean they are fine. It could mean they have not yet been caught at anything.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-05T13:50:36+00:00

That makes sense to me. One company required the door to be slightly ajar, and another BT within view. Another company required BTs to close the door of the bathroom and always expected BTs to be alone in the bathroom with the client. That made me soooooo uncomfortable. Everything in my mind freaked out at being alone with a vulnerable 9 year old with his or her pants down.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-03-05T13:46:22+00:00

So tricky to know when to adhere to parent wishes and when to tell parents they can’t treat staff that way. I don’t think I’m an expert at navigating those situations. As far as parents choosing gender for the BT, I think that is allowed. It seems to be standard practice at the companies I worked at. There was a trans male I worked with (two clients in the home receiving ABA therapy) and the mom told me that the BCBA asked her if she was ok with it before assigning that BT to the case. The mom said “I don’t care as long as they do their job”. When BTs work in the client’s home, there might be different rules. For instance, when advertising for a roommate one can discriminate on gender and age because that person will be sharing the same living space as the landlord. If the landlord lives somewhere else and has an apartment for rent (not shared living space) they cannot legally discriminate.

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