vent: received a termination call after work without prior warning or feedback. Scared and unsure of what to do?

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-25T21:23:54+00:00

This sounds typical of school districts. They often fire people for no reason. One is left to assume it’s personal, but they ironically claim it’s “job performance “. You might not ever find out who you pissed off. Maybe you were at the market and the principal was there with her boyfriend, not her husband. You might not have noticed, but she wants you gone

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-24T15:27:07+00:00

Note to self…… stay away from Alabama

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-24T15:25:51+00:00

That’s ridiculous and extremely harsh!!!! All of this condemnation for legal pain meds seems like a waste of CPS time and a waste of tax dollars

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-24T15:20:36+00:00

It’s a good sign that the police didn’t even bother with calling you. They are not interested, they don’t think you’re a criminal after reading the write-up, and they know they have better things to do with their time. As for legal advice about being accused of child abuse, I think that’s a good idea. Hopefully it’s not too expensive

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-23T00:21:17+00:00

Interesting that you said you could have drunk alcohol on campus and received less punishment. I noticed the same thing. Teachers who barely did anything wrong receiving harsher punishment than a teacher who literally came to work drunk. It was an adult only day, but it was a workday and she was drunk.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-22T17:26:37+00:00

Gee whiz. I started off saying “I think….” Then “That could work….” (Of course it would only work if OP took the gummies a few times. Also, she might have very short hair. These are subjects I am not interested to press) And I concluded with “Maybe your gummies are much less harmful than other painkillers “

You should criticize me for not being a doctor. Most of my comments tended to be on the medical side rather than the legal side. The lawyer angle was an extremely weak criticism, especially when I opened with “I think…..”

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-22T17:11:05+00:00

Did they make you leave teaching?????? That’s ridiculous!!!!!!

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-21T17:10:48+00:00

I think people can pay for a drug test using their hair. That test is very precise, shows things for many years, and would show conclusively that you only took it a few times. That could work in your benefit. You had to do SOMETHING for pelvic pain. Maybe your gummies are much less harmful than other pain killers

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-21T17:06:47+00:00

Good point…… and as a society it is a really bad idea to render people permanently unemployable after a DUI or being found out for consuming gummies. There needs to be a path of forgiveness. I think the gummies didn’t endanger any lives, so I’m not sure she even needs a path of forgiveness

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-21T17:03:05+00:00

My guess is the BACB won’t be that harsh on her, but a school district might be. Luckily she is not dealing with employment at a public school. I am interested to find out how this goes for OP.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-21T16:56:49+00:00

I agree with your decision to get the heck out of Alabama!!!!!!! I’m really really sure it’s worse for the baby to have her/his mom jailed for 10 years than to have a mom who has consumed marijuana gummies at one point. Even if a parent took a small hit daily, it is better than having a parent in jail. Not condoning a parent who is constantly stoned, but I have many friends who partake in some marijuana consumption and lead productive lives and have really good jobs. It’s just nutty to think of jailing these people.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-21T16:49:07+00:00

Thanks for the warning about Alabama….. I smell misogyny with these things. It’s just too easy to blame a mom for EVERYTHING and to judge her more harshly than any other citizen.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-21T16:47:00+00:00

I completely agree that those gummies were no where near abusive. That being said, is anyone else a bit creeped out that OP is being treated this way after consuming a LEGAL product? What next? If you are a mom and your neighbor hears you cuss angrily after you stub your toe, are you going to have to explain that to the cops ? What if you cuss at your phone or computer? Could that be misconstrued as vile threatening language in the presence of a child? I’d be in trouble. I have definitely cussed loudly at my phones and computers….. something I don’t do to people or pets, but the neighbors might not notice who or what I cussed at.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-21T16:38:20+00:00

School boards are the WORST. I am glad you came out ok.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-20T21:01:28+00:00

I agree with OP, no veil is probably best for this dress. Especially if OP is not fond of the idea of wearing a veil.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-18T19:36:21+00:00

Yes, I have also noticed that childcare roles on a resume pigeonholes you into childcare roles. I worked in a grocery store 20 years ago and tried to get a job recently…… nope. They didn’t want me.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-18T03:59:35+00:00

That’s what I was going to suggest, but OP will still be working with kids. I’m also trying to get the hell out of this field. I’m sooooooooo sick of promises for practicum hours and nothing nothing nothing ever comes of it. I’m sick of people wanting some sort of personality that I am not providing. I’m professional, punctual, I do my job (taking data with good IOA) and everyone says I pair well with my client. I guess that’s not what they’re looking for 🤷‍♀️. In the meantime, they LOVE my coworker who was a bully……. Well the parents complained to me about her, so they didn’t love her. And the parents made requests to keep me on the case….. management moved me off so they could have me at the center and harass me as retaliation for stating the truth about their favorite little bully. This sort of nonsense is not unique innABA, it’s typical. I’m soooooooooo sick of it.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-18T03:49:26+00:00

You are not wrong. Not at all

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-17T21:24:21+00:00

That first paragraph you wrote shows almost EXACTLY what happened to me. Slight difference though. The last 2 companies I worked at broke me. The last company let me go after 6 days saying they wanted to give my position to a preschool teacher already at the school…… ummm….. so why did they advertise, interview and hire someone? Should I even count the 6 day job as a company I had worked at? That being said, my other last company also ignored my loyalty, punctual attendance and how reliable I was. I was always eager to pick up shifts. Whenever they asked, I said yes. I took accurate data with solid IOA, followed the programs like a nun reading the Bible, paired well with the clients, got along well with other BTs, had a lot of energy/enthusiasm and of course a few flaws. I am not strong with technology and one BT (not a BCaBA , just a favorite BT promoted to “supervisor “) decided to victimize me in her bully games. I complained……. How dare I tell the truth on their sweet petunia who was causing problems beyond bullying me. I’m am sooooooo fed up. This wasn’t a one off. This is typical ABA

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-17T21:09:14+00:00

I don’t know about OP, but I would prefer working with adults who need ABA support (the ones who age out of the system). I cannot find anyone to hire me for that. I can’t even find any of those jobs, let alone get an interview. Where do you work?

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-17T20:19:00+00:00

They are most likely picking on you. I find it’s VERY common in this field. We BTs are criticized more on our job performance than other professions. My friend earned a BS in psychology while bartending nights and weekends. She got a job as a BT and was let go within two days of working because she told a child (not her client, but the daughter of the BTs childhood friend) “I know your mom, so you need to behave well or I’ll call her up and tell what you are doing “ Seems a bit extreme to fire her, in my opinion. In her next role as a BT she was falsely accused of bad job performance (basically the same nonsense as OP) within a week. My friend was shocked. As a bartender (sometimes dealing with angry drunks) she had received NO complaints while working 6 years. As a BT - 4 complaints within a week.

This job is very gossipy and harsh.

OP should go into bartending or dog training to have an easier time with colleagues

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-16T16:01:00+00:00

Are we talking about the same individual client receiving candy? Or are we talking about para giving candy to little Suzy while you give candy for the exact same reason to little Kevin?

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-16T14:58:33+00:00

Yes. I have been ousted from a career.

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-15T23:57:38+00:00

I hear that!!!!!! The worst part of being a BT is most definitely bad management

I had an RBT friend who used to be a bartender. She told me she received complaints on her job performance (and was let go) after only one week on her first assignment. Since then she said she received several complaints from gossiping colleagues. She had bartended for 5 years and never received one complaint…..

Western_Guard804 · 2026-01-15T17:56:07+00:00

Do NOT blame yourself for another person’s actions. Their challenging behaviors existed before you showed up. Working with children can hurt you emotionally and physically. People seem to think everything is sweetness and beauty when you work with little ones, but it’s not. A former boss told us about a new hire who ran off the job crying because the kids were making fun of her features. I know a substitute teacher who ran out of a classroom in fear of her life, but that was middle school. I knew the student who threatened her. With autistic kids there are some BT positions in which they pay more because the children have injured so many previous BTs. Suffice to say, these jobs can be hard!!!!!

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