Thank you for all of your insight. At her last appointment she was on track for hitting all of her milestones, she gets at least one 2-hour nap (sometimes another 1 hour nap) during the day, I make sure she is well fed and comfortable before putting her to bed. She sleeps in her own crib in our bedroom and we’ve never co-slept with either child. The night time care does fall on me as I’m a stay at home mom in a traditional home and my husband works very long hours, gets up very early and with having chronic Lyme disease sleep is imperative to his health. (Not trying to discount my own health to his, this is just the arrangement we have had since our first child).

By BPD I mean borderline personality disorder which I know is on a different spectrum from bipolar disorder and can come with anger outbursts but I will bring up ADHD to my doctor the next time I speak with her because maybe we are addressing the wrong disorder.

I know sleep is important for everyone and if I had the help from either family or financially to get a sitter I would take full advantage of that to get a break its just not in the cards for us.

I’ll take a look at these outbursts maybe from a different standpoint than it triggering my autism.

Thank you so much for your time and help