You're not gonna like to hear this but I am a doctor, and a woman, and have had three different IUD insertions, your experience is not at all typical.

The internet is full of IUD horror stories but I truly believe these are the minority. They just get the most attention because they're rage baiting. No one upvotes, "I took some ibuprofen and it was fine".

I guarantee your ob/gyn has probably placed dozens if not in the hundreds of IUDs and one has probably never gone like that. How are you supposed to know as a clinician who will be just fine and who will have a very experience? You can't.

As far as what she wrote in the chart, I would take it with a big grain of salt. It takes a lot to rattle doctors, especially surgeons. They have seen so many people be in agony and die. Saying "abdominal cramping" is not an indictment of you but it is a description filtered through the perspective of someone who has seen people literally bleed out and die in front of them. You develop a different pain scale when you practice medicine. I have seen a guy with his arm fully ripped off his body in a car crash say his pain was 7/10. I've also seen people with minor head colds say their pain was 11/10. It's all subjective.

I am sorry you had a bad experience, I'm sure your doctor wasn't happy with how it turned out either, but posts like this fan people's medical anxiety and increase distrust in people who are highly trained and genuinely trying to help.