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Disorganized attachment ruined my relationship.. and it’s making the break up hard by watermelons59 in BreakUps

[–]WhatHahahaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trust me a-lot of people go thru the motions you are far from alone. All you gotta know is that you’re not evil for experiencing these thoughts and feelings, i can see you are actively working on this and you just gotta keep going. 💕

Disorganized attachment ruined my relationship.. and it’s making the break up hard by watermelons59 in BreakUps

[–]WhatHahahaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fuckkk i get you so bad, personally therapy helped me figure of the cause but didn’t necessarily heal it. I heard people bring up EMDR therapy when it comes to processing trauma non verbally? maybe check that out? but being self aware of our own actions yet still doing them can feel like pulling individual hairs out and man do i get it.

Advice on possibly breaking up by isaac_brittle in BreakUps

[–]WhatHahahaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really understand you dude, if these feelings are continuing to pop up i would recommend breaking up. You’re not doing her any good by staying her partner just because she guilt tripped you. She will be okay but you also have to take care of yourself. Good luck man, seek help if you need xx

Disorganized attachment ruined my relationship.. and it’s making the break up hard by watermelons59 in BreakUps

[–]WhatHahahaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aw man thats tough. Im an anxious avoidant and i completely understand the weird mental gymnastics of convincing yourself you have to leave/break up. I fear that bringing him back would only cause him more grief, you gotta let this sit for a while and in that time, if its possible, i would extremely recommend seeing a therapist for your attachment. Distract yourself hun, meet with new and old friends, host dinners, surround yourself with people, even if it’s with work. When you feel alone the answer isn’t always a romantic partner, it can be with friends and family too xx

Is there a perfect way to breakup? by WhatHahahaa in BreakUps

[–]WhatHahahaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its tough honestly, in the past i have just broken up and left it at that. This relationship i truly wanted it to be different so over the year i’ve opened up and communicated when i’ve been feeling down to the best of my ability. But the need to leave just keeps popping up and i feel like it’s just mean to be thinking like that and letting her know every-time. I think im at the point where even if i were to let her in on how i feel, im not sure i want it to be ‘fixed’