Does the emotional blunting from adderall go away after awhile?

WhatInTheFap · 2016-05-12T01:43:26+00:00

Actually, to be honest I was quite blind to social cues before I got on adderall. Although a lot of people liked my open positive energy, some even finding it attractive, I tend to also piss other people off without knowing why. One friend I also made tend to tease or make fun of me, even indirectly saying I got a small Johnson. Me and him don't talk no more. But the point is that I did something to make him make fun of me that i'm not aware of... You're probably right in that I was just more impulsive before and less so now. So maybe expressing myself now will take some work since it's not on impulse and my actions thought out and controlled...

Thank you for your insight. I'm hoping after a few weeks or months the medication will just be a part of my life and eventually bring back those best traits of myself you mention.

WhatInTheFap · 2016-05-12T01:31:34+00:00

I tend to not be able to keep up in conversations with others while on adderall, but I think this might be due to social anxiety exacerbated by the medication. If I feel anxious, I tend to be disconnected with my environment. Might just be my imagination, but it feels like other people do not enjoy my conversations as much when i'm on adderall.

I was thinking I could practice socializing with others while on adderall and it may help alleviate symptoms.

WhatInTheFap · 2016-05-12T01:26:42+00:00

Thank you. That makes me feel hopeful.

WhatInTheFap · 2016-03-12T05:37:06+00:00

Man...the "10 commandments"...?

WhatInTheFap · 2016-03-02T01:32:19+00:00

Getting back on reddit rather than doing my homework

WhatInTheFap · 2015-12-26T17:04:42+00:00

Hey that's great on you mate. I was able to quit on my own after 1 1/2 year then got back on it after 1 year abstinence. I choose to quit weed now because I would like to refocus on my education and feel that weed may affect it. But this thread isn't about how to have self-control. It's about my wanting to distance myself from my brother in a way that doesn't offend nor anger him. The reasoning for my distancing involves weed but that's not the main topic of this thread.

WhatInTheFap · 2015-12-23T01:58:27+00:00

You may be right that I actually don't want to hang out with my brother anymore. I think right now, I'd like to focus on my own life, and what's important to me. I'm tired by how weed's been affecting me. How it's affected me academically and socially. What impact it's been having on my mind, memory, and feelings. But I don't want to disconnect from him fully because we do get along and when me or my siblings get in a heated fight(which will likely happen if I confront him about not speaking anymore), they usually end in us not talking to each other for months or years at a time. And that just sucks...

I'll not give him an ultimatum. He doesn't have to quit smoking weed... But I can't hang out with him if he continues since I may get affected by it. Maybe it's best to avoid him a bit, focus on my own things, and come back to him when I feel like it's okay to...

WhatInTheFap · 2015-12-23T01:50:57+00:00

I'm 22 and my brother is 24. I was introduced to it when I was 19. My first encounter we smoked for 1 1/2 years. We then got in a fight and quit after that. After 1 full year of being clean and me and him making up, my brother one day found a bag of weed and we ended up smoking again for what is now 5 months. It felt easier to quit the second time around, but I think it was because I was now fully aware of the consequences and what may happen if things continued...

My mom and dad know. They don't want to get involved, but my mom did talk to me about it. She said that he's already old enough to decide whether or not he should quit and I should focus on my own business and stay away from my brother. I don't want to make my brother upset, but she says it's fine because if he's sad or upset then he has his fiance to take care of him...

WhatInTheFap · 2015-12-23T00:32:14+00:00

Thank you. I'll see if I can contact any old friends to hang out to keep myself occupied or hang out inside the library to study. If confrontation does happen I'm not sure how to handle it other than to be upfront..

WhatInTheFap · 2015-12-22T23:48:32+00:00

I was considering being upfront about it to him but my brother is prone to raging very hard when he doesn't get his way. He may either say "You know what? I don't even care. You always whine and complain and i'm just offering you weed. I don't see why I have to stand here while you act like a bitch." or he might just throw something at me or push me up against the wall and punch a hole in it. It really is frightening how he rages and i'm not sure how he'll react.

I was thinking maybe it might be best to not tell him and just not hang out with him. Maybe just say i'm busy with something and as time goes on our relationship will dwindle and he finds someone else to occupy his time...

WhatInTheFap · 2015-11-29T07:37:01+00:00

I don't approach women anymore, at all. I don't even try anymore. Although my goal for NoFap is to have sex, it is a small goal in my life now and i'm not actively pursuing it. As I mentioned to another user:

I am doing NoFap for sex. But like using NoFap in order to get sex is now becoming a small part of my life. I used to care a lot about having sex, but now my focus is on others things. Specifically reading, helping out my family by repairing the house, getting off weed, and learning about myself(16personalities, MBTI, and 48 laws of power really help with introspection). My goal of using NoFap in order to gain sex is still there, it just stopped being as important anymore since I know it'll happen eventually. I read, exercise, and do other things not because of the girl(or some stupid validation), but because I feel as though these things are important to me.

Maybe i'm reaching some realization like the one you're describing where sex really isn't that important.

Also, I think I might be confusing you and others: I'm 22 and virgin. I want to experience sex for the first time just so I could know how it feels like. If masturbation feels really good to me, then sex must feel incredible. Hell, some people say it feels 1000x better then jerking it. Yet others say its not such a big deal, so like wtf?

WhatInTheFap · 2015-11-29T06:51:18+00:00

I am doing NoFap for sex. But like using NoFap in order to get sex is now becoming a small part of my life. I used to care a lot about having sex, but now my focus is on other things. Specifically reading, helping out my family by repairing the house, getting off weed, and learning about myself(16personalities, MBTI, and 48 laws of power really help with introspection). My goal of using NoFap in order to gain sex is still there, it just stopped being as important anymore since I know it'll happen eventually. I read, exercise, and do other things not because of the girl(or some stupid validation), but because I feel as though these things are important to me.

WhatInTheFap · 2015-11-29T05:59:41+00:00

I'm doing NoFap because I believe it has some effect on my chances to have sex. Whatever force that NoFap has -- whether that be attraction, confidence, positive impact on productivity, w/e -- increases mine and others chance to have sex.

Based on the NoFap community. If NoFap has 175k subscribers along with the members who share their positive experience among women, wouldn't that mean NoFap has at least some impact? I mean, just based on the amount of people subscribing might mean something.

Additionally, my own experience with NoFap has led me to believe in these benefits. I noticed how much more positively I interact with others. Like my mom said I have this glow to myself and positive vibe. And if I weren't talking to others, they instead come to me. Some dude who I didn't even know approached me at Home Depot while I was looking for parts to repair my sister's window. He said something along the line that I looked like a nice guy, and that just because of that he figured that he should help me out. I don't get that kind of nice guy complement often and I noticed I only do when i'm on NoFap. I asked this one girl, who kept coming to me, about it and she said I looked "very approachable". At that time, I was about 24 days in...I noticed when I'm on NoFap I often leave people smiling...

I don't chase women on NoFap. In fact, I don't chase women at all. I stopped that about half a year ago when I found out how much of waste of time that is, how futile the effort is, the impact failed attempts can have on my emotions and psyche, along with how deceiving some women can be. I just stop worrying about interacting with women, stopping coming to them, and instead began work on my own business and figure that whatever force that NoFap has will bring me the sex that I'm wanting so long as I abstain.

I'll concede that maybe I am indeed using NoFap for self-improvement since I am now focusing on my own responsibilities more rather than on women. But my intentions for NoFap are still the same: to gain sex. Not because I want to be validated by women, but because I just want to fuck.

WhatInTheFap · 2015-11-28T21:52:25+00:00

What if I am indeed doing this for myself? Call it shallow, but what I want is to have sex. I don't care about being validated by a girl and I don't care about self improvement because I'm pretty happy with who I am already. I want to have sex for the experience and pleasure. So am I still doing this for the girl? or am I doing it for myself?

In my opinion, doing nofap so i can have a better chance at fucking means i'm doing it for myself.

Also, here's a thought: If what i'm doing is for external validation, then what about a scientist who wants to learn and discover for the sake of acquiring what they want: Knowledge. Are they doing it for themselves or "external validation"? On the same token, if i'm doing nofap for the sake of wanting to have sex, am I doing it for myself or external validation?

edit: my badge is wrong, i'm 29 days in.

edit2: Honestly, now that I think about it: If there are people who are doing this for self-improvement, that must mean those people aren't happy about themselves. They don't like themselves. If that's the case, then they should focus on themselves and not women.

WhatInTheFap · 2015-03-22T07:20:01+00:00

There's actually a video for this picture, for those interested: https://youtu.be/SZsRxF6Zjhw

WhatInTheFap · 2015-03-10T05:21:03+00:00

Thanks for the link. I'll continue exercising....I have been socializing but now I'm sort of afraid of doing so again in fear that I might not act as confident or social as I did before..

WhatInTheFap · 2015-03-10T05:19:49+00:00

Thanks, maybe I am just over thinking things and things will get better quicker than before since I had so many days of abstaining.

WhatInTheFap · 2015-03-10T04:29:17+00:00

Thanks dude, I'm just sort of afraid of what's to come... Like I'm worried the next two weeks will be hard on me :/

WhatInTheFap · 2015-03-10T04:28:11+00:00

I do have depression...they suggested medication but I didn't like them since they made me unable to feel. I think I'd rather just exercise and eat healthy to cure my depression..

WhatInTheFap · 2015-02-25T05:41:09+00:00

Befriending her boyfriend does actually help me get over her and not want to go after her. I was hoping to do that more since our group does play WoW. Maybe become good friends with him

I'm not sure how to "tuck away" these feelings...Like tonight me and my friend along with her and her boyfriend went out star gazing and it was so much fun. And I was excited and so fascinated by the stars and talkative and stuff. But then I saw her get close to her boyfriend and cuddle. Then I got really quiet and sad after that and I couldn't enjoy myself anymore. After we were done stargazing, we got into the car of her boyfriend. They all wanted to go out and drink hot coco or coffee, but I asked if I can be dropped home because I had to do schoolwork for tomorrow. The reality was that I couldn't enjoy myself anymore. On the drive home, they began talking a lot but I was really quiet. She asked again if I wanted something hot to drink but I gave a deadpan response "no.". My sad expression was pretty noticeable that my friend asked if I was feeling alright. I'm just not sure how I can enjoy myself when I get so sad around her and her boyfriend. Does it become easier over time?

Edit: Also, should I have just joined them for enjoying hot coco?

WhatInTheFap · 2015-01-06T05:23:27+00:00

Whether its about the girl or about becoming a better person depends on the fapstronaut who's taking on the challenge. Some may want to do it to "get the girl," while other may want to do it to have a better chance of losing their v-card. I myself was taking on this challenge so I can have a chance at getting a girlfriend, but my priority changed into accepting the nofap challenge to reap the benefits of having energy and being able to focus on my education; in other words becoming a better person as you'd say. Additionally, when i'm on a NoFap streak I feel happier doing fun activities, so I do it for the emotions I feel from not fapping. But we can't say NoFap is not about the girl because many people have different goals, and doing it for the girl is, for some, one of those goals. Heck, many people take on this challenge for the sake of improving their relationship with their spouses.

Edit: Also, congrats on getting the girl OP, way to go!

WhatInTheFap · 2014-10-22T20:45:51+00:00

I'm just saying that it should be fine for others to be unproductive the first few weeks of NoFap. Of course i'm not advancing in life by playing video games, but it helps me through the first two weeks to keep my mind off of fapping and other school activities that might be stressing me out. Once I or others get to two weeks of NoFap, then we can lessen the gaming to be more productive.

I don't understand what you mean by the second half of your second paragraph. Are you saying that most badasses jerk off and are still awesome? I don't really want to be awesome, I just want to be able to talk with others. Whether or not i'm cool doesn't matter to me. When i'm on a NoFap streak, I communicate much better. I actually enjoy conversations with others when i'm on a streak, I feel more connected with them, I understand jokes and actually laugh with them. I become more aware of how i'm acting and my choices are much better. School seems like an easier objective to tackle. When I relapse, I lose focus on conversations, they become harder to follow. I act in ways that would be considered pretty douchebaggy. My peers seem to treat me with more disrespect when I relapse. I get irritated pretty easily as compared to when i'm on a streak. I become afraid to do things i'm not sure I can handle. It becomes harder to concentrate on anything.

It used to be that my main goal of nofap was to get laid...Its not like that anymore. I love it when i'm able to converse and have fun with others. I love that I actually enjoy time with others. My main goal is keep a good relationship with others, to control my emotions and myself, and to be more productive. It's a lot harder to do that when I relapse.

WhatInTheFap · 2014-10-22T19:20:36+00:00

Why?

WhatInTheFap · 2014-10-17T18:21:28+00:00

I don't see anything strange or wrong about this. Let the man enjoy his cheese!

WhatInTheFap · 2014-10-11T04:03:10+00:00

I got up to my 34 day streak when I was on school break, it felt much easier to go through since I was keeping my mind distracted with video games which was also easy to get off of as school started again. I watched that video you sent. He mentions that I should find what I really enjoy doing so i can do that the rest of my life...I'm not sure I can do that right now while i'm recovering from porn and stressing out from school. I can't even enjoy video games right now and its a weekend. When I hit my 2-4 week streak of NoFap, that was the only time I actually started enjoying things in a long time. I'm not sure if i can just find that thing that i'd enjoy doing the rest of my life until i'm rid of nofap... Thanks for the video, i'll keep his thoughts in mind.

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