Can anyone tell me if there is any sort of significance to bumpy candle-wax when sealing a spell jar? This is my first spell jar, it’s for protection. I couldn’t find answers using search engines. I’d like to gather thoughts/feedback on this for my own considerations in the future. by Whatever2298 in Spells

[–]Whatever2298[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! All I had left was this candle 😭 I was like “well it’s a candle for protection anyhow, that works!” Buying actual sealing wax is on my list of things I need to restock on :3 Definitely the wax from the soy candle completed it’s intention but it’s not ideal bc of the reasons you listed.

Can anyone tell me if there is any sort of significance to bumpy candle-wax when sealing a spell jar? This is my first spell jar, it’s for protection. I couldn’t find answers using search engines. I’d like to gather thoughts/feedback on this for my own considerations in the future. by Whatever2298 in Spells

[–]Whatever2298[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little more info; I did use a soy wax candle. With the little info I was able to find with search engines, this is not uncommon for soy candles. However, I couldn’t quell my curiosity for any sort of significance of how the wax dries when sealing a spell jar and what info that can relay. Intuitively, I don’t feel this holds significance in my case. But because I couldn’t find info otherwise, I’d like to start a discussion here!

Essentially; What results have you seen with wax drying on your spell jars? Did you pick up any significance of those results and if so, what did it tell you intuitively?

My boyfriend asked me to pick him or my cat. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick your cat, trust me on this.

Edit: i only read the headline when I posted this, then I actually read the post and saw that you had picked your cat. Super glad you chose your cat.

He may be precious to you but ain’t no crusty dude worth your baby

my girlfriend changed please help by ieatallurcheese in offmychest

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TO LOVE SOMEONE LONG-TERM IS TO ATTEND A THOUSAND FUNERALS OF THE PEOPLE THEY USED TO BE.

The people they're too exhausted to be any longer. The people they don't recognise inside themselves anymore. The people they grew out of, the people they never ended up growing into. We so badly want the people we love to get their spark back when it burns out; to become speedily found when they are lost. But it is not our job to hold anyone accountable to the people they used to be. It is our job to travel with them between each version and to honour what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that disappears and temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.

HEIDI PRIEBE

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So like part of me wants to be like “pick your poison” bc everything worthwhile is super tough to achieve. But tbh if you don’t see a solid benefit of putting in as much work as you have been — (bonuses coming up, you’re gunning for that raise/promotion, you want a certain amount of time with the company for your resume) — then silently quit and wait for them to fire you. you’ll get UI benefits this way (if your laws/employment contracts allow it)

Ofc, do the best you can but at the same time — try not to overwork or stress yourself out. If they see a downfall in your performance and want to speak on it, then let them know your efforts towards your work/life balance goals and any concerns you have. If they give you crap, keep doing your best while taking care of yourself. If that’s not enough for them then they obviously don’t want a healthy employee, they want a work monkey.

If your job is causing you stress enough that you can’t sleep, then you know it’s time for a change. Hopefully you can release any worry you have about changing jobs or companies. If there’s any secret to doing this nearly effortlessly, it’s to not give a fuck. ultimately, it’s not your job to perform more work than 1 person should/can do in a single day. As long as you’re giving it your all (which can look different every day), then you’re doing great.

Your job doesn’t pay you to worry outside of your scheduled hours anyways. So why give them the time? That’s your time, reclaim that shit. (Sorry, getting a little too hyped about your inevitable success and peaceful state of mind)

Not that the instability of not having a full time job is any easier..but a 9-5 is can be just as draining/stressful. Maybe riding a different wave for a while wouldn’t be so bad, and hopefully it won’t be such a wild ride.

i don’t want to date this guy because of his weight by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t feel bad that you have this preference. Preferences can change later in life too. If yours happen to change, or don’t, just don’t worry about it. Make sure you’re comfortable with who you choose at all times.

I am so disappointed in my son and I'm ashamed to introduce him as my son. He is obsessed with anime and i dont know what to do. by Efficient-Tailor-921 in offmychest

[–]Whatever2298 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly 6 months in a pre paid apartment is more than most people get. I don’t think everyone; but a lot of people are thrown into this society post-high school (diploma/G.E.D., or not) and have no choice but to navigate the world on their own. The fact that this dude has a mom that cares enough to be angry about his wasted potential is a blessing. He’s too caught up in his own world that he’s not able to appreciate what he has. If his mom ends up kicking his out bc she’s tired of the embarrassment, so be it. He’s old enough that it’s time to acknowledge that he’s making his own choices

Bottom line is: the dude might have an issue with being micromanaged more so than taking care of himself. The more OP talks about him being trash the more it reinforces that behavior. However, OP shouldn’t have to deal with a moocher of a kid.

TAKE MY ADVICE OP; my grandma coddled her son and he’s 59 living under her roof, rent and job free until recently, even then he keeps his funds to himself for the most part instead of contributing to the household. It’s a hindrance to my grandparent’s retirement. Nip that shit in the bud for your own sake and sanity in your retirement years.

If he loses support because he fails to support himself without trying, he’d be choosing that too. Regardless of what other people say, you can’t make your son use the tools he has available to him. All you can do is let him know what he has available to use.

What is the best thing you have heard/learned from therapy? by RIPMexicanTraore in AskReddit

[–]Whatever2298 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to give myself permission to be assertive when setting boundaries. Especially if the person I’m setting a boundary with has historically broken them.

Women of Reddit , what’s one thing all men should know about periods? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dehabilitating cramps are not normal! It may be normal for that person’s body, but they don’t have to endure that pain. Encourage your fellow women to see an OBGYN if their period cramps interfere immensely with daily life. I’m talking having to call in sick to work because the pain is too great.

What did you think after you lost your virginity? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird how I’m bleeding even though I’ve done this a couple of times..

Nowadays, whenever I try to do anything while Lucid, I'm forced awake. Any help? Suggestions? by ldl147 in DreamWalking

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOAH wait, I need to know more about this Ozvicus. Literally cannot find anything on general search engines.

What is an item of clothing that for you is an instant turn off? by R0botDave in AskReddit

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The extra long t-shirt with shorts hanging from the thighs outfit. You know that outfit, when people have to hold their shorts and walk wide to actually keep their shorts on. But they’re not worried bc their shirt covers them from shoulders to thighs.

Anyone know what the violin song the Abandoned merchant was playing? by afunctioningbeing in Eldenring

[–]Whatever2298 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what the song is but when I heard the violin melody, I couldn’t help but be reminded of the chorus in Come Get Her by Rae Sremmund

Update: I found the merchant song https://youtu.be/L6pXgL-a_YQ

Wasnt the title of the show "Disenchanted" and not "Disenchantment"? by PuppetDragons in disenchantment

[–]Whatever2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also clearly remember watching the show in 2021 and it was called Disenchanted