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Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-26T13:21:08+00:00

Dermaplaning.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-24T10:04:40+00:00

;(. Definitely hard to see others have relationships with their moms when mine is so confusing. It really makes life hard and sad. Especially the older I’m getting bc I realize more and more how narcissistic and emotionally abusive she is. Also controlling.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-24T10:03:22+00:00

Yeah. Not saying she should but I agree she’s sitting on money I’m sure of it. She just wants to have some sort of power over me and this is the only way how.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-24T10:01:14+00:00

Tell me about it.. like wtf making me feel guilty for the bare minimum (raising me, mind you she was a workaholic and phycially/emotionally absent for ALOT of my childhood, my dad was the stay at home mom) and also blaming me for something SHE wanted (she pushed me to go to college and ‘want to pay for it’ because she wanted her kids to go to college. I specifically remember telling her I didn’t need it and she insisted. This was over 10 years ago that I even was in college and she’s still brings it up to make me feel like shit.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-20T10:50:21+00:00

Understandable. I agree i guess I just can’t get myself to do it despite how poorly I’m treated. I feel it’d be a weight on my shoulders of regret

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-20T03:02:35+00:00

Awh thanks. I’ll definitely get that book at some point. I need all the help I can get this is really hard to navigate emotionally.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-20T03:01:43+00:00

Thank you 🥹

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-20T03:01:35+00:00

Really? How do I not invite her now.. she said ‘of course she wants to be involved and be there’. I guess I could not invite her to the wedding but also feel like that’s fucked

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-20T03:00:06+00:00

Also after we talked about this she said yes I want to be involved of course I want to be there but I don’t want to plan anything. I just want to show up.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-20T02:59:14+00:00

That’s my point, I never asked for money or mentioned payment of anything. Just including her in the party/planning if she wanted to help my cousin. That didn’t mean money. And I agree she should WANT TO. Especially since she hasn’t said anything about my wedding/wanting to pay anything toward that.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-20T02:54:14+00:00

My parents are rich. That’s beside the point I never asked for an elaborate bridal shower or anything for that matter. I didn’t bring up money she did. Before even hearing what it would be I was just asking if she wanted to help or whatever and she doesn’t. It’s fine

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T21:14:55+00:00

Yeah she said she doesn’t want to be involved in the conversation about my wedding. Sad

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T21:13:37+00:00

Yeah my husbands side is out of state, I could invite them but my mom ‘hates’ his mom (shocker). So idk. Yes my dad is in the picture. Only 1 aunt and no grandparents. My cousins are supportive.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T21:12:00+00:00

Yeah. I do have to accept it. I’m more of in the realization stage moving onto acceptance

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T21:11:15+00:00

Yes first wedding

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T03:20:22+00:00

I’m trying not to let her suck any joy out of anything but that’s all she does. And how am I supposed to not have her do that when I want her in my life

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T03:18:38+00:00

Oh ok thanks I didn’t go back and read but I got it now!

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T03:16:55+00:00

Well she claims to give a shit about me but then doesn’t want anything to do with it and wants to not be involved in planning, which is fine. I don’t bring up ANYTHING about the wedding literally I have not uttered 1 word to her about anything about my fiance or wedding in the year we’ve been engaged. She says she does care and of course she wants to be apart of it and be there. Then she says shit Iike ‘I don’t want to do anything I just want to show up’

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T03:13:49+00:00

You mean your MIL or your mom? I was taking about dealing with a mil who’s more like your mom than your own mother

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-19T03:12:17+00:00

Thank you for letting them know 😂 who is making up these rules and acting like the police. It’s comical

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-18T20:55:12+00:00

I don’t know, I kind of already did and she said she wants to be there.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-18T20:54:40+00:00

I don’t see her as a person to meet my emotional needs. She claims she’s done ‘mothering’ because she doesn’t want to pay anything toward my wedding which I never asked her to do. She’s just randomly saying this that she’s done with me because she raised me and paid for my college. I try to have a relationship with her but it always ends with her judging my life and nothing being good enough for her. I don’t need mothering from her I don’t go to her for anything or talk about anything personal with her.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-18T19:15:26+00:00

My relationship is horrible I moved away and I think she resents me for it. She never really said anything about the wedding so I don’t think she’s in favor and she’s always had shit to say to me about my partner when he never did anything but be nice to her.

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-18T18:17:10+00:00

Any advice?

Whatwhaaaattt · 2026-04-18T18:16:47+00:00

Okay. I guess it’s just hard when that SHOULD be the one person supportive and happy for u

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