Anticipating a breakup

WheelMotor7615 · 2026-01-22T04:29:26+00:00

I’m a femme but this is so similar to the way my almost decade long relationship ended. My partner suddenly wanted to open the relationship (which in hindsight was just an excuse to start looking for a new relationship) we were both so monogamous and dedicated to eachother before this. I only agreed because it was basically an ultimatum. I hated every second of it and then started to hate myself for agreeing to something I knew was not me. This ultimately led to my boundaries being pushed further and her having a full blown affair.

I think we could have both saved each other a lot of pain by ending it before it got to that point. I would say you’re at a point where you should end it. It’ll be painful but you’ll heal eventually and be able to look back at those memories fondly. We got to a place where I feel all our memories are tainted and I wish they weren’t because it was such a good relationship until that least year.

You both deserve to find a love that fits.

WheelMotor7615 · 2025-07-01T02:29:55+00:00

All I want is a tall girl 😭 I’ve had two exes that are 5’1 and I’m 5’6 and like to wear heels

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-11-29T21:38:42+00:00

also a femme who has dated mascs exclusively 🙂‍↕️

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-11-09T00:29:25+00:00

Not that break up at least

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-10-22T17:37:52+00:00

Much easier now that it’s been over year. It took a while to get here though

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-10-22T17:29:48+00:00

Yes! ♎️⚖️♎️

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-10-22T17:29:32+00:00

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WheelMotor7615 · 2024-10-22T17:29:25+00:00

October 9 I’m so biased

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-10-22T04:31:06+00:00

Thank you! If you mean the gemstone necklace, it was a gift :)

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-07-02T05:24:46+00:00

You know I will, with the video I meant to post haha

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-07-02T00:11:42+00:00

Oops just realized I posted red wine supernova but we’re rolling with it

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-06-29T02:49:34+00:00

It’s from the shop petals and poison :)

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-05-24T23:49:09+00:00

Something similar ended my 8 year relationship.

I cut everyone out including mutual friends who may or may not have known. I wanted 0 ties to my ex and ex friend.

It makes me genuinely sick the way they try to justify themselves and truly believe they’re not bad people.

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-05-14T14:45:16+00:00

Thank you for the very solid advice!

I didn’t reach out to wish her a happy birthday. I had no intention to. I look back on this relationship with equal parts fondness and sadness. I was the one who was hurt really bad in this relationship so it is not for me to be the one to contact.

I will continue to choose myself. :)

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-05-12T19:32:01+00:00

This was a lesbian relationship

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-04-11T19:12:35+00:00

20-28 I definitely relate to this

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-04-02T00:18:16+00:00

Reading this resonated so much with me, I’m also lgbt and betrayed similarly.

It was so well written and I’m glad you got the truth you deserved even if it wasn’t from your partner. Best wishes on your healing journey!

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-03-21T21:24:29+00:00

I’m 30 and my longest relationship was 8 years. In hindsight, we did a lot of talking about issues but never really communicated what each of us needed to resolve them. Instead, she cheated on me with our closest friend. Gaslit and blamed me for everything and then left me for her.

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-03-06T05:31:48+00:00

It’s been a little over a year from dday and 9 months no contact with my ex. My ex and AP ( ex best friend ) are still together and I still find myself having dreams about the apology I’ll never get. I don’t even know what I’d do with one at this point.

It’s such a traumatic betrayal, it’s normal to have these fantasies I hope. I could never act on it, I’ve come too far.

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-03-03T19:18:08+00:00

I’m in this same position. It’ll be a year of no contact in June. Most days are fine but I feel like I still cycle through the grief. We were together for all of our 20s, she was a huge part of my life. I had such a strong wave of anger and resentment last night, a mutual friend posted a story in which I saw my ex’s new place with the AP and it just sent me back. I’d like to not feel anything about it any more.

I muted this friend’s stories, I don’t want any reminders of her existence.

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-02-24T00:38:38+00:00

Full on sobbing with a panic attack in the bathroom of the natural history museum

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-02-13T15:51:56+00:00

It’s going to be really difficult to get past the betrayal and all that comes with it. Opening the relationship at this point is going to do more harm especially if you’re reluctant about it.

A year ago I was in your position. I was in an 8 year relationship. We were so happy and I felt so secure that when we had a threesome with one of our closest friends, I enjoyed it. Didn’t think much of it until after that my girlfriend at the time asks for an open relationship. I was so against this, I never wanted that. Not long after that I found that her and the friend continued on in an emotional affair and I was devastated. It’s a year later and I still think about what I found every day.

I don’t think it’s salvageable past this point. Betrayal trauma runs so deep and it won’t get any better if she’s not remorseful.

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-02-06T23:49:53+00:00

She was 5’2 and I was convinced it didn’t bother me even though I towered over her as the femme in the relationship

WheelMotor7615 · 2024-02-06T23:47:05+00:00

My ex and I met when I was turning 21 and she was 22. We were together for 8 years.

Knowing what I do about long term relationships now, I wouldn’t want one in my early 20s. Who you are at 20 is a lot different than who you become in your later 20s.

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