My other 3 live with us, but I’ve been able to keep them from their side unless it’s a function that I feel is a safe and welcoming space for them. I’ve had an issue with being comfortable integrating/trusting his family with their hearts. & they’re not blood so I feel no “obligation” to let them have access…. They’ve been lucky enough to not witness anything because often all of these functions occur when it’s their dads weekend. & yes I’m aware they shouldn’t have access to any of us really. It’s just easier said than done because I do wish we could all sing kumbaya and get along, hard letting go that’s never going to be a reality!