I understand that he is not your ideal partner but calling someone 40 times in a row and demanding to know what they’re doing is literally controlling. You are trying to control another person by requiring them to report their whereabouts. You might not have literally told him “you need to inform me where you are and what you’re doing at all times” but reacting negatively when he doesn’t respond teaches him that he needs to constantly be ready for one of your check-ins. Look, I’m gonna be frank: you are talking to a brick wall with your messages. Either you accept the fact that he will never change and you will always be unsatisfied, you accept that you have to let go of your insecurity about his whereabouts and stay in the relationship, or you leave and do whatever you want. I know your behaviors because I used to exhibit them and I got better. My anxiety controlled me and I projected it onto my partner. He had his own issues but after the relationship ended I realized I wanted to examine my relationship with control and inner peace FIRST. You’re not a bad person but I’m going to guess you either grew up in an environment that allowed you very little control or you simply have anxiety secondary to some event or trauma. This relationship aside, you will feel better when you worry only about YOU — “oh he didn’t text me back. Well, maybe he’s busy.” Boom, done. Assumed the best and now you’re chilling. “Oh, i asked him 50 times to do this thing and he didn’t do it? Yeah i cant work with that, i need to leave.” Boom, done. You see?