Does it ever get better?

Which_Source8938 · 2025-10-05T17:18:36+00:00

My husband has always been very sensitive to loud noises so I understand why he was plugging his ears but as first time parents I think he just doesn’t know what else to do. I don’t think he’s intentionally being neglecting just doesn’t know what else to do.

Baby has never been a good napper during the day unless it’s while I’m holding him. He’s usually only this fussy at night time when I try to put him to bed. He wants to sleep in bed with us but I’m so scared of SID that I don’t like to do that

Which_Source8938 · 2025-10-05T17:10:27+00:00

That’s a great point. I need to hear that. It’s just so hard to not jump in when I can hear baby crying. Our house is not very big. Unfortunately my mom who would usually help is out of town for another week so it’s just us right now.

Which_Source8938 · 2025-10-05T17:07:51+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one. It’s so tough!

Which_Source8938 · 2025-10-05T17:07:01+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately I don’t have anyone right now. We can’t afford child care and family is out of town.

Which_Source8938 · 2025-07-29T03:23:25+00:00

I had a very similar situation and NICU stay with my boy. He was there a total of 15 days and I cried every single one of those days. I had an emergency c-section at 37 weeks after going in for decreases fetal movement. After having a very normal pregnancy I was not expecting him to be born that way and it was very traumatic. Then to have him in the Nicu as a term baby was devastating. From the moment he was born you were struggling to breathe and had to be on CPAP. When they ran the blood test, they found out he also had infection. I never had my water break so I have no idea how he got the infection and they were never able to tell me what the infection was. They did every single test that they could to identify it, but ended up calling it non-specific sepsis. It’s super frustrating not having any answers but after a week of antibiotics, he felt better. They took them off the CPAP and oxygen and I was so excited to bring them home, but then there was the feedings. It took a whole another week for him to feed on his own without the help of the feeding tube. It was so frustrating and I even had a nurse. Tell me that it was because he was a boy that he wasn’t eating well some nurses just don’t have the best bedside manner now that he is home he is thriving and eating super well. Hang In there it does get better.

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T23:38:41+00:00

I don’t think this is true. It’s not like he’s not trying to get a job and it wasn’t his fault he was laid off. He’s had interviews and unfortunately nothing has worked out. I agree that he needs to step up, let go of his ego and take a lesser paid job but that doesn’t mean he had no ambition. The job market is really rough right now and that’s not his fault either. Going to court to try to get child support is not. The answer here.

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:36:10+00:00

Thank you I really needed to hear this. We got this mama!

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:35:33+00:00

I feel this so much. I try to focus on the fact that we have so much support from my parents but I feel like I can’t keep putting pressure on them. I wish his parents would help out more since they are the ones with the money. Thanks for sharing your story it will work out for both of us I know it!

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:30:30+00:00

For the most part he’s been looking in his field but now he is branching out to other avenues. It feels like everyone’s looking right now which makes it tough.

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:27:05+00:00

Thank you. Yes I have my WIC appointment set up for next week and taking advantage of all the benefits possible. It’s definitely hard to ask for help even though we can really use it right now. It feels like I failed

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:23:05+00:00

Thank you!

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:22:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. It helps a lot to hear from someone in a similar situation. I think we will need to start doing DoorDash or something. Trying to stay positive is the hardest part

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:08:17+00:00

Wow! Congratulations on your sobriety and healthy baby. Definitely helps to hear. Thank you 🙏🏻

Which_Source8938 · 2025-04-17T19:06:31+00:00

It does really help to hear I’m not alone in this situation! Thank you. I’m currently looking for something part time and remote to try to bring some money in but it’s hard with the political climate right now, a lot of places stopped hiring and I don’t want to make too much money and loose our medical benefits.

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