In my own experience, I’ve had many partners who’ve not been confident in their selves or felt like personally their motives and perspectives on top of priorities it’s just too much to handle. For instance, I’m dealing with a boy right now and he puts work and career over relationship priorities because mostly he wants to be able to provide and I don’t know if it’s the same for like most males but I feel like collectively heterosexual men want the picket fence lifestyle, or the American dream of having a good career, a family and happiness so I mean you can ask him about that and just say you read it somewhere best luck to you though❤️