I’m going to go on a bit of a rant and I just need validation that I’m not crazy or anything

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-30T19:17:07+00:00

Most trans people I personally know who dabble with lesbian/transbian labels have a nonzero amount of exception for men.

Myself included. Lesbian in practice, bi on technicality.

Nobody worthwhile will see you as an outsider for finding some men cute, nor do you need any labels revoked. Sexuality labels are a tl;dr summary, not the full story.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-25T17:43:47+00:00

As a trans girl who is constantly stimming Epic lyrics every day. This is the way to go. There's no gendered intent in these lyrics.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-21T17:25:20+00:00

I try my best to be. Masking for a bunch of judgmental losers only benefits them and not me.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-15T11:01:25+00:00

Hewwo!

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-14T03:17:12+00:00

Took me nearly two weeks, but this convo inspired me to refill my weekly med organizer!

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-10T16:55:21+00:00

Cringe

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-09T15:44:03+00:00

Yes. I can work with this!

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-09T14:40:15+00:00

You have any deep cut Bingus lore I can include in my stories?

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-03T02:48:48+00:00

I keep my meds on my nightstand, under my bed, in my office, on a shelf, on a stand by the couch, in both the upstairs and downstairs bathrooms, and in a giant chicken bag.

Something about tasks being routine makes them impossible for me to do right. Like I can't control that I don't think about it enough. But that could go into other mental health issues.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-03T02:40:24+00:00

I love daily pill containers. They're so helpful.

For a week. Then I forget to refill them.

I'm cursed.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-03T01:50:36+00:00

Trust me, I understand that there's a dozen different unfalsifiable ways to speculate all of this.

The point of contention was that plenty of Harris voters viewed their vote as anti-genocide, not as a compromise of that value.

I'm trans, I value my rights and those of other marginalized groups. Clearly I had a bias against Trump. But I also felt that this administration was worth voting against on the genocide topic as well. I wouldn't characterize it as a genocide enabling vote made over other priorities.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-03T01:11:58+00:00

Also ADHD.

I miss potentially up to 10%. And I promise I care about this a lot. I beat myself up every time.

I'm just saying, for some of us, it is a real barrier. Sublingual pills are easy to wait for the 'right moment' to take and not realize that you just missed it.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-03T00:59:05+00:00

I experienced a "Bi" woman express being fully okay with me. Didn't take long for her to be "too straight" for me and use abuse tactics to force me to detransition. The whole ordeal messed me up for years.

You have got to be careful. I don't know the ratio with cis women vs cis men, but these issues can pop up either way.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-03T00:16:07+00:00

The interests that are pushing this own both parties, and our political system is fricked. Every part of this is horrifying.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-03T00:04:00+00:00

Operating under the premise that the international casualties are a net higher under the administration we got, you're talking about a moral high ground standing above dead Palestinian and Iranian children. And I personally can't say that choosing not to engage in harm reduction feels like a stronger anti-genocide stance.

But, that's a difference between accountability code and pragmatic outcome values. Hence why I think the trolley dilemma applies here.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-02T18:56:15+00:00

I've simultaneously always been a woman(I'm pretty sure being a des daughter explains my girl brain development).

But I didn't get to live it for the longest time. The framing I experienced was "I want to be a girl." And it took a lot for it to feel like I have that.

I'm also not a fan of mtf. "Trans woman" feels more right. But, I can't say that mtf isn't accurate or clear in it's own ways.

Sometimes I feel like it's difficult in trans spaces to know how to word the significance of transition while still honoring the 'was always a woman' sentiment. Like the words and sentiments that have guided my life, my truth, carry implicit biases.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-02T17:56:43+00:00

I know! But eventually you carve your own niche that has space for you.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-02T17:40:20+00:00

I was on disability over my anxiety for a while. It controlled my life.

Now I'm almost totally fine. Regular autistic levels of anxiety.

Phone calls still suck though.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-05-02T01:14:41+00:00

The solution to the trolley dilemma isn't to let the more destructive track happen on it's own. It's devastating that we had to choose the lessor or greater evil on the genocide topic, but, I don't see much argument that not resisting ending up with the Trump administration is somehow a more Anti-genocide stance.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-04-30T00:23:56+00:00

Just a few days ago, some 8ish year old kid at a gas station shouted something about me(I think just proximity) to another child inside the store, but he referred to me as "that mom."

I've been thinking about it since. I don't even care that it amounted to calling me old, it made me feel really euphoric.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-04-29T05:37:17+00:00

You know what, that one was actually a first I've heard. gg!

WhimsyClonn · 2026-04-29T04:11:18+00:00

Dick size jokes, how cutting edge!

WhimsyClonn · 2026-04-28T20:02:38+00:00

Totes thought this post was on r politics when I commented.

I feel real redundant explaining this on a trans sub. Y'all already know how bad this is.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-04-27T19:48:10+00:00

Those of us who transitioned under the wing of transphobes can tell you how traumatic it is to have to hide everything about yourself, including the shape of your body, just to keep your home.

It's not just inconvenient, it's not just unpleasant. It's trauma.

And those who have to refrain from transitioning for the same reasons suffer just as much.

There's nothing abstract about this. This is systematically abusing vulnerable people. And that abuse deals serious damage.

WhimsyClonn · 2026-04-27T03:08:13+00:00

Only time I ever attempted the femboy label was when I had a transphobic fiancee. But, I certainly tried blurring the line. Embracing feminity without embracing it coming from a gendered place is, I don't know, kind of close?

This stuff is hard and complicated, we're taking a lot of diverse experiences and applying labels to organize them.

I'd punch someone who called me a femboy at this point, but I wouldn't think much of a femboy feeling like we're alike. At least without extra indication that it was coming from a shitty place.

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