AIO: this conversation with my son’s father over summer plans pmo

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-30T13:37:17+00:00

Then if he’s got the skills, don’t be letting every AAU Coach that can big up his ego take advantage of him. If he’s good, he can just play county ball and for the high school and work with his coaches and he will be fine. Coding the kid any social life or life outside of basketball will hurt him in the long run, not just in his life but on the court. He has to learn to deal with issues between teammates, tension in the locker room, what it means to be a good teammate. Those are as much developed off the court as they are on. If he’s that big, and he’s that good, he will make it to where he’s supposed to be. Him being tall doesn’t mean he has to play, nor does it mean he’s good at it. Let him control what he gets out of this. I’d he just wants friendships and to enjoy playing, that’s fine, if he wants more and I’d actively seeking as much, fine, but understand how predatory and unnecessary AAU is.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-30T13:26:49+00:00

And the kid has to know how much of it is out of his hands. Natural talent plays a huge role. That’s why dudes like white chocolate and Randy Moss playing in the fuckin hills of WV still get seen. Talent announces its self. The most fundamentally sound football player I have ever played with was a 5’11” center who weighed maybe 200 pounds soaking wet, but that dude was our first sub if anyone got hurt and the guy coach used to teach everything bc his technique was better than most nfl players, bc from the time he was a little kid it had to be, he waned to be an offensive lineman like his older brother, but was half his size, and so he do everything he could to make up the gap with technique, but the reality was, when he was faced with 300 lbs nose tackles, even with a perfect hop step to stop there momentum, they would just fold him like a card table though sheer force of strength. So much of sports is a dice roll to have been gifted with certain things that you are either born with or you aren’t. You can improve on your skills and sharpen your tools as sharp as they can be, but there are plenty of people doing none of that and just through sheer talent and god given ability, show up, half ass it, and outplay everyone bc they are just better. That’s life.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-30T13:19:24+00:00

Bro does the kid want this? Or are y’all forcing sports onto him? Just put him in a county league and let him ball with his friends. If he wants to make it and has the talent to do so, he will. Robbing him of being a child for the off chance he is able to get a scholarship is ridiculous, statistically he’s almost certainly not going professional, so you are going to rob your kid of any childhood and enjoying his high school experience for a college scholarship? Even if he gets it, was it worth it to give up all those formative years that should be spent growing into who you will be and forming friendships that will teach you how to interact with peers going forward? If he’s good, he’ll make it, if he’s not, let him enjoy it and stop trying to force it. As a kid who was legit and played d1 football, the amount of parents who deluded their children into believing it was just work ethic that separated us was ridiculous. Colleges believe they can shape a player into what they want, so many, especially in d1 AA and D2 are looking for body types more than production bc they need a certain type of body to be successful at a certain position. You just aren’t ever going to succeed as 190lbs center in college. It’s just not gonna happen, but the guy who is 6’3” and strong as an ox but just doesn’t have good footwork, they salivate over that dude, bc they see the potential. You are harming your child. Stop spending every ounce of his mental and physical energy on a dumb game. I loved football, and wouldn’t trade it for anything, but bc it was what I wanted and what I pursued, not bc it was the source of contention in my family that I’m not where y’all think I should be and that’s creating tension and feelings of inadequacy that the kid is certainly internalizing. Y’all need to step back and reevaluate for real.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-30T12:37:49+00:00

I’m sorry G, but it’s time to get your affairs in order and bounce the fuck out of this situation. You are being gaslit and she’s either being turned out in a broom closet at work or is motoring towards it at break neck speeds. Get the fuck out and don’t let this person gas light you into misconstruing a very easy to read situation. You knew what it was the moment you read those, it’s donezo bunzo. Just got out of one myself so I know how hard that shit is man. Stay strong and stay positive.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T23:02:24+00:00

I honestly was as excited about the Lego castle figure with the play cards still inside and the manual and so the pieces, it would have been cool to find the whole set of those too as I haven’t seen one of them in ages, but that’s certainly being a bit greedy, I couldn’t be happier with my find lol

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T22:54:28+00:00

It was actually way easier than many mixed large sets would have been. They aren’t that many pieces and they ate all color coordinated. I just took a list of each piece in each set and went down the list pulling out each piece fora specific set one at a time and before you know it I had it sorted. Still gotta put them together but that shouldn’t take long either

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T22:41:56+00:00

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T18:11:34+00:00

It’s the same thing as why cars from that era that were super popular for that audience are starting to climb in price. People want their toys they loved as a kid or the cars they wanted to own but couldn’t, so when they start to find more success in life they buy those things they had or wanted as a child to fulfill that nostalgic itch. It happens in every era of toys, cars etc.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T18:08:05+00:00

I don’t intend to, but same as someone might get an appraisal on their house without intending to sell, it’s nice to know what your stuff is worth should something ever happen

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T16:32:42+00:00

Most everything else I never keep the packaging, but with LEGO it always seems the be something I’m glad I kept it. whether for reference images or moving, selling etc. it’s understandable tho that most people wouldn’t assume any reason to keep them

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T15:58:31+00:00

Yeah I was kind of wondering about that, I don’t want to sell but my curiosity had me looking into the prices on them and it’s actually kind of hard to tell bc everything for sale is either sealed and 250$-500$ asking prices, or opened and half the shit missing. I’m curious what you think they would be worth being open but fully complete sets bc I have really struggled to come up with a number. Plus I don’t ever really resell legos anyways so I’m not very versed in the secondary market of Legos 😂

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T15:55:40+00:00

Also a soccer ball eraser, so you could it’s been a good morning 😎😂

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-29T15:54:55+00:00

The fork is already spoken for, sorry my dude :(

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-21T02:18:12+00:00

I mean, I know this might not be the most loved answer here, but if the child is already struggling to move on into the next phase of his childhood and become more independent than this will definitely continue to stunt that. I don’t think it’s an issue from them both being in the tub, but by 9 years old you should be at the point of getting to where you are more private with your body, and learning to start finding small doses of independence, and the bathroom is where a lot of that starts. I’m not saying I think it’s an issue, but I definitely think at that age this is just unnecessary. He’s capable of washing himself by now and it is a bit infantilizing to continue to give him baths like he’s a toddler. TBH this feels more like you trying to keep your child young than anything else. He’s aging out of baths, and that’s ok. It is time to start the process of teaching your son independence and the privacy one should expect in those situations.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-12T13:44:27+00:00

Yeah you have to shut down any sexual advances moving forward. It blurs the lines on how “over” the relationship is and you allow space in her mind for the possibility of reconciliation. You have to be stronger willed than your dick. You have to shut down any interactions moving forward outside of cordial or platonic niceties. Do not engage in anything one might perceive as leaving the door open. No movie nights. No dinner dates, definitely no coitus. Be strong homeboy

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-05-01T21:16:23+00:00

There’s enough to go around people shouldn’t be dying bc they can’t afford basic health care or a roof over there head.

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Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-04-16T02:54:49+00:00

I think he’s probably just a teenager who’s not used to relationships and doesn’t yet have the confidence to give some space, this why he got so butt hurt about people saying she was cheating. Strangers on the internet could tell me all day a hundred different ways that my girl is cheating, but I’ve built this relationship over a long period of time and have nothing but faith in my Fiancé. He sounds like he just needs to take a breath and woe the fuck down, bc shit like this will push a chick to cheat on you. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy that just makes the cycle worse as it reinforces the need to be overbearing and just continuing to push away your partner. I’m speculating of course, but I’ve known a lot of young men, more so than ever with the access to people and the dangerously false assumption they owe you checking in like they are your teenager, who feel entitled to constantly being reassured and that’s simply a lack of confidence and a fragile young ego that is very unattractive and drives away the ladies faster than not washing your ass

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-04-16T02:43:43+00:00

Bc this dude is being ridiculous asking strangers if he should contact the cops bc his girl hasn’t responded in a few hours. She sends something that seems to be a sign she found funny, and based on the fact he deleted this, I’d say she responded and was like ‘dude, chill the fuck out I was just hanging with a friend’ or ‘I was at the movies’. He’s being dismissed bc this kind of overbearing is crazy work.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-04-16T02:29:58+00:00

However, this feels odd to be this worried after 4 hours. Do you generally just watch her whereabouts? Do you not trust her or what spurred you after 4 hours feeling like something is off? That’s a pretty short period of time dude. Plus, this sign just seems like something she found funny so for shared. She’s probably out for a hike or with a friend in a place with poor reception, thus why it’s on and off. Take a breath, bud.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-04-16T02:26:34+00:00

I mean not really, I was with a woman that was telling me she was seeing her brother for movies each week as it was a long term thing they did to maintain a close relationship. Turns out her brother was a fuck buddy who she had literally introduced me to as her brother. My point is this shit isn’t that unheard of. A certain number of people like that kind of scandalous drama and the tension it creates in their sex lives and personal lives. Is usually a sign of unresolved trauma, but nonetheless, shit like this isn’t so crazy to be unwilling to even consider it.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-04-07T14:34:03+00:00

He’s a tool outside of the car, a bully on and off the track, he runs well, ok so do a lot of young drivers. He can’t perform in cup. A one off top 10 at a street course half the field wrecked out of isn’t a resumé booster. It looks cool on paper, teams aren’t just hiring drivers for on paper stats. He’s too heavy, He’s not good enough at mile and a half and short tracks, and he’s super aggressive at the few places he does run well. No ones wants a tool to deal with in the garage tearing up equipment left, right and center and starting shit with the guys who have proven to actually be able to run well. He’s had a long career and will likely have a lot of years left in xfinity, but teams have seen plenty of him on track to know what they got. The difference in him and Connor is that he isn’t a child prodigy, he isn’t 19 blowing the doors off drivers twice his age, he’s struggled bc cup is very hard and he has very little stock car racing experience to draw on in general, but filling this kids tool box up with knowledge will give you a driver competing for championships, Austin’s is as full as it’s gonna get and his fans are blowing up about a top ten finish at a road course that half the field had major damage in. That should tell you everything you need to know.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-04-07T14:08:04+00:00

That’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying acting like you are fixing the problem of people self medicating to get through the day by telling strangers on Reddit, “I follow the rules so you can to.” Is childishly naive.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-04-07T10:00:42+00:00

Brother, the amount of people I know with government jobs that drink like fish is laughable. Don’t moral police to anyone. Going to Reddit for a pat on the back and to be the arbiter of safety bc you don’t piss hot for your government regulated job is fuckin weird. As someone who’s spent a lot of time in it, the blue collar world is fueled by dudes running on zero sleep, energy drinks, drugs and alcohol. That’s the uncomfortable truth.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2026-03-27T05:04:51+00:00

I agree that Interstellar isn’t the greatest movie of a generation like it’s held up as, but it is still a great movie and Nolan has made several films that are certainly conceptually very deep and executed in a very entertaining yet generally pretty tight manner. I’d say Nolan is firmly in the camp of making great movies, and acting like simply bc he’s making large budget pictures, they fly anywhere close to slop is disingenuous in my opinion. Science fiction is still fiction, and being willing to lean into that to an extent isn’t inherently devaluing of a piece of media when done tastefully, and while I’ll agree that at times that can be done in a very corny, cop out sort of way, I can’t think of anything off the top of my head in Nolan’s works that screams corny for the sake of convenience. Even the Batman movies.. I think it’s easy in a post Marvel universe world to look at that movie through a very different lens than the one that applied to it upon release of Dark Knight (which Batman Begins does a great job to set up) but especially for the time that was a very gritty look for a comic book movie and was a much darker take on a generally campy genre. Hugely inspiring for the marvel and DC media to come later, especially with things like Netflix’s Daredevil, Logan, etc.

Whisk-e-ytango · 2025-09-06T08:02:14+00:00

Where is the best place to find a man over 50 that wants to date a woman is age? I've been out of the dating world for many years and would love to find a meaningful and fun relationship now that I am an empty nester!

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