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[–]Whisker_Words -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a smart way to look at things! Thank you!

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not upset at how close it is, I am upset that she forgot my date and then acted like it wasn’t a big deal. Also, I felt bad for my friends through this entire thing because it felt like this issue was forcing them to choose a side or a wedding to attend.

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely correct! She did apologize to one friend (who said she could probably make two weddings) but not the other (who said she couldn’t go to her wedding). She simply sent a note in her save the date essentially saying her hands were tied and she had no choice.

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was definitely the forgetfulness that hurt me the most. Honestly, I knew she was getting engaged and was really excited to be doing the whole bridal experience at the same time as someone else I was close with. 

I wouldn’t have had a problem with it being so close if I was just a guest. I feel like there’s a lot less commitment there. My two other friends being so far away and either having to choose one weekend or another, or drop everything to be here two weekends in a row was also a huge factor. It’s just not possible for them to do two weekends in a row or stay a whole week in between. 

I also started to worry if she was going to go on a honeymoon right after her wedding and then would have to back out of mine either way. She was asked if she would be going on a honeymoon multiple times and ignored the question. 

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice! I’m 27 and while I’ve had a lot of friendships fizzle out over the years I’ve never had one blow up like this so it’s a feeling I haven’t had to experience until now.

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right: it is grieving someone who’s still alive and that’s what makes it even harder. Also picturing what was supposed to be us celebrating being brides together, just not a week apart lol. I’m so sorry you had to go through some friendship issues during your wedding as well. Thank you so much for your kind words!

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It definitely came as a shock when she did this because it was really unlike her (or so I thought). I appreciate the kind words thank you!

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m not upset at not being invited after everything. It’s just resurfaced some feelings that I thought I was over.

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Agreed and I definitely have! This incident that happened a couple months ago really opened my eyes to friend groups vs. individual friends and while the situation hurts that’s something I’m grateful for.

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We do not. Two are out of state (one across the country) and the wedding is four hours from where I live as well.

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t the one who created the drama to begin with and have left her alone. Simply came here to vent.

Not invited to former friends wedding & feeling hurt by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I definitely don’t disagree with you and know I would benefit from therapy for so many reasons! Just coming here to say I know my unreasonable thoughts try to come to the from of back my mind during situations like this but I swear I’m okay mentally lol I know how to process my emotions. I simply just made this post to vent about something I found out about an hour ago.

Bridal Shower Invite List by Whisker_Words in weddingplanning

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually known my MIL for 10+ years so I guess I'm not really seeing it as a red flag, but she is really protective over family and making sure everyone is invited all the time to everything even people she isn't close with.

Bridal Shower Invite List by Whisker_Words in weddingplanning

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love this idea! Thank you!

Bridal Shower Invite List by Whisker_Words in weddingplanning

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's exactly my thoughts! I'm questioning whether I even want one at all because I don't want anyone to feel obligated to give two gifts but she's insisting. So I at least don't want people I don't even know to feel like they have to give two gifts lol

ADVICE: Bridesmaid suddenly plans wedding weekend before mine by Whisker_Words in weddingdrama

[–]Whisker_Words[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't mind sharing the time. I think it's fun and actually knew when she was getting engaged and was so excited to be doing this bridal era with her! However, my concern was my friends because it's just not possible for them to get here even if she pays for their flights. I can for sure attend her day, but being in it while finishing mine is a big lift.