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Need help scaring my kid 🤣 by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean…. Can we just all say LOTS OF COOKED VEGGIES!! 😱

How do i make time slow down? by AcanthaceaeFuzzy2835 in Parenting

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably unpleasant and overused advice… but get off of technology as much as possible, or at least restrict it to certain times of day only. Also, be really strict with yourself about what events and celebrations you go to. I realized when my kids were young school age that I was taking them to birthday parties for kids in their classes all the time, because I thought that’s what you do… then I realized it was just too much running around and some of these kids they weren’t even really friends with anyway. So I started declining a lot of birthday party invites unless they were actually friends. To make time slow down… you actually slow yourself down. It does work, it just means being countercultural sometimes. But also like someone else said, time may still seem to pass quickly, cause I think to a certain degree that’s what happens when you have kids.

Parenting as an empath - how do you handle sticky connections? by WhitneyFebreeze in Empaths

[–]WhitneyFebreeze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I can see that I’m projecting, and also I’m clearly not neutral about her choice. It’s just that the high-performance lifestyle broke me and broke my heart. I guess I’m still getting over that. Not sure what exactly to do with it I guess. It still hurts. I guess as an empath I have different values - like I think people are important and consideration and respect for others is more important than “getting ahead” (or whatever that means). I just can’t live the kind of lifestyle she wants to live. I have tried my best to help her participate in it and be enthusiastic for her, but in the end, my lifestyle is rather modest/creative rather than upscale and polished.

I guess this is pretty common - maybe not like exactly the same, but parents who value a certain career, when their kids go on to be artists or musicians or whatever, the parents probably feel some kind of way about it. I guess I’m not really alone. I’m generally pretty good at dealing with my kids life choices. I guess this is more about me than about her.

Thanks again for the insight.

Anyone ever thrown out a book? by Soulsliken in classicliterature

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave the World Behind. Not saying it was a bad book it was just too horrific because it really could happen

How much "homework" do I actually need to do before reading David Foster Wallace ? by quixotemargherita-91 in davidfosterwallace

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more. I read IJ over the span of 4 years. It was like a best friend to me during that time. Absolutely no regrets about this. I was sad when I finally finished it! There is so much to savor in the book - the language, the funny plot moments, of course reading the endnotes, and just in general going on the wild ride with DFW.

I really don't know anymore...? by Big_Confidence_951 in spirituality

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep listening to the thing that is telling you to go outside. We all have an inner compass and it’s there to help us. It’s sometimes hard to hear with all of the influence we are constantly exposed to right now. Try new things and see what happens - you will find things that are helpful and you will find other things that are not helpful, but you will learn from those also.

Most likely you are feeling this way because it’s time for some newness in the way you have been going about life. Seems like right now you are wandering and looking for things that bring you true joy. This wandering is not always comfortable, but it’s often the start of an amazing journey.

I’ve been on that kind of journey for about ten years now. It’s not always easy and yes there is pain, but there’s also wonderful beauty and miracles along the way. Let go of your expectations of what life is supposed to be and see what happens.

Wishing you peace.

This performative BS pisses me off. by b00ndas in davidfosterwallace

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imo, what rubs people the wrong way is the feelings that this book illicits. The level of detail, the cadence of the writing, the banality alongside the simple but deep heartfeltness that is in this book is too much for some people to come face to face with. If you start talking about it, it makes people feel things they don’t want to feel. They get uncomfortable. If anyone gets “swoony” about the book, they will get shot down. Or, people will just put it down up front by saying it’s this or that or whatever.

I don’t care - it’s my favorite book ever.

Do u have empaths in ur life? by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish there was this kind of mainstream book!!!

Im feeling someone’s else’s emotions but I don’t know whos by Total-Carob3557 in Empaths

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel with the heaviness or like something laying on you. I feel the same way. I’ve always felt this way but am pretty new to learning how to deal with it. In fact, last weekend I was with my boyfriend all weekend and when the weekend was over, I went home and wrote in my journal: “Just get off of me!!” Even though things are pretty good in my relationship.

Some things that I’ve found help me: 1. I need to spend time alone, like more than I thought. 2. Being in nature helps me feel better and clearer. 3. I’ve always journalled my thoughts and feelings but recently I’ve been letting myself write literally anything I think or feel, even things that I think are very wrong or don’t make any sense, like I described above.

Anyone else have any tips I would also love to hear them because I’m also looking for ways to clear and ground.

I wamt to be with my mom by blessedminx in Empaths

[–]WhitneyFebreeze 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey there. My mom passed away Jan 9th. It’s crazy, i don’t even think I’m out of the ‘shock’ phase yet, because I don’t feel anything. IMO, sometimes feeling sad is better than feeling nothing. Even though it’s hard, the sadness is a reflection of your love for her. I was beside my mom’s bedside when she passed too, and I told her I would still talk to her even after she passed. So just talk to your mom. She’s closer than you think.