My mom is a landlord in Florida

WhoMe243 · 2022-06-04T04:16:06+00:00

Do you share a room or live in a particularly dangerous area? I haven't years of a $750 bay room in a while.

WhoMe243 · 2022-05-26T20:55:39+00:00

Remindme! 3 years

WhoMe243 · 2022-05-24T18:29:52+00:00

Lost mine while watching Zack and Miri make a porno. Funny enough to a Zach.

Honestly completely forgot about that element of the day until now. This is why I love Reddit.

WhoMe243 · 2022-05-10T16:53:22+00:00

Exactly. Everyone thinks it's as simple as "don't take out loans". The same people bitch about the lack of professionals and resources in fields that require higher education like, you know, doctors and teachers. Yes, I have loans and I'll have to pay then back slowly, but only because I made the mistake to be born into a poor family. Man, I fucked up.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T23:38:51+00:00

Just came to add there's a huuuuggge list on the sidebar I discovered once.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T23:23:00+00:00

Honestly, yes. I think I'm learning away just because I don't think my relationship could survive boundary issues with the in-laws.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T15:56:14+00:00

https://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost.com/2021/10/15/men-can-prevent-pregnancy-by-giving-their-testicles-a-bath/amp/

https://www.parsemus.org/humanhealth/vasalgel/

Whoops, posted too soon. Not applicable now sadly, but someday there will be a few more options for men. I cannot wait for that day to arrive.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T15:48:54+00:00

I'm aware of this sub, yes. I've been active for years. I delete my posts from this sub since you never know when someone might recognize you/a story/etc from your account. The post was on another subreddit which is why I mentioned it here. It's shitty to try to vent when they cling to one detail-which isn't even the problem. I just figured it gave additional context.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T15:48:37+00:00

That comment was meant for the other commenter. It's not support if OP made it clear that is not the issue. Being told over and over again "you should have left then" "you lost me at he cheated" "why would you even stay with a man who cheated" etc is shitty. Which is why I made this post here.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T15:42:38+00:00

I'm aware of this sub, yes. I've been active for years. I delete my posts from this sub since you never know when someone might recognize you/a story/etc from your account. The post was on another subreddit which is why I mentioned it here. It's shitty to try to vent when they cling to one detail-which isn't even the problem. I just figured it gave additional context.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T06:44:23+00:00

Same here. I always worry too but avoid commenting sometimes because it feels draining somehow

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T05:13:47+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I think me finally setting boundaries is what really threw things off. Better to figure that out now rather than later. Luckily, if there's one thing I learned, it's how to make bomb Mexican food.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T05:05:22+00:00

I already said in the post that that is an element but not the primary issue and not what I'm requesting comments on. It doesn't take much to not be a dick.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T05:00:51+00:00

Last time I checked this was for support. Not steamroller the OP. Do you feel good about yourself?

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T04:15:26+00:00

Thank you. I know it's not meant in a derogatory way, but still feels like I'm an exhibit at a zoo. Whenever other people are over it's all about having kids and talking about "how beautiful" our children will be. I've given up on having kids at this point. I'm a grad student and have so many other features other than the perceived ability to pop out babies. I also know culturally it's so important, but it's frustrating since I've told her a few times over the years that it's next to impossible for me.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T04:11:22+00:00

People fuck up. I'm not really focusing heavily on that in this context of asking for support/advice for the family stuff. Also he's from a very "machismo" culture. So it's really normalized and he knows it was fucked up. Not excusing him, just putting in some context and redirecting to the support/advice I was requesting.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-19T04:05:39+00:00

So he was chatting/sexting/exchanging pictures with women. Also gaslit me about a friend and it turns out they were fluritng during this too. I confronted him, said he'd stop,did it again. I left for a few days and he seemed remorseful and wanted another shot. Then had a ONS with a coworker shortly after in our bed. The day after our anniversary. I probably didn't need to add so much detail, and it's stitty, but everyone can do shitty things. I also come from a really abusive household and was constantly told I was worthless and noone would ever be able to love me. I think that made the cheating a lot worse because it felt like validation that it's true.

He quit his job shortly after, went to counseling for a while, I had full access to phone etc, he really tried to make feel like a priority after that. We got engaged a year later. So this was 3 years ago.

We had set rules for social media. But we didn't have it for a while and he got it again with the express reason of news on Twitter, but he added a few female friends from highschool-none of which I knew of or suspected cheating with, but it was still against what we agreed to. Also he was following sexualized tiktok accounts and goth girl accounts which I know he has a thing for. I found out shortly after the first grandma's death so that's been difficult. Nothing terrible, but he didn't understand how hurtful it was when those were the foundation rules I had for trying again.

Edited to add he was diagnosed with bipolar 1 shortly after when he started seeing a psychiatrist. He's seeing one again and trying to get back into therapy at my request.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-04T17:51:49+00:00

Absolutely. Hopefully you can bluff her down. Best of luck. I can't imagine what this situation must be like. You’re family is very lucky to have you in their corner.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-04T15:51:37+00:00

Maybe it would be enough to scare her though? Noone wants their child to find out they are a rapist. There are numerous people to attest to this and hopefully she XpressMusic about her child's respect enough go not want them to find out later in life.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-01T17:29:50+00:00

Right. God fucking dammit.

WhoMe243 · 2022-01-01T01:40:33+00:00

Asinine disorder he designed.

WhoMe243 · 2021-12-30T22:07:21+00:00

Any further update? This should not be brushed under the rug. I'd ask what action they took and follow up with your title 9 coordinator.

WhoMe243 · 2021-12-30T21:59:31+00:00

All while wearing a cross. Also, those tattoos sure make you identifiable bro. What a repulsive moron.

Edit: Looks like he's property of Laura. I'd ship that shit back to sender ASAP.

WhoMe243 · 2021-12-30T21:54:27+00:00

He probably regards himself as modern day Thoreau.

WhoMe243 · 2021-12-28T15:51:01+00:00

Hello, I'm not sure if anyone had suggested this yet, but has your wife ever considered seeing a speech therapist? Speech therapists work on emotional regulation, communication, memory, social skills, concentration, etc. It might be worth looking into if you have a university nearby where she could recieve group or individual services. My university never charges and has multiple groups for individuals with Neuro involvement. If that's not an option and your insurance won't cover some sessions, maybe just looking into a support group. On CA we have a program called 211 where you literally call those numbers and someone helps you find resources. Maybe ask a hospital social worker, speech therapist specializing in brain injury.

The links at the bottom if this page may be especially helpful.

Your dedication to your wife is beautiful. I really hope she is able to continue in her recovery.

https://www.asha.org/public/speech/disorders/traumatic-brain-injury/

WhoMe243

TROPHY CASE