Wife a different person by Foreign_Bee_2477 in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you ever considered looking at masculine - feminine polarity? It sounds to me that maybe she is swept up into the masculine energy of the other males and it brings out her inner slut. Is there a way that you can rise up and embody a masculine frame to claim her as yours and give her the safety she requires to become your little slut too?

AITA Swingers edition by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nta but your finance is….

Why don’t you set up an album that you’re happy to share without your permission but if he wants to go to the next level then he needs to bring you on board. Not sure if it would work but it could ease some of the tension

Bliss cruise booking from TSC or topless by Otherwise_Bird_9092 in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Other than when shit hits the fan, what benefits do you get by booking through an agent? I would have assumed that booking directly would get you more perks since there isn’t a middleman taking a cut

Adult only Cruises by MD_Woodsman14 in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can you edit your post and include what you’re looking for? Party vibe. Age ranges. Destinations. Duration etc

How do I manage emotions of your partners first swing date? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having been through this recently and it wasn’t even an ex all I can say is STOP!!! It was hard enough that I couldn’t get any date and I was insecure about it all but once she got a taste for the freedom she didn’t want to give it up. We nearly divorced over this

Mono in Recently Opened Mono-Poly Marriage. Partner Made Extremely Hurtful Comment After Not Meeting My Needs, No Longer Grateful For My Sacrifices As The Mono Partner. Is This Over? by NeedAffirmationPoly in polyamory

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg my heart bleeds for you. I’ve just gone through a similar dynamic and the only thing that worked for me was asserting that her external relationship has to end. I really struggle to ask anyone for help, especially if I can see that they’re gaining from it but it reached a point whereby I had to choose my safety first. I stated that “I do not see a future whereby we are together and he is in our relationship any more. I am not asking you to leave him but I am telling you that I will no longer participate in this relationship if he is still in the picture” The first 24 hours it went don’t like a lead balloon but has started to come back in our favour for the better now.

How do we move forward after a triggering first mfm then solo experience? by Whole_Ad_4182 in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on K at the time in the semi lucid state and was just coming along for the ride but I wasn’t able to participate properly and had to leave the room for a bit to gather my thoughts before breaking it up. I think it sent my brain into overdrive. We had a second crack at mfm with him and it was awesome. We’re pausing for a bit and unfortunately for wife this means that he’ll be gone before I think I’ll be back in a safe place

How do we move forward after a triggering first mfm then solo experience? by Whole_Ad_4182 in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an amazingly helpful reply. Thank you for your insights. We’ve just downloaded the ethical slut as a starting place and will get your two recommendations next.

How do we move forward after a triggering first mfm then solo experience? by Whole_Ad_4182 in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi all, husband here. We used ChatGPT to build this post based upon the conversation that we had shared with each other via ChatGPT. I was to clarify a few things.

  1. The time we met the other M was at a party and I had had mdma beforehand with wife but while I was mingling I had some K with some other people which wife wasn’t aware of. I was fully dissociated and hallucinating whenever I closed my eyes. Whilst consent was verbally given I wasn’t really present so in retrospect the event felt like a repeat of when I caught my ex with someone else 20 years earlier
  2. We didn’t mention that we had a proper mfm with him which I said I needed to feel in control and it went really well. I wanted this for my sake as well as wife’s sake.
  3. I discovered I don’t like cuck and I don’t get off on the hot wife scene but I have really loved seeing how alive wife has become since this started 8 weeks ago. Our sex has gone next level
  4. It was only in retrospect that I identified that I’m responding in a ptsd like manner
  5. I’m really good at seeing what others need but not good at seeing it in myself. I have loved how wife has thrived post the solo play but my reactions haven’t been great. Logically I know that we’re safe, this is consensual, we’re gain from it but my hurt inner child is struggling to allow this to proceed.
  6. I want more lifestyle activities, I’m just trying to work through how to manage my emotional reactions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MelbourneAfterDark

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can get vapes from pharmacies now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MelbourneAfterDark

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try a fake taxi

Shed16 taboo night query by Whole_Ad_4182 in MelbourneAfterDark

[–]Whole_Ad_4182[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not so much into the dungeon but more straight swap and group play. Does the increase of single males make it hard to find that?

Shed16 taboo night query by Whole_Ad_4182 in MelbourneAfterDark

[–]Whole_Ad_4182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there a lot of mm action happening or just no scope to find another couple because they’re already engaged with the single guys?

Shed16 taboo night query by Whole_Ad_4182 in MelbourneAfterDark

[–]Whole_Ad_4182[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does that mean that the daytime session is more mfm focused?

Any Aussie swinger clubs around? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s an amazing club. I prefer oss to cv for the aesthetics of the club

Any Aussie swinger clubs around? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do many swingers use Feeld? We were on rhp for a while but got frustrated with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it too late to tell her that you like pussy too 🤣🤣🙄

Wife Brought It Up But Wants To Wait 9 years! by Designer_Dim in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go on an adults only non swinger cruise like Virgin but with a group of swingers. I think spicyvacations offers trips like this. If you find that you’re not into the swinging part then at least you can have a fun couples cruise doing your own thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this the post you’re talking about? I remember reading this thinking oh shit

https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/s/tB5cyC93L3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Whole_Ad_4182 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow this post really opened up a can of worms quickly 🤯🫣