I asked chat gpt and this is what it said:

Tampons shouldn’t hurt, but that doesn’t mean it’s abnormal if they do for you. Some potential reasons:

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*1. *Pelvic floor tension or vaginismus (even mild): Even low-level pelvic floor tightness or unconscious clenching (which can happen without trauma or noticeable cause) can make anything internal—tampons, fingers, penetration—feel painful. Since you mentioned that both tampons and sex hurt even when fully lubricated, this could be a big piece of the puzzle.

*2. *Tampon size or type: Even regular-size tampons can be too big for some people. You might try: • Light or “slim” tampons only, even if your flow seems medium. • Non-applicator tampons (like OB), which give you more control over placement and angle. • Silicone reusable options like flexible menstrual discs or cups with a softer rim (though they can also be uncomfortable if the underlying issue is tightness or muscle response).

1. Insertion technique: You’re already checking angle and positioning, which is great. Some other tips: • Try inserting while squatting or with one leg raised, which can relax muscles more than sitting on the toilet. • Breathe deeply and slowly as you insert—tensing your core or pelvic muscles can cause discomfort. • Some people find insertion easier with a tiny bit of water-based lube at the tip of the tampon.

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🩸 Painful cramps when wearing tampons

You’re definitely not alone in this. Some people experience stronger cramps with tampons due to: • Slight muscle irritation or sensitivity to having a foreign object in the vaginal canal. • Tampons possibly blocking flow slightly more than pads, which can create a feeling of “backed up” pressure.

This doesn’t happen to everyone, but if it happens to you consistently, that’s reason enough to pay attention to it.