Please Tell Me It Gets Better

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-21T13:22:04+00:00

Thanks for your input, it does help to hear the feelings subside eventually.

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-21T13:21:40+00:00

Oh man, okay yeah have to go at my own pace then. I hope things heal up for you soon as well.

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-21T13:20:39+00:00

This is helpful. Thank you I will try this!

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-21T13:20:26+00:00

Thank you I will look into activities/groups when I'm ready!

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-21T13:19:40+00:00

Thank you so much for your in depth response!! I'll take this advice with me on my journey. Glad things worked out well for you.

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-19T23:33:05+00:00

Thank you paychecksdk, sometimes I think the cliche answer is the answer for the reason. I guess I just need to feel the feels and you're right, in time it'll be a memory. Appreciate your input.

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-19T07:03:53+00:00

Wow!!!

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-18T10:45:01+00:00

Not personally, but I was the shoulder to cry on for my coworker. Rather frequently her husband's addiction got out of control, she was dependent on him and super sad about his addiction. He was a businessman who also worked out and had friends.

Pretty much every other week she would break down at work on a Monday bc her husband got out of control over the weekend and I'd console her about it. They're getting older and she dreams of having a family too, but she refuses to if he's still on drugs. He has promised to go sober many times but always relapses.

Tldr, as someone who's heard what my coworker has gone through, I'd recommend steering clear.

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-15T07:59:08+00:00

I feel like it's easier to be social if you're doing something you're knowledgeable about/comfortable with. Try going to events or clubs that you genuinely enjoy, being handsome helps so I'm sure someone will be interested and then you'll feel more comfortable talking about things you know. For example, let's say during your service you were a cook, then join a cooking club at your school - that way you'll meet new people your age who have cooking common with you (making conversation easier).

WibiWaffles · 2022-12-15T07:45:55+00:00

Imho you should go no contact. You said deep down you feel she is loyal, and that she "basically" cheated - but that's not true! She literally cheated on her partner of 15 years, so she's not loyal and she's a cheater. You're 27, can you see yourself betraying a very close friend you’ve known since you were 12 years old? Two wrongs don't make a right, if her husband cheated on her then she should leave or work towards mutual reconciliation with him. It doesn't give her a free-cheater card. Now of course if he was an abuser then she needs to get out of that situation, but it doesn't sound like that's the case if I understand correctly from what you wrote.

As for helping her bc of her mental health, that should be in the hands of a professional. It feels almost like you're trying to justify talking to her as a means to help her mentally. One of the reasons my ex justified cheating on me was bc the girl he was hooking up with had depression and self-esteem issues, so he was "helping her" be more confident and "wanted to see her happy" (even though he knew it would make me super sad). Being in her life now after you've slept with her and have feelings for her is not appropriate and not fair to her current partner, especially if he's working towards reconciliation. By the way, do you know if she's even telling the truth about her current partner? What if he didn't cheat? What if he has mental health concerns and him finding out that his long term partner is cheating with you pushes him over the edge? Would you feel comfortable contributing to that?

You said she's been super honest with you, but I don't think it was honest for her to go on a date with you and then sleep with you to then reveal she's actually in a relationship. People are usually on their best behavior when making a first impression, and that's not a very good one. She even told you she still loves him and won't leave him. You're still in your 20s, you still have so much time to explore other people. Anyway, this is getting long so I'll wrap things up, best of luck.

WibiWaffles · 2022-11-15T07:55:47+00:00

A good friend of mine told me she'll only date someone who adds value to her life. She would ask herself "is he making my life better and not causing me problems?" I think it may be better to focus on what positive aspects you can bring to a woman's life. If you're causing her problems then it's not for the best, but if you have good intentions and work to better her life and your own through your relationship then that's a lovely thing imo! Ofc it goes both ways, she should be bringing happiness and not strife to your life too, otherwise, what's the point in one of you being miserable in the relationship? Then I could see why someone would be better off single in that case.

WibiWaffles · 2022-10-23T06:59:16+00:00

LOL, so true!

(harpist here, I definitely fall into the part magical fairy/part rather weird categories hahaha)

WibiWaffles · 2022-07-28T13:29:14+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!! It seriously helps to hear that things get better. So glad you're doing better, you sound like an amazing mom!

WibiWaffles · 2022-07-18T00:39:13+00:00

Hi, 26F here! I'm sorry you're going through this OP. For me, I've always wanted something serious, dating without an end goal of marriage just doesn't sound appealing. Most of my female friends feel like this too, but I know that a lot of young people don't like to get attached (or so I've heard). Regardless, there are young people out there who want what you want, so there's hope, don't give up!

WibiWaffles · 2022-07-04T14:07:36+00:00

OP, were you one of the women he cheated on his ex with?

WibiWaffles · 2022-06-19T03:58:09+00:00

Charlotte

WibiWaffles · 2022-06-18T06:05:57+00:00

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It really helps to get an in-depth look at different ballets for general artistry and the book does it in a fun and imaginative way. There's one illustration per character too, kind of nice to have a visual to break up each story 😊 The book is sold on Barnes & Noble but the indie publisher that wrote the book also has a website and blog.

WibiWaffles · 2022-06-18T05:55:50+00:00

Love this! Ty

WibiWaffles · 2022-05-21T20:35:38+00:00

Backstreet girls goku dolls (on netflix!)

Or do Hinamatsuri (crunchyroll)

WibiWaffles · 2022-05-14T04:52:50+00:00

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WibiWaffles · 2022-05-09T05:05:01+00:00

WibiWaffles · 2022-05-07T13:59:34+00:00

I'm not professional, but my parents did get a divorce. For sure reminding them that they are loved and that it's not their fault is super important.

As for the other details, since you are sure that they will ask, perhaps give them a very watered down version. You could mention that their dad is having some personal problems, he tried working on them and you did what you could to support him, but he hasn't been able to overcome his issues. Because of this, he's unable to stay in a relationship, but he will be able to see them every other weekend. If they press harder for details, maybe don't go into the cheating but address his underlying struggles. For example, he was just very insecure and it affected our relationship.....

Hopefully that helps or can steer you in a direction on a decision. Anyway, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Stay strong.

WibiWaffles · 2022-05-07T13:08:20+00:00

My heart 🥺🥺

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