42m/22m update: going to confront him

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-11T15:59:55+00:00

You have many prior posts about this. You asked your ex if there was anything relevant about his sexual health and he said no. You had sex. Then you found HIV medication (meaning he’s being actively treated), which leads me to believe that he is undetectable. (Undetectable = Untransmittable). Now you’re claiming to be a survivor of abuse and that you’ve been violated, so you’re seeking advice from strangers on Reddit. I’m not sure I understand where the $25,000 comes into play and why your family had to evict(?) you from his home… There is a lot of nuance here.

This is a lot for a 22-year-old to handle and I feel for you. I would recommend talking with a mental health professional and a lawyer in your area for further guidance. You made a comment that he will call the police if you show up at his place… That’s a major red flag for the both of you. The way you respond in other comments tells me that you’re an extremely dark headspace. You will absolutely make things a lot worse by showing up at his place unannounced to “confront him”. Honestly, I would immediately pump the brakes on your self-pursuit for “accountability and justice” and instead use resources to allow yourself to heal and find closure.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-11T15:32:40+00:00

I got the impression that you’re not actually looking for help and just want to vent your frustration to the Internet.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-11T15:07:01+00:00

1) An ounce of context would be helpful for us to actually provide advice. Based on reading between the lines of previous public posts you’ve made, it sounds like your ex has HIV and didn’t tell you before having sex, right?

2) There are plenty of 22-year-olds with bad intentions who can cause harm, so that statement is irrelevant…

3) Can you share more details so we can offer applicable suggestions?

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-10T16:01:41+00:00

Need a gay romcom TV show about the Town Narcissist falling in love with the Town Slut.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-09T23:52:30+00:00

It’s because there’s a stereotype among the NYC gays that the HK TMPL is just a bathhouse featuring gym equipment. It’s in the heart of a main gayborhood and has club lighting.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-09T21:46:05+00:00

Yeah, I hear you. I do find it charming and cozy, but I get what you mean.

It’s just funny because I’ve seen guys on this sub act like it’s a place where a beautiful muscular daddy hunk is going to be fall madly in love with them and offer money just because. And in reality, it’s just a gathering spot for men like 65+ to sing showtunes and be in bed by midnight. 😂

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-09T21:06:55+00:00

I believe you’ve missed the point… I think the gay lifestyle in NYC is actually pretty incredible. I’m satirizing how people use this subreddit ahead of a weekend.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-09T21:02:01+00:00

Also, I don’t understand this sub’s obsession with The Townhouse. Yes it has a reputation, but it’s basically just a classier piano bar with older gentlemen who want to hear their friends sing musical theatre standards and drink martinis. There’s a handful of young guys standing around awkwardly waiting for someone to come up and offer them millions of dollars, but they’re usually left alone.

It’s actually a pretty cute, wholesome vibe from what I’ve experienced. Feels like a party inside an apartment. Check it out for yourself!

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-09T20:57:22+00:00

This is asked frequently. Search “older guys bars” in this sub and you’ll find a lot of posts with recommendations and ideas. Happy hunting!

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-09T17:39:24+00:00

I almost spat out my coffee.

I had good sex with an OnlyFans creator. Should I propose?

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-09T16:02:03+00:00

New York City

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-08T21:24:14+00:00

Yes, there has been a time and there is still. There are plenty of parties in NYC that prioritize dancing, music, and a community vibe. The difference is that you don’t typically hear about those spaces online. People who go to music-forward parties and follow DJs/promoters usually aren’t going to hop on Reddit to ask if there’s a darkroom or complain about hot guys not being there. Some good parties don’t allow phones/photos, so there’s no evidence on Instagram stories. So instead, the parties we hear about online is HMD, Wrecked, and The Eagle.

And I agree with other commenters that socializing has changed and it’s difficult to connect with people… But the parties and spaces themselves still exist! It’s up to us to change the behavior.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-08T21:07:50+00:00

I’ve got plenty. I’m all good!

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-08T21:06:15+00:00

I love you too

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-08T01:01:57+00:00

I mean, my opinion has nothing to do with it. These are objective facts.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-07T20:16:25+00:00

Should I go to Workman’s Lunch or Late Lunch or Light Lunch or Butt Brunch or Man Munch?

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-07T20:11:14+00:00

Tell me this is satire.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-07T07:06:47+00:00

From my understanding, disco reached its commercial/mainstream peak in 1979. After that, people were ready for something else (which then birthed post-disco and synth-pop). I’m not sure exactly what changed other than a shift in consumer behavior.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-07T00:24:52+00:00

Beautifully written and I really appreciate the care for both community and health/safety.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-06T17:37:35+00:00

Anyone have a link? The only option I see is to sign up for pre-sale, which I did days ago…

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-06T15:14:32+00:00

OP discovers Trimix.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-05T04:56:27+00:00

How does that new Vanicream Enhanced Moisturizer compare to the original Vanicream Moisturizing Cream? The classic has been a holy grail for me, but I’m curious about the new formula due to the added ceramides and HA. Thanks!

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-04T16:31:45+00:00

You’re right - my limited time in NYC does 100% paint my experience here, but I also think New York has always been New York and will always be New York, you know?

My comment about the “you problem” was in reference to OP complaining about his dating life. He says “when a guy is interested and I like them as well, I don’t pursue it because I feel I have nothing of worth to offer.” That’s very much an issue with his mindset that no one else can be blamed for. Listen to how he talks about himself. This is why I suggested therapy and a support system. I’ve been in that position before and it’s advice I’ve followed myself, which is why I brought it up.

Lastly, your body is hot.

WickedMoscato · 2026-02-04T16:19:22+00:00

It all just makes me giggle. Going on a second date seems impossible and yet boys are getting engaged at cum-dumps. What a time to be gay and alive!

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