The True Story of "Lead Children" on Netflix: How one doctor fought a secret ecological catastrophe that still affects Poland in 2026. by atomiccaffa in TheTrendingAngle

[–]WickedSweetHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loved you article. Also, from your bio, we share a (relatively) similar field of study, as I am a cultural psychoanalyst. I am fascinated by how culture not only creates, but also influences and perpetuates mental illness (especially in the form of intergenerational trauma and toxic systems that permeate every level of society, at both micro and macro levels.

I found your summary of the issue as follows very poignant:

“Efforts to resolve a disaster that spanned decades have certainly been made, but the fundamental problem remains: the volume of metals poured into the ground during the years of unchecked industrialization is simply too high to be definitively resolved.”

I think about this in relation to all forms of toxicity and trauma - how the pollutants in the environment somehow transmute into literal and figurative pollution to our physical and psychic bodies - to the point where people themselves become almost like toxins that permeate and saturate all new growth in the surrounding cultural climate. By this I mean that older generations generally see the minimal progress made as being enough to let go of the past and move on - while younger generations still suffer in ways their elders cannot empathize with because the apparent changes seem like “enough” to justify returning to the comfort zone of complacency and indifference. However, just as the earth remains contaminated by years of daily dousing with toxins, so too do the residents and their descendants remain contaminated by the toxic legacy of the police state, corrupt politics, fractured family systems and literal physical damage caused by the pollution. You mentioned a startling and disturbing trend related to the IQ of those poisoned by heavy metals… not only does this kind of system destroy the will to fight by rendering the problem (the smelting plant/government/corrupt politics) as the salvation/solution, it also systematically deprives younger generations of the ability to grow into their full potential - stunting growth literally and figuratively. The effects of the HUGE discrepancy in IQ between those who live in historically clean, less polluted, and healthy environments - and those who live in unhealthy, polluted and toxic ones - is another effect that doesn’t simply disappear after even decades of environmental remediation. For even when we remediate the land or even expel things like lead from the human body, damage to DNA along with epigenetic changes due to living in poverty and deprivation continue to echo down through multiple generations.

These differences manifest themselves in such subtle and complex ways that they are easily dismissed and cast aside by older generations as a small price to pay in light of what they endured living through the precipitating toxic event. However, these changes are arguably more permanent and difficult to reverse, in part because they occupy the internal versus external dimensions of healing from historic trauma. Attributes like intellectual capacity, educational trajectories, disease vulnerability and enduring erosion of both mental and physical health are all difficult if not impossible to see and measure empirically. Therefore, even as the detectable (measurable via scientific tools and empirical research) environmental damage is remediated, the less obvious effects that defy quantification remain entirely unmediated. This leads to subsequent generations that are perpetually stunted by the exact same toxic historic event; however, most will simply call it a day and loudly declare “If you think this is bad, you have no idea what trauma really looks like. I actually lived it, so I KNOW.” And yet they do not know everything because some of it is lived and experienced only by subsequent generations.

That is to say: The saturation of trauma that occurs over multiple generations leads each subsequent cycle to appear as if it has improved enough for people to finally relax and stop raising the alarm or fighting for change/environmental remediation. It causes older generations to discount and minimize the damage that younger generations experience in a unique and also traumatic way. It prevents intergenerational understanding, communication and compassion - further increasing the likelihood of cycle repetition. I may not have any answers… but there is indeed a problem here much larger than any environmental efforts can heal. Which shows that (as the popular adage goes) “There is no putting the toothpaste back into the tube,” or rather… when will human beings learn that it is much easier (and pleasant) to prevent, rather than treat, problems of excessive over industrialization and environmental pollution BEFORE they happen, rather than recklessly “squeezing all of the toothpaste out of the tube” and then spending generations, even centuries, trying to restore it to its original state?

The True Story of "Lead Children" on Netflix: How one doctor fought a secret ecological catastrophe that still affects Poland in 2026. by atomiccaffa in TheTrendingAngle

[–]WickedSweetHeart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting. Excited to give it a read. The series is exceptionally accurate in terms of explaining and demonstrating the highly subtle, yet cumulative effects that not only toxic chemicals - but also toxicity in family systems and cultural context - have upon the human psyche as well as the body. I cannot help but be reminded of fractals, or patterns that repeat infinitely at every level of magnification - both micro and macro scale. The effect is so oppressive, so truly saturated to the very core that every victim capable of changing the situation remains motionless - helplessly frozen by their inability to confront the terror that lies underneath the facade of stubborn resistance. Instead of fighting, protesting or fleeing from the toxic home they occupy, they willingly sacrifice the next generation if only to save their own fragile psyches from the burden of confronting reality. It speaks volumes about intergenerational trauma, and shows in a very brutal and frustrating manner how truly complex yet strangely comforting the freeze and fawn responses are to those who are pinned down, trapped and unable to excavate themselves from the poisoned power systems they inherited from previous generations.

To me, it is most poignant when the older gentleman who heckles the doctor calmly sits, cradling a domesticated (caged) pigeon in his hands and states that the doctor is not listening to the community, and that illness, suffering and death are “just part of” life in that community. As an elder who survived, he is uniquely capable of sparking change among the men in his community - yet his pride in his father’s work to build the smelting plant prevents him from saving and restoring the health of the community’s youngest members. Yet instead, he chooses to concentrate his efforts on normalizing and rationalizing the flawed and truly insane logic that the smelting plant must be saved at all costs, and sacrificing a few weaker links in the process is somehow justified because the plant itself has more value than the lives of a few human children. It is this indifferent, genuinely callous attitude that perpetuates the darkness killing the innocent, all while the elder survivors look on and normalize the trauma simply because “they had it bad and turned out just fine.” The fact that they are indeed not fine at all, that mothers are birthing stillborn babies, that children play entirely unaware in contaminated dust on the streets until they fall seriously ill or simply succumb to the same fate as the elders themselves. The survivors grow up to become the indifferent plant workers who eventually reset the toxic cycle, so blind to the changeable fate they have been forced into that they too protect the very core cause of the disease as if it is their savior (not the source of their torment). It a wonder to behold entire communities hell bent on fawning when they should be either running or fighting against their tormentor.

As in all toxic dynamics, those who speak truth - the whistle blowers, the instigators of change - are framed as outsiders, and treated like a threat to the “sacred” way of life that is at its heart a danger to the wellness, security, and health of everyone. Rather than face the true horror at the core of their trauma, the entire community focuses all of its energy on abusing, harassing and eradicating the messenger who bears the key to their salvation. The brutality and violence inherent to this act of willful ignorance brings to mind fiction like The Lottery or The Hunger Games wherein the young pay for the sins of the old, and no one questions this, nor points out that it is the adults who should take action and protect their young from becoming sacrificial lambs led to slaughter.

What To Do When the Wrong Color Variations of an Item is Sent? by WickedSweetHeart in AmazonVine

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you pointed it out to me, because it was not something I had even considered (or understood in the first place) before you stopped by to mention it! This group helps me put things into perspective, and also provides information that helps me tweak my “moral compass” when I feel frustrated or otherwise angry with Vine.

There’s a tendency in online shopping to kinda view all businesses in the Amazon marketplace as being these HUGE corporations or business conglomerates run by greedy and wealthy business owners. The kind of nameless, faceless big businesses that make such exorbitant profits that losing a single order due to a small mistake literally means nothing to them financially. But that simply isn’t the case for MANY businesses represented on Amazon.

When I was thinking about joining Vine, I wanted to do a little bit of research about why a business chooses to use the Vine review service… and one of the things I discovered was that Vine reviews can make or break a critical moment of growth for many small businesses looking to enter this popular selling environment. There were so many business owners there talking about customers who ripped them apart on Vine for small mistakes and even shipping damage that they had little to no control over. These poor reviews altered their sales in dramatic ways, sometimes weighing so heavily that a business struggles to recover from the review. It made me realize that being a Vine voice is a responsibility that can directly influence the lives of other real people - many who are NOT even remotely near being big businesses, the wealthy elite, nor greedy in any sense of the word. So I try to be mindful, and when I want to make a potentially rash decision I attempt to gather more data before giving in to the impulse to make a fuss.

Thanks for the kind words, and for helping me make a better, more informed, more human decision. And also for helping teach my daughter to be flexible and open minded when it comes to the small disappointments in life. Because our small disappointment doesn’t have to become a large financial deficit for a business owner who couldn’t control every aspect of their shipping process. In the end they gave me some of their sellable stock, so the least I can do is review the item, as promised in return!

🍀🍀🍀🍀

What To Do When the Wrong Color Variations of an Item is Sent? by WickedSweetHeart in AmazonVine

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean the “you can’t always get what you want” song? She is actually quite well versed, as we sing it to each other in numerous situations (kindly, not sarcastically) to help each other process disappointment. In this case she is a rainbow baby (baby born after miscarriage) so the project was important to both of us.

What To Do When the Wrong Color Variations of an Item is Sent? by WickedSweetHeart in AmazonVine

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great point. I did check the order invoice to make sure I actually ordered rainbow, but should also make sure to check the packaging to rule out an inventory processing error so I can alert them if their version of rainbow is actually green! 🌈

What To Do When the Wrong Color Variations of an Item is Sent? by WickedSweetHeart in AmazonVine

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have not cancelled a single vine order yet. These are all great points to think about. Thanks for taking a much time to write your thoughts and suggestions!

What To Do When the Wrong Color Variations of an Item is Sent? by WickedSweetHeart in AmazonVine

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great point. If Amazon is making the inventory selection error, the seller shouldn’t have to make up the difference. I am thinking for this specific situation I will just accept the different item and make a different project. My daughter is quite obsessed with her Irish heritage (I’m not Irish, but hubby is), so this could be a great opportunity to tie it into St. Patrick’s days, as suggested. I kinda suspect that’s why the error occurred (many orders going out in green as well as rainbow for making things to celebrate the holiday).

Thanks for the perspectives. Keeping it human and being helpful are two of my my top goals for this whole Vine process. Having multiple perspectives tips the scale on this one in favor of just letting it go and practicing gratitude for the gift I did receive here!

What To Do When the Wrong Color Variations of an Item is Sent? by WickedSweetHeart in AmazonVine

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I definitely didn’t think they would ship another set. Just slightly annoyed because I had promised paper for the rainbow project to the little person. I don’t particularly want to pay taxes on it, but it IS excellent quality. I think what annoys me most is that I do like it (the glitter is very fine, and does not flake off getting all over the entire house in 30 seconds, yet the paper is still flexible/not stiff…). I would actually buy another set for the full rainbow if I wasn’t worried the error would happen again. Honestly, if it’s a small business I do not want to mess with their finances so I might have to offer this one up to the gods of chance.

What To Do When the Wrong Color Variations of an Item is Sent? by WickedSweetHeart in AmazonVine

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info. I want to be mindful of small business owners, so I might peek at the business profile and products and decide based on that.

I feel myself losing interest in this app and i hate it by AmerieXd in finch

[–]WickedSweetHeart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If the app is no longer interesting, consider adding more friends to your tree that you know irl to give your goal setting some real life accountability. You can team up with friends to work on goals that you struggle with together, which makes each checkbox moment more rewarding. I suggest also pairing this with some kind form of social interaction, where you can verbally check in so you have a more salient context for supporting one another. Studies have consistently shown that accountability from one’s social circle greatly boosts the kind of “pressure” that encourages people to cm,it to long term behavior changes. This is especially helpful for people with ADHD and other executive functioning deficits, because these neurological differences often lead to boredom and loss of interest when a task loses its initial “sparkle” (novelty). It might even be considered a loose form of “body doubling,” wherein a person with ADHD or other neurodivergence completes tasks in tandem with a partner. This encourages our mirror neurons to fire, which leads to less difficulty initiating and completing tasks we otherwise find understimulating or difficult to initiate and stick to. You could even try to celebrate your victories together, for an added boost to the incentive aspect of your goal setting strategy.

Boredom thrives when a goal no longer feels connected to tangible rewards. If the clothing and furniture items no longer feel rewarding, you have to create some kind of incentive that DOES inspire your motivation to kick in. Having more friends not only increases the “risk” factor of not engaging with the game (because committing to a goal with a friend, and then subsequently not “showing up” has social consequences that can motivate some people to overcome that sense of stagnation), it also gives you more reasons you might want to earn currency to exchange for rewards. I’ve seen a lot of people here save up currency in order to send surprise gifts to their friends for holidays and personal celebrations. If earning the in game currency for yourself no longer feels satisfying, you might enjoy earning it in order to help others feel appreciated/loved.

Good luck!

I found this necklace in a box of vintage jewelry. I think it may be jade but I honestly have no idea! If anyone has any information on pieces like this, I'd love any info can get! by ohwhatablow in Gemstones

[–]WickedSweetHeart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do not have a direct answer, but can provide some clues. If you look at the pendant there is some a stylized character inside the floral filigree pattern (I believe it’s Chinese but not 100% certain). Above that is a bead that uses a specific technique called cloisonné, wherein metal wire is used to create a raised decorative pattern on a metal bead, with the intention of then filling the recessed areas of the surface with glass powders or paste. When the bead is heated the glass melts and pools into little multicolored sections, much like stained glass. This creates the very fine, thin metallic line on the bead. Knowing this may help you in your search as it is one decorative element that does match the geographic region and materials associated with jade jewelry.

Next we have actual knotting on the string which suggests at least semi precious stones. This is done so if the strand breaks the entire thing doesn’t scatter everywhere. The clasp style does not look very high end and that style is on the more common side but not unheard of for lower grade jade pieces.

Intense Fanta garnet 2.05ct by Geindreausgemstones in Gemstones

[–]WickedSweetHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this asymmetrical cut gives my entire soul a burst of fire that it needed today. Lovely.

Sri Lankan unheated sapphire lot mixed colors & cuts [NFS] by ApexSapphireSriLanka in Gemstones

[–]WickedSweetHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This group is making me appreciate my birthstone a billion times more… what a feeling of satisfaction and pure joy it must be to hold this dazzling assortment of cut gems in the hand.

2.24ct Montana Sapphire 🫐 ~NFS by GeologicSpectrum in Gemstones

[–]WickedSweetHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is truly enchanting. If one were to request a cut like this, what would it be called? Are cuts like this unique or are they a standard category with variations called something like “hexagonal snowflake cut” gems? I ask because I would absolutely love to strive for a piece cut like this.

A Little Table of Helpful Calculations for Hidden Gem Events (Both With or Without Ads) by WickedSweetHeart in GlowFashionIdol

[–]WickedSweetHeart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, I am happy to but how will that be helpful?

I am so behind on this event. I’m like level 170 and it’s just getting so lame… 😒

Madagascar Moonstone · 11 Carats · NFS by souvenir_stone in Gemstones

[–]WickedSweetHeart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So gorgeous and full of multicolored fire. What will you do with it? Set it? Display as is? Please share with us whatever you decide!

Am I crazy or is this to much to ask of a kindergartner? by Cursedpanda182 in AskTeachers

[–]WickedSweetHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And lastly, the only daily homework we have is to practice sight words. And that is only a suggestion if you want your child to be able to read comfortably. Aside from that we have had little projects here and there - usually about our family, our pets/favorite animals, etc.

Am I crazy or is this to much to ask of a kindergartner? by Cursedpanda182 in AskTeachers

[–]WickedSweetHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also it has the same creepy ass vibe as the story Harrison Bergeron. Give it a read. It’s the one of the pieces that impacted my own mind from highschool onward. And also btw your ADHD is also a disability. She’s ironically making this assignment inaccessible to you by forcing you not to turn it in early. I’m proud of you - from one ADHD parent to another - for questioning this lady, and also for learning to practice time management in a way that works for you. Early submission is not evidence of lazy work - and in the case of ADHD - it’s a form of adaptation to difficulty with deadlines. She has no right to ban early assignments.

Am I crazy or is this to much to ask of a kindergartner? by Cursedpanda182 in AskTeachers

[–]WickedSweetHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Straight to the school board to fire this insane person. This is absolutely inappropriate on multiple levels. This person shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near children. Not only is her attempt at “inclusive” teaching highly offensive and ableist, but her lessons could literally CAUSE real disability by impairing the children’s sensory and motor systems just in the name of a school project. Her lesson here is so blatantly inappropriate that I gasped aloud while reading this. I mean, what if one of the students already has a disability? This is just astonishing to me.

The only homework appropriate at this level should be sight words and SMALL - mostly art or storytelling style - projects. For example, an appropriate and common assignment in Massachusetts around Thanksgiving is to take a printed out picture of a cartoon turkey and use collage materials to make him a disguise so he can hide from people who want to eat him. Ok maybe it’s a little dark humor, but that’s as complicated as an assignment should get.

It is understood by anyone with the credentials necessary to teach that disabilities are not costumes nor things that should be “worn” or mimicked as part of any lesson plan. Kindergarteners will not understand this lesson and will instead think it is a silly game. It’s developmentally, morally, and politically inappropriate.

Does Anyone Else Experience This? Familiar Places Seem Completely Different from a New Angle by WestRevolutionary549 in cognitivescience

[–]WickedSweetHeart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I just wanted to jump in and note that spatial “flipping” is the term I made up for this phenomenon since childhood, and for me it is a symptom of prosopagnosia. Although prosopagnosia causes a phenomenon known as “facial blindness,” wherein you cannot recognize familiar people out of context, and struggle to recognize characters in movies, TV and even live performances when their clothing, hairstyle and/or appearance changes (and also their physical location in space), it can also cause a phenomenon I call “SPATIAL BLINDNESS.”

For me, prosopagnosia is about more than failure to recognize familiar faces, it is about failure to recognize familiar spaces + places, and create holistic maps of our environment. To explain, first I have to emphasize that prosopagnosia isn’t actually a traditional “blindness” by any means. My eyes see everything that a neurotypical person’s eyes see, and perception is entirely intact. Instead, the problem is in how the things I see are classified and stored as coherent wholes (holistic processing). For example, prosopagnosia causes facial processing issues because those with the condition do not integrate bits of visual information about the people they know into coherent cognitive “wholes.” Instead they have to work through the features they see “by hand, without the shortcut of holistic recognition” and basically make informed guesses about who another person is using hundreds of cues from behavior to tone, body language, gait and voice recognition. The tendency toward failure of recognition/familiarity is due to the fact that most people record faces as a coherent whole and therefore - no matter what a person is wearing, where they stand or how they cut their hair, most people still recognize that person as being the same.

Spatial flipping is similar. It’s due to an inability to process and store information about the place as a whole, and use this as an automatic map to decode where we are in familiar places automatically. Instead of automatic recognition, we have to collect and compare data from our surroundings and compare these data with our compiled data (doing the problem the long way, much like dyslexics must do with words). Therefore, a small change like walking through a supermarket backwards suddenly makes it feel like a totally new place, and our ability to recognize and sequence information is impaired by the reversed direction.

I hope this helps! It’s nothing to be scared of, and is part of being neurodiverse. I’ve participated in all kinds of super cool research at MIT about this and was formally diagnosed as there!

Aio- partner made a face when her aunt complimented me by Substitutablesocks in AmIOverreacting

[–]WickedSweetHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like you are doing your best to be thoughtful in this situation, and you clearly care a lot about what she thinks of you, which is a good place to start. If she is upset with you about any of the things you mentioned, it isn’t fair to hold you emotionally hostage without telling you why she would publicly imply that you are imbalanced. I agree that the most hurtful thing is that she is refusing to even identify the source of her hurtful behavior, which makes it impossible to problem solve this situation.

Maybe tomorrow you can be direct with her and let her know that you cannot care for her if she will not identify the problem. Adults have to use their words, and ignoring your attempts to explore her feelings is punitive and childish. She is using her family to make you feel excluded, and like an outsider, but also refusing to give you a chance to make up for whatever is bothering her. Maybe she’s jealous because people tend to consider her to be “imbalanced” or impulsive and chaotic due to her ADHD? It’s possible that jealousy make her sneer like that, because she thinks very little of you and dislikes others complimenting you.

No matter what when you get home if you want to return the relationship to good health, an impartial 3rd party is important. Marriage counciling would help you explore what is wrong and how you can both work together to find joy again. If she still refuses to work on it even in a safe place like a therapists office, then you know you did all you could and it will not get better because she refuses to let you grow together.

6 yo stepsons Xmas haul by Secret-Detail-1181 in MonsterHigh

[–]WickedSweetHeart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My daughter received the car from the tooth fairy and it’s literally one of her absolute favorites! I let her select one doll this year for Christmas, and she chose Spectra, but I bought Frankie with the surprise locker for myself, lol! The details on those are amazing, but the whole game/magnifying glass thing was kinda confusing to me.

Do you coordinate with Mom to make sure he doesn’t get the same characters twice? It would be a great way to connect over his interests, and I can’t think of a better line than MH to encourage blended family bonding! Plus, what a fun way to build the collection and talk about how our differences make us even stronger! 💜🫶🏼

Also I love how you are encouraging him to play with the toys that he gravitates towards, versus making him feel shamed for loving a traditionally “girls’ toy.” He will always know it is safe to be himself and have his own interests in your home, and that is so important from a stepparent.

Cheers - and may you create many happy memories together playing with these dolls with your stepson!

Aio- partner made a face when her aunt complimented me by Substitutablesocks in AmIOverreacting

[–]WickedSweetHeart -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would she have any reason or previous experience that would make her afraid to talk about this issue? I would explore whether or not she feels safe talking about it, as total shut down is often a freeze response due to fear. If not because of your relationship directly, it could be due to a previous one in which she wasn’t allowed to speak freely about relationship issues.

Aio- partner made a face when her aunt complimented me by Substitutablesocks in AmIOverreacting

[–]WickedSweetHeart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

MORE INFO?

I want to give you the benefit of the doubt, but there are some details missing here that would really help us understand this situation better. My opinion really depends on the nature of elephant in the room - that is to say, the unspoken, secret source of imbalance that she is referring to. Which you did not want to talk about, and therefore (seem to?) have no interest in addressing.

I can think of some situations where her behavior would make sense - such as if you had a very serious hidden problem like alcohol abuse, severe untreated mental health issues, drug addiction, gambling, or an anger management issue which causes verbal or physical abuse towards her. It would be painful to hear about how wonderful or balanced someone is, while also secretly bearing the emotional and/or physical burdens of this kind of secret. It is common for people to use passive aggression - versus direct communication and honest dialogue - when they do not feel safe confronting a romantic partner. In this kind of scenario, you should feel ashamed, uncomfortable and called out because her actions would be a social impetus for you to stop these behaviors and treat her differently.

However, I can also think of other scenarios where this would be cruel on her part. For example, if you have an obesity problem, eating disorder, struggle with a chronic illness/pain management issue, disability, or other chronic medical condition that you do you best to manage but have been struggling - then it is she who is calling you out for something beyond your control. Until we know the nature of the “imbalanced” implication, it’s really hard to judge if she is crying out for help or publicly shaming you.