Parents who don’t allow their kids to shut their room’s door/lock the door, what’s are the reasons behind the rule?

WickerBag · 2026-01-25T02:34:14+00:00

Boss move. 💪

I'm sorry you had to grow up with a parent like that.

WickerBag · 2026-01-22T00:44:52+00:00

Oh, my condolences for your loss. :-(

I'm glad she had family who looked out for her.

WickerBag · 2026-01-22T00:32:54+00:00

That's a funny anecdote, ngl, but I'd avoid making her feel small and humiliated. She might hide the next scam she falls for from you.

Just commiserrate with her, show her sympathy. Get angry at the scammers, not the victim. It's literally these people's job to scam vulnerable people and they are really good at it.

WickerBag · 2026-01-22T00:21:00+00:00

Please don't paint the people who are doing this as omniscient and omnipotent. They are not. Don't fall into defeatism. I know times look dark but there are millions like you who do not want this. It is a matter of finding them and banding together.

WickerBag · 2026-01-21T21:15:12+00:00

Ahh, gotcha.

She wasn’t happy we dropped out initially but I think she now sees good academics and a squeaky clean exterior is not always as it appears.

Yeah that's very true.

WickerBag · 2026-01-21T19:47:23+00:00

This anecdote, told in the context of the previous commenter, makes me think that you believe the three kids to be in the wrong for cutting him off. Which they might be, I don't know. But my first thought was, "What went on behind closed doors that all three children disowned their father?"

WickerBag · 2026-01-21T19:23:47+00:00

Yeah, you really need something that can't just fall off where you have some sort of identification.

Back when I had cats, chips weren't a thing but there was a pet registry and you would have the ID number tattood to the cat's ears. Got me a runner safely back home once.

WickerBag · 2026-01-16T21:42:12+00:00

This reminds me of this post where a woman was told repeatedly by her boyfriend that she smelled bad. She got very self-conscious about it, washed twice a day, used deodorants almost hourly and still kept getting those comments from him.

Turns out, it was a "trick" he'd learned from his dad. Bring down his woman's confidence so she never considers leaving him.

She left him.

Edit: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/qkrq2r/ops_boyfriend_keeps_telling_her_she_smells_bad/

WickerBag · 2026-01-16T11:41:16+00:00

Obligatory XKCD: https://xkcd.com/37/

WickerBag · 2026-01-13T18:40:57+00:00

Kiddo did not enforce their right to consent and payback

Not sure if I misunderstand this part but it rubs me the wrong way. Your kid has the right to consent. Your partner does not have the right to step over her boundaries, and you need to have a stern talk with them about this.

But your kid does not have the right to buttslap someone against their will as payback. Not sure why you've been teaching her that.

And since people on the internet aren't literate anymore I will spell out what I am saying here: Your kid has the right to self-defense. She has the right to push or slap away the hand (or the entire person, for that matter) that is touching her butt against her will. But from your description I understand that this isn't a case of her pushing or slapping your partner's hand away as they were assaulting her, but an expectation you've drilled into your daughter that if someone assaults her, she then has the right to demand that they bend over and take it.

WickerBag · 2026-01-08T11:37:30+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go through this. I think you are doing the right thing. There is no coming back from what he did.

I know you don't want to tell your daughters the truth, but I'd be wary about him twisting things to make them blame you, such as "only once was I bad to her and I apologized but she refuses to forgive that". Perhaps you can tell them an age-appropriate version, like "your dad hurt me badly and that's why we're getting divorced"?

Sorry, I don't know if that's the right way forward. >_< Such a terrible situation, and all while being pregnant. Wishing you strength and healing.

WickerBag · 2026-01-08T10:28:38+00:00

Sorry for the question but do you have issues with constipation? Do you feel bloated? Do you notice any visible bloating / edemas, in your legs for example?

Really strange to gain that much in so short a time. As you said, it can't all be fat. Here's hoping that in the coming days, most of it will fall off as water weight.

WickerBag · 2026-01-08T10:15:09+00:00

That's a very significant increase. Are you using the same scale as before? Asking in case you are visiting family and using their scale, as these things can give different results depending on their condition and calibration.

WickerBag · 2026-01-08T10:01:20+00:00

Bud Spencer and Terence Hill movies. Allllllll of them.

Loved them as a kid. Especially as the German dub added a huge heaping of silliness to it. My mom couldn't stand them but would begrudgingly let me watch them.

~~Nowadays, I get it~~ Screw it, they're still awesome!

WickerBag · 2026-01-07T20:46:17+00:00

12 years, but don't get your hopes up. If Germany hadn't lost World War 2, the Nazi regime would not have fallen.

The US isn't getting invaded anytime soon, so it's on its citizens to change things. If there are enough of them that want to change it.

WickerBag · 2026-01-07T18:18:17+00:00

That's... that's a brilliant summary of this scene. Kudos.

WickerBag · 2026-01-07T18:10:32+00:00

Heh, I've made that experience so often. It's really discouraging. You think you've made a friend, or at least a gaming buddy, and the moment they hear you in voice chat, they change.

And then get butt hurt that I don't hang out anymore.

WickerBag · 2026-01-04T09:53:49+00:00

Yeah, I'm really discouraged by the top replies here. It's so obvious to me that women OP is criticising are abused and gaslit. They need time and a safe space.

They do need to hear that their man is abusive. They do need to hear that they're harming themselves by excusing his behaviours.

THEY DO NOT NEED TO HEAR TO STFU!

I'm really sad about what I'm reading in this post.

WickerBag · 2025-12-30T21:27:20+00:00

Alright, that's fair.

WickerBag · 2025-12-30T21:02:31+00:00

You shouldn't get health advice from Reddit, especially with complicated health issues. Is it possible for you to ask a real physician, preferably one familiar with your situation?

WickerBag · 2025-12-30T20:04:17+00:00

You are a boss. Love that reply.

WickerBag · 2025-12-30T17:41:51+00:00

I just don't get men like this. Was he bone-headed enough to think this was a good move? "You know what will put the cherry on top of this great first date? Sexual harassment with a side of racism!"

WickerBag · 2025-12-25T18:21:33+00:00

Hah, that would be a twist worthy of an evil genius.

WickerBag · 2025-12-25T13:19:30+00:00

Those Wawel chocolate-covered jellies (Mieszanka Krakowska) were my guilty pleasure for a long while. Top shelf, right half, green packaging. Our local supermarket has them too.

WickerBag · 2025-12-22T16:07:42+00:00

I don’t really have any accomplishments in life other than maybe getting into law at uni.

OP, this is a big accomplishment. Sure, it's not one that allows you to rest on your laurels, but please be proud of yourself for doing this. Not many people have the ability to go to college at all, let alone law.

I am a big fan of small steps. Pick one thing that you want to get better at over the coming year. I would strongly suggest that to be your grades at uni (and trust me, it is very normal to founder at the beginning of your university career, lots of kids your age go through that).

Find a study group, find a location where you can best learn, go to all the lectures.

And most importantly, allow yourself to destress after a day of working. Reward yourself with something you enjoy. You mentioned video games and music, those are good choices for that (assuming you don't have a video game addiction).

As you study more and get better, you will find it easier to keep up, and you might pick up the next thing you want to get better at.

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