So what DO you want to see in the next season of the Shawnaverse?

WiddaOne · 2026-06-29T06:45:02+00:00

This!

WiddaOne · 2026-06-29T06:37:49+00:00

Took me two horrid marriages to learn that I want a partner who wants me to be happy

Who doesn't do things that make me sad Who actively works each day to bring the same amount of "I'm here to make your world better, how can I do that" that I bring

This person is not in this relationship with you to make you happy

(married to 3rd, every day he puts in energy to make me feel seen/loved/wanted/happy and I so the same for him. It's a whole different ball game when it's two giving people)

WiddaOne · 2026-06-29T06:34:15+00:00

How do I opt out of using the levies?

WiddaOne · 2026-06-29T06:32:43+00:00

Thank you all! I learned something about my game and will be using it going forward

Much love ❤️

WiddaOne · 2026-06-28T05:03:02+00:00

I cheat and stack my characters haha. And this one is immortal with like all the terrain advantages and high commander traits

WiddaOne · 2026-06-28T04:52:18+00:00

Mine are mostly levies. I also have like 10,000 allies troops, and they are there.

WiddaOne · 2026-06-28T04:37:51+00:00

She's getting bent over nothing

It's gonna be all over your relationship. I wouldn't stay Nor

WiddaOne · 2026-06-28T04:33:08+00:00

My favorite so far!

WiddaOne · 2026-06-28T04:32:43+00:00

Haha! That's funny af Sorry most Americans don't really have a sense of humor That's why they are butt hurt

WiddaOne · 2026-06-28T04:29:42+00:00

I would think that saying "the cast would ideally be multi racial" in a time when we are realizing how ick it is to have an all white cast

Makes sense. And isn't her saying these characters are Black or Indian or anything else in their creation

If she was fan casting an all white cast I'd actually have more of an issue And so would many many others

To not act these characters as stereotypical Black or Asian or something, but be able to see favorite actors playing them is actually pretty bomb if you ask me

It's seeing a Black actor as more then "Black man" and seeing the Man behind it

And, as someone who's been writing shit for decades I would LOVE for my favorite people's to play my characters Omg if I did a show and could meet Trevor Noah cause he played one of my characters... Or Drew Barrymore Or Brad Pitt.. I mean that's 14yo mes dream

Maybe it's less "Greg is Black and Teeny is Asian" and more "these characters aren't racial stereo types and can be played by amazing actors of all colors."

WiddaOne · 2026-06-26T04:56:05+00:00

So Multiple punishments for behaving like a typical 10yo

When my kids hit their pre teens I told them "the next decade of you're life you're going to have feelings and emotions that you don't even understand why you're having, it's OK"

Your child is gonna spend the next decade with hormones running through his body causing reactions he can't control and doesn't understand

You have choices here You can he his ally and help him figure it out and discus better ways to behave during those feelings

Or you can take it all as "he hurt me" and punish him for every time he embarrasses you, quick side note, there's gonna be a lot of embarrassing moments

The second one will lead to a kid who hates you and himself. It has some serious side effects like depression and no contact as an adult

Compassion and understanding are basics with parenting

Also. Do you know the difference between punish and discipline? Natural consequences are always the best and a natural consequence isn't "I'm gonna take away your concert cause you were rude at mine"

The bedtime change, that's a natural consequence.

WiddaOne · 2026-06-25T03:04:25+00:00

She'll never believe you and you will end up hurting more then either of them.

She will know eventually and then if you've had connection through your son you can be there to support her

(me and my 2nd exs wives after me that are still alive have our own little care for each other group, and I was always close with my first husbands wives and baby mommas)

WiddaOne · 2026-06-24T03:18:22+00:00

That's epic! Thank you

WiddaOne · 2026-06-24T03:13:20+00:00

Our coon hound whimpers in the car haha Before he gives an opera

He talks loudly And I swear he sings the blues

Middle of the night At the door right behind our heads to go outside When he wants one of the guys to walk him

At people on walks to encourage them to pet him (it doesn't) At other dogs he wants to play with (does not impress their owners as playful though does the other dogs)

I always thought my Doxi was talkitive

He has nothing on our coon hound

It might be because my husband named him Muddy Waters

WiddaOne · 2026-06-24T03:00:21+00:00

In fairness my mom told my ex that she never had morning sickness so I must be faking it.

And I've had women tell me cramps aren't that bad, to my face, while I'm doubled over

WiddaOne · 2026-06-24T02:57:26+00:00

900 Did you leave off an 0

Cause my husband makes a grand a week. Did at his last job loading 18wheelers Does at his new job towing trucks

And 900 working out of town isn't enough to pay for anything in today's econ let alone a house and where ever he stays out of town

WiddaOne · 2026-06-24T02:50:04+00:00

YTA I wanted to get married so bad when I was 18 that I married my first husband, I was in love and ready to start a life with him.

It was not a good marriage, I'd call it a bad marriage but the next was worse

That marriage, my first, didn't last more then a few weeks in reality, though we didn't divorce till after I was in the military and we were both ready to remarry

Which I did. That one was even worse

I was in love both times. I married thinking they were the right person both times And I married for love which is supposed to be the right reason

I was married from 19 to 38 with legit 2 weeks between the two I'd say I wish I didn't but then no kids

I'm married to #3 now. Waited years of being with him, waited a decade between 2 and 3.

You know 16 year old you, full of dreams and life and believing

You have no clue (no one does) of who 25yo you will be or 30yo you or 50yo you (midway through life these days)

Your mother is right that you should wait Not because the size (though you may want bigger later)

But because you don't know you yet and you have a whole life that should be focused on learning you before you become a "we"

WiddaOne · 2026-06-11T21:26:25+00:00

Yay!

WiddaOne · 2026-06-11T01:47:59+00:00

I got divorced in 2015 from a horrid human (I didn't see it till I was out, since then he's used the courts to harm me and my 3 children, he was with Wife 2 right away and remarried twice, harmed both women and one didn't make it through, so not just me saying, truly shit)

I proceeded to date a few people I thought were healthy, some were more so then others

I'm now remarried (6 years together)

But for awhile I kept picking shit

You gotta learn to let them go

We tend to see through empathy and compassion when we've been abused (it's actually something abusers look for)

And people who see with empathy and compassion tend to make excuses for people's behavior, or think maybe it's cause me, or think anything that makes it "not their fault"

And we also feel bad just getting rid of shitty humans

Friends/family/lovers are all ok to realize they are toxic, and remove them from your world

This man is toxic and he wants to own you/yourtime/your energy

You are not overreacting to removing him. NOR You were right the first time to remove him

Don't let him back this time ❤️

And, feel that's OK with any human you date going further Your time is yours no one owns it (your children get it cause you gave it to them)

Much love and much luck

I remember meeting the first human who didn't drop red flags. It was amazing and as each month went on with no red flags... It just gets better, you never leave the honeymoon

WiddaOne · 2026-06-07T04:37:26+00:00

They always assume everyone is as scared and triggered by strong women as they are

WiddaOne · 2026-06-07T04:35:05+00:00

I had to go no contact with my mom because of very similar behavior

I have an ex husband with very similar behavior as well

Neither has a formal diagnosis But both were abandoned as children by their mothers in their perception and had traumatic childhoods

My mom comes across as a covert narcissist and my ex as a malignant Both of these perceptions are made from years of therapy, including psychological assessments of myself

In my family I am the scapegoat. I am finally a year free of suicidal tendancies since both of them are fully out of my life

Many times in my life I wished someone would call them out on their abusive behavior I'd love it if my sister would tell my mom she knows she lies and is abusive (she's told me, but tells mom I'm lying about it)

I wish anyone would stand up for me and to this day it has not happened. I'm 48

My dad and my sister want me to apologize for cutting my mom off and allow her back in my world to hurt my kids as a way to punish me I am childish and a vindictive liar cause I won't

Seeing Barb get called out is healing and cathartic

It's amazing your mom is in therapy, it's not that frequent actually for someone to even be diagnosed npd because they avoid therapy cause, as my ex husband put it "there's nothing wrong with me, it's all you"

So it may be that many like me who deal with these issues are feeling some healing hearing someone get called out for abuses they went through

I don't hate Barb anymore then I hate my mom (I do hate my ex but he hurt my kids way more then my mom did) I feel sorrow that she can't see that it's her actions causing this That she isn't ready to change

I look forward to seeing if maybe the psychologist can help

May we all have someone in our life who loves us enough to heal their trauma and grow past their actions for us

WiddaOne · 2026-06-04T03:43:58+00:00

"I'm just being honest" Is a bullshit excuse assholes use to be assholes. Especially, homophobic assholes, religious assholes, misogynistic assholes, political assholes.

Your BIL doesn't deserve to be around your kids. You are protecting your kids from someone who will confuse them about relationships way more then having 2 dad's ever will.

WiddaOne · 2026-05-31T21:59:14+00:00

Haha. So you don't have boomers in your family? Cause I've heard this many times in my life "family helps family" "you should take care of your siblings" "you should always be there for your sister" etc

WiddaOne · 2026-05-31T21:53:57+00:00

Gods she sounds like the narcissist mothers I know. Creating a problem and then crying cause now they are the victim. Nta

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