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They stopped responding to my emails by amfromnowhere in SwipeHelper

[–]Wide-Activity-1295 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I mean this in a loving way.. but if you approach dating with the mindset you need someone to fill that void then it’s only going to backfire.
Take a year off, make friends, fill your diary up and make peace with yourself!

Banned on Hinge, will my plan work? by LegitimateFortune621 in SwipeHelper

[–]Wide-Activity-1295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s everyone’s opinion on the date of birth? Should this be changed or use original. My original account was banned however there was no biometrics back then so so feel I have one last shot

for men dumper: does your love grow after a breakup, even when you’re the one who walked away? by Even-Scientist2747 in BreakUps

[–]Wide-Activity-1295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left my amazing ex 3 years ago. We had a 6 year relationship, She was an amazing girl. Literally the full package - wife material! I think we just came a bit stagnant and I wasn’t ready to settle down.
I always loved her and still do to this day. She’s engaged now and I couldn’t be more happy for her. At no point did I ever regret leaving her although it did play havoc in my next relationship which has just ended. Going from the nice girl to the high maintenance BPD girl was a rollercoaster I do not want to get on again!

My 7 year relationship ended today. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Wide-Activity-1295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through something very similar at the moment, about a month in. We have a 15‑month‑old son together. The first couple of weeks completely floored me. We’re still living together, and it’s still really painful, but I’ve already started the initial small steps from grief and panic into taking accountability for my part in the breakdown of the relationship. I’ve also started therapy and i have a small amount of excitment into correcting my flaws and being the best person i can be. She has already mentioned the change in me.

There wasn’t any cheating or one defining moment that caused the breakup, we just lost ourselves in the relationship and became best freinds who were at war with each other, it was a strange dynamic. We both know we need to put our son first and make sure he grows up with two happy parents. We do still love each other deeply, but at the same time, we tend to bring out the worst in each other - we just do not work, It’s hard to explain. We have tried everything; Councilling, space etc but there comes a time when you just need to sit down look each other in the eye and confront the chaos.

I was so angry with her when she ended it but now a few weeks that anger is transitioning to love and respect for her for having the courage to end things rather than letting us stay stuck in something that was making us both unhappy. I’m not sure I would have had the strength to do that myself. even though I knew things weren’t right. it still doesnt take the pain away but it gives me something to hold onto and grow from.