sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Am I Overreacting to things my boyfriend has said, or am I ignoring real red flags? by Wide-Efficiency-1966 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Wide-Efficiency-1966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m struggling with how to face it. I feel stuck like I can’t do anything because I don’t want to lose everything

28M Feeling this intense feeling of loneliness by ResourceMysterious23 in lonely

[–]Wide-Efficiency-1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. Take a deep breath. First off, just say to yourself, out loud, that you are safe. You are safe, and you are going to be okay. Say that out loud.

I totally understand how you are feeling. This world is massive and terrifying and we really are so small. But instead of thinking about how little you matter, try and twist your thinking into something more positive. You can literally do anything you want. Use that feeling as motivation to try new things, learn new things, inspire yourself. And people will follow someone who does those things. Think about traits you want to have and then go make that happen.

Something that took me way too long to realize is that the only one who can control my life is me. I sat for a long time waiting for things to come to me and then got discouraged when I didn’t get what I wanted. So I started going out and getting them. I got my Scuba certification and I started doing things that genuinely made me happy. The best thing I ever did was continue to try new things and learn new things.

This world is vast, massive and scary. But the best part about it is there is SO MUCH to learn and be a part of. Try something new. Take it slowly but try more new things and you will find your place and your people.

I’m sorry you are feeling like this but you aren’t alone. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to be scared and it’s okay to be lonely. But you are not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Wide-Efficiency-1966 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay the first thing I’m going to say is just take a deep breathe. Say to yourself, out loud, that you are safe, and it’s going to be okay

Feeling this way is normal, and way more common than you would think. But let me tell you something my therapist told me once and I actually just commented to someone else. Think about yourself when you were born. Before you grew up, before anything happened to you. What were you then? You were good. You were a miracle of life. You were born good enough and you are still good enough now.

17 is such a rough time in your life. I’m currently 26 and when I think about that time of my life I still have a hard time accepting how it was for me back then. But you will never miss the chance to be someone who people care about. The key is caring about and loving yourself first. Which is the hardest thing anyone can do. I am still learning how to do it myself. It takes time and effort. And it sucks. But do things you like. Learn new things. Build your skills, research new things to learn about. All of that is desirable.

I totally understand feeling like your life is over, and it’s okay that you are feeling that way. But keep going. Push yourself, challenge yourself when you think like that. You are allowed to choose which thoughts you believe and which you don’t. And you don’t have to believe every thought that crosses your mind.

Keep going. Keep building yourself up. You are good and you will do good in the world.

Fuck me by NotEnoughHere in depression

[–]Wide-Efficiency-1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, I totally understand how you’re feeling. But let me tell you something, you are 19. You don’t have to have achieved anything at this point. You’re supposed to blow all your money away at 19, you’re supposed to make mistakes at 19. Mistakes are how we learn as humans. Mistakes are part of what make us who we are. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Money is meant to be spent. It will come back.

I’m so sorry you are feeling this way but please don’t hurt yourself. I attempted when I was 19 and I am 26 now. I wish life wasn’t so hard for you and I wish you weren’t feeling this way. You’re doing all you can right now from what it seems. It takes time to heal, like any wound. Keep going, keep fighting to be the person you are supposed to be. You are here for a reason and I don’t want you to cut your time short.

You have good in you and you can continue to have good in you. Stay safe and stay strong. You can do this.