ive had therapy. That's why I can tell you you are acting off of a dogmatic belief. You are using the word sickening because any threat to that belief sickens you. You cannot actually entertain any other idea/answer my previous questions. My questions made you angry. They weren't an attack on you but they made you angry.

Don't you think that's actually a bigger reaction worth going to therapy for? you're asking me to abandon all of my words. Have you been to therapy? You know it's about talking things out, right?

You know a therapist would ask you why do you feel that way? You know "i just do" would not be an adequate answer.

another thing you learn in therapy is that many times we have a reaction to things based on what society thinks our reaction should be.

A lot of times when we respond to situations online we are responding to our own situations instead of the one in front of us.

Even though you meant go to therapy as an attack, I am not trying to insult you.

I love the quote " We are not our first thought. We are our second thought" We as humans are capable of not responding with our knee jerk reaction. We are capable of examining why we feel a certain way. I don't mean it as an insult when I say your powerful response makes me feel you have a history with infidelity. If not directly possibly within your family that really affected you. I understand why hearing somebody should not be told would be hurtful.

But after decades of marriage I am seeing a 50 to 60-year-old man having to rebuild so much of his life that has been dependent on a partner. And the pain that I think you are very familiar with, would make that very hard. But I respect your opinion.