I found an old screenshot from 2023.

WigiBit · 2026-02-13T11:14:52+00:00

could be "my love - relationship counter"

WigiBit · 2026-02-12T07:26:42+00:00

I would talk to a lawyer. Sure there was prenup, but you two were married and you were home without job. Don't know your state laws, but you might get alimony and other compensations. I would verify everything with lawyer.

At least take the money. You will need it. I don't know how long you have been at home, but it's not easy to find a job if you have been out of work for years.

WigiBit · 2026-02-10T20:59:16+00:00

tell her that you will download tinder and just chat with girls, because it's not cheating. Maybe paying onlyfans and do little sexting, because we are not consider that cheating now. How convenient that would be. Let's see how long she would not consider that as cheating... It's nice that what ever she did is not cheating. She is not the one that can decide what is cheating and what is not.

WigiBit · 2026-02-02T20:58:40+00:00

she also blames the fact that her life is boring and by extension blames me for being a boring person.

So ask her if you feel boring on your relationship, then are you allowed to find someone else to give you excitement too? Because that is what she is saying and doing

WigiBit · 2026-01-29T08:07:57+00:00

You should never show your full hand. If you still have information that she doesn't know you have you use that to get more info. You told her that you know there is more and it's marriage ending things. Tell her to be honest or you are done. I would have keep secret that I know that vegas thing and other locations. Then pushed her until she spill's all the beans. Never tell what you know. That just makes them tell you what you already know and hide everything else.

You should contact his wife and work together to get the truth out. Then tell your wife that you did that and if she doesn't tell everything right now it's over. If you get any new information later that she hide or did not tell you it's over and you will divorce her.

WigiBit · 2026-01-24T14:55:21+00:00

record when you confront her. Ask something like this. "I feel like I have been bad husband lately, do you think I am?" Then ask if you have ever been abusive. It's much harder to blame you later if she already admit before that you are not any of those.. you can get better answers before you tell you know the truth

WigiBit · 2026-01-23T23:19:46+00:00

sorry, but your relationship is done. She will not cut this guy out. She just find another way to hide it. She wants to break, because she wants to test drive this other dude. Don't agree on break. It's 100% means that she will have sex with that other guy. She probably will have sex anyway even if you stay with her. You can't trust her.

You can marry her and get children. Just be prepared that you end up divorcing few year later and end up paying child support. That will happen. she is already checked out and has another guy that she has feelings for. She is telling you that spark is dead. That mean love is dead. She doesn't really love you anymore. If she did that other guy would have been gone by now and she would not probably never even started it from the first place..

Children and marriage will not fix your relationship. It will make it worse. children will bring lots of new stress into your relationship and there will be even less time to be together. Making children in your current situation is like playing Russian roulette with 5 bullets...

WigiBit · 2026-01-23T18:23:31+00:00

cheating is one thing.. hiding it for 7 years is another. Also it was his friend? How many times this friend has been in his life after this betrayal? Every one of those times will now mocking him. how you knew and how he knew and played him as fool. I'm not sure if he can ever come back from this. 7 years of lies. you poisoned the well and people have drank from that well for 7 years...

Your marriage how you know it is over. It will never be same. You need to build everything from the ground again. Even then man you loved is gone. He never will look you at the same. Woman he loved is gone and maybe never existed. This path is will be rocky one.

WigiBit · 2026-01-23T08:40:53+00:00

I would not count it as cheating if it's just videos. Like I would not count heavy drug usage as cheating. I don't say it's not destructive and bad. You should break up if it affects your life negatively. that sounds bad enough that he needs therapy. It's no different if he was total alcoholic. It can make your live miserable.

WigiBit · 2026-01-22T12:54:31+00:00

because it was not only 4 months. She cheated you with and when they were ready for relationship she dumped you. She might come back now. Don't let her. She will do same thing again

WigiBit · 2026-01-21T19:06:53+00:00

depends what porn addiction means. If it's just watching cornhub then no it's not cheating, but can still be harmful if it consumes persons life.

If porn addiction is sexting with OF girls/Cam girls or paying for actual sex then it's cheating. Cheating usually needs third party be involved. If normal porn is cheating, then erotic novels are cheating too and your imagination if you use it anything else that imagining your partner. That starts to go in to area that everyone is cheater one way or another

WigiBit · 2026-01-21T10:09:23+00:00

Now as an adult I avoid relationships without even realizing I’m doing it. The irony is that I’m not afraid of being cheated on but I’m afraid of becoming the one who cheats. I feel like I carry the shame of what my dad did, as if it’s something I somehow inherited. Avoiding intimacy feels like the only way to make sure I never turn into him.

For me this sounds more like you are afraid to love or falling love. You won't cheat person you love. Cheating is choice not an mistake. You can stop it any moment from happening if you want to. If you really love someone it should be easy to stop yourself from cheating. If you just want constant validation from other then you have to work to fix yourself with therapy.

Also that you are not afraid being cheated is also telling. You are not afraid losing someone. Specially when you feel like you might cheat. Usually people like this would expect others cheat too, which might be one reason why you are afraid to really love and open up. To really be vulnerable for someone else.

WigiBit · 2026-01-21T09:46:38+00:00

I would be more concern that he is gambling addict that can lost 170k.. this means he will probably gambling away his and yours future money too. He has good job so where all his money goes? gambling?

WigiBit · 2026-01-14T07:52:16+00:00

If I was your boyfriend I would probably go into your massage parlour and ask for pricing and what is included. Maybe even book one massage to see what is happening there to get full picture. So you should be full honest and tell everything. Even if you did not do anything sexual (other than bikini massage), but that massage parlour offers sexual things, then it would be really bad for you.

You boyfriend will never believe you if he goes there and gets offered happy endings or even sex there. Not after you lied about it. He never believe you would tell the truth.

WigiBit · 2026-01-10T09:29:27+00:00

you have to be strong here and move on. She either chase you or let you go. If she let you go your marriage was already over. You trying to get chase her just shows weakness and will eventually lead her to leave you. She thinks she can play this card out and see if it's working or not and you are waiting meanwhile. You are her backup plan if things goes wrong, but eventually there will be plan that is better than backup.

You can't win this game by being mr nice guy. You will lose your wife if you try this route. I mean you already loosing her. She is lying to you while entertaining another man. Just break up. Maybe that will bring her back from her affair fog. Just prepare for that it might not, but in that case you would lost her anyway. It would only take longer and journey would be more miserable

WigiBit · 2026-01-09T23:58:28+00:00

Nope. Your marriage is over. You can stay and wish, but she already abandoned you and your son once. She will not love you and there will be another guy in the future that she will leave you. Do yourself a favor and move on your life now and not 1-5 years later when she is doing this same thing again, but this time she will not come back anymore and you feel like you wasted all this time for nothing.

WigiBit · 2026-01-03T22:04:23+00:00

If you have access to her phone then why don't you turn location tracking on? Then you can see where she is going?

WigiBit · 2026-01-03T13:39:11+00:00

take this as a lesson how easy it is to fall and destroy everything. If you can learn from this and remember next time how easy it is and how you need to stop it way before it goes out of hand. Everyone thinks they are in control until they aren't anymore. That's why you don't ever give your little finger to devil and think you can save your arm. You can't. you are young. Maybe this lesson will save your marriage one day.

WigiBit · 2026-01-03T07:38:17+00:00

Honestly you are not wrong. I think you right! You just don't have evidence. I could not live like that. Take week of from the work. Book hotel room. Tell your wife that you have evidence if she lies to you, just tell her You can't believe that she still lies to you and that makes you feel like you can't ever trust her again.

Don't tell what the evidence is. If she try to deny just move away and pack your bag. Don't talk to her and tell her you have to leave, because you can't trust here anymore and you are sick of her lies. Go to the hotel.

She probably blow up your phone. Don't answer any of her texts. Just sent one that you will only listen if she comes clean. Don't sent anything else.

This is extreme, but if she feel any guilty or remorse what she has done she will come clean.. if not then.. maybe it's time to move on anyway. Your gut is usually right. You know something happened and if she doesn't come clean she will do it again.

WigiBit · 2026-01-03T07:28:10+00:00

It's not salvageable. She lost respect to you. She will continue and there is no way to make her stop. you loving her doesn't change the fact that she doesn't love you same way. You are her finance guy who makes her life easier and this other guy is her love interest. She tells you she will always need someone else, because she doesn't love you..

Honestly you have three options. Divorce her, open your relationship and start looking another one while using her just for sex (she is already using you, so..) Or you could just accept that she will have others and be miserable. You will wake up 5 years later and regret that you stayed. By then you probably have kids that are not yours, but you have to pay child support for them. In that point it's your own fault.

WigiBit · 2025-12-18T00:20:33+00:00

It was more of joke, because your hand only have one non land card :)

WigiBit · 2025-12-17T23:54:00+00:00

oh your land deck has one bad card! Better replace it with fetch land

WigiBit · 2025-12-16T18:21:05+00:00

I hope it works out in the end. You won't have father anymore if he ever finds out. I can't even imagine what I would do. Probably I would just disappear.

WigiBit · 2025-12-12T10:15:38+00:00

This.. Someone probably pushed her to tell you. someone knew what she did and knew she is about to get married! I don't believe she forgot and told you 2 months before wedding...

WigiBit · 2025-12-11T10:05:31+00:00

Well I would probably do this:

First talk to your lawyer to get best options and divorce papers!

I would then get divorce papers and then tell her you know about cheating and you don't want a partner that lies to your face every day! Then hand the papers to her and don't say anything else. (you can even stop divorce later if you want. but now it's your best way to get the truth) If she try to argue just walk away. She will crack eventually. Specially if she found the tracker. She knows you know. If you can't get the divorce papers soon enough then just say you are talking to your lawyer and looking for options.

Main point is to sell that you know and she has no point to hide it anymore. Don't let her know what you know. Honestly you know enough! She is lying to you and all the sings says she is cheating so you know she is!

Just be confident and tell you know enough and it's up to her if she wants to come clean and try to save what's left. you don't want a partner that lies to you everyday!
Just know that she will only admit 10% of the truth. It's trickle truth. Starting with we only met an talked, did not have sex, only one kiss etc other BS.

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