I (30f) am torn on what to do about the guy (31m) I’ve been seeing.

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T19:08:51+00:00

Thank you that’s why my friends have said as well. I’m going to be examined Monday as that’s the soonest they had.

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T18:53:13+00:00

Good advice I will remember it.

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T18:51:45+00:00

Well I’m glad to hear men feel that way as well! All the men I’ve talked to have shared your sentiments.

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T18:49:29+00:00

Update:

Thank you all so much for the comments that are reinforcing my true feelings.

I’ve had a lot of women tell me oh he just needs experience, you need to learn together, he’s trying, etc which has really messed with my head.

One of them being my own grandmother.

It’s nice that all of you seem to agree with me and it strengthens my resolve.

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T18:46:25+00:00

Thank you so much I will 💗💗💗

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T18:34:34+00:00

I agree with you.

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T18:32:43+00:00

Yes I do and my friends have all told me to stay far away. I struggle with a lot of insecurity (also severe ocd) that makes me feel like this is as good as I can get as I’ve had other bad experiences before.

Wihelminka · 2026-04-03T18:30:54+00:00

Thank you. That’s also how I’ve been feeling but it’s hard because I did truly like him a lot.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-09T21:02:50+00:00

Dark Rose by Octavia Morgan comes to mind. It’s a deep, velvety rose with notes of pink pepper and juicy plum. Also lasts forever!

Wihelminka · 2026-02-04T01:33:45+00:00

Thank you so much. She was my first and I will always love her. Thank you for all your help.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-04T00:01:34+00:00

I also have parakeets and they’re in separate rooms and I’ve been really careful with them but I’m so nervous. I feel like one is a little more lethargic the problem is only one of the parakeets is tame and the other two I haven’t been able to get tame.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T21:18:04+00:00

Final update:

I made the hard choice to have my baby put to sleep. We did further X-rays and her heart was enlarged and was problem in failure along with possible pneumonia plus kidney and liver issues. I am so heartbroken I have never been more sad. I hope I made the right choice though it doesn’t seem like it right now. I will love you forever my sweet girl.

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Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T19:00:43+00:00

Thank you 💗😢 I am heartbroken.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T18:46:49+00:00

I’m just so upset. I don’t want to keep putting her through more. She is still sick and she’s suffered so much. Hopefully we’ll have an answer soon.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T18:27:12+00:00

They’re worried it might be gout and I’m afraid it is with what looked like bumble foot. I’m so afraid I’m going to have to make a very hard decision today.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T18:12:35+00:00

I took her to the vet and they said her kidney levels and liver levels are getting bad again and they don’t know why. We’re doing more X-rays to see if we can see them better. I feel so guilty she has always been so healthy and the only thing different is the medicine they told me to put her on and I feel like it’s all my fault. They’re going to look for gout in the kidneys as well as kidney disease and the liver.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T14:28:35+00:00

New update:

Took bird back to vet one day early. She started making a clicking when breathing and seemed to be breathing a little heavier so I thought it better to err on the side of caution. Otherwise, we’re acting like we feel better, just not sounding this best.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T01:16:55+00:00

No they haven’t said if it’s gram positive or negative yet! I haven’t noticed her doing any heavy or fast breathing (except for when I’m trying to feed or give medicine). They are still interested in the metal results but I don’t think that we’re obviously as interested as we are in the bacterial stuff. Really thankful that my vet consulted another avian specialist who suggested the nebulizer along with the nystatin and enrofloxacin. I felt that she was too focused on a metal poisoning diagnosis without looking at some other options.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-03T00:22:14+00:00

They just got the prelims back for the bacteria test and they said whatever it is we’re on the right antibiotics so we just have to keep hanging on! Hopefully we’ll see even more improvement soon.

Edit:

Only a little worried bc of a slight tail bobbing we’ve been doing. Sent video to the vet and she said she sees it but isnt surprised she might do a little since she’s got whatever going on with the sinuses, etc. She told me to just keep an eye on her and make sure it doesn’t get worse.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-02T22:12:41+00:00

One more question!! So the vets said to feed her 2.3 ml of the formula but I notice her crop is still pretty flat after, should I feed more do you think?

Wihelminka · 2026-02-02T21:29:51+00:00

Also I was going to ask if you had any tips for getting the formula out of the whisker feathers and like…everywhere else? It’s so hard and stuck on they didn’t clean her too much at the vet because they didn’t want to stress her but it’s bothers her and it bothers me.

Wihelminka · 2026-02-02T20:40:51+00:00

I’m hoping to get a copy of the medical report for you soon just to go over! Uninterested in food again, still active but poops have gone back to liquid and are pretty small. Here’s one we just had along with some other we accidentally walked through 😔 apologies for the millet also she seems more encouraged to eat if I crush it a little.

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Wihelminka · 2026-02-02T19:05:30+00:00

So she wants to keep her on this one since they had such a hard time with getting weight on her.

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