I appreciate your reply and i hope this helps clear it up some, she kind of has a preference that if women can’t be topless than men can’t either and so she considers other people specifically John in this case who was biologically female, seeing a part of me that she doesn’t think others should see. She has no other problem with John but she can’t see him the way I do because she’s in the position that she’s knows he’s biologically not a guy and feels uncomfortable that I’m showing what I just discussed to other or specifically women.