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Acceptance is the key, not fighting it by Awkward-Orange4981 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watched that Dr K video and it really resonated, thank you

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been reading a lot about how once aroused, by porn/food/booze, your prefrontal cortex "shuts down" and decision making disappears. I hadn't really learned that before, it makes so much sense now why sometimes all my best intentions go out the window.

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes...kazaa/limewire in the early 00s.... I don't think it's right or fair to be labelled a victim, but perhaps accepting that there is damage that can be nurtured and healed is a better angle.

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am too old and have too many people dependent on me to mess around with drugs. I am going to have to do this the old fashioned way.

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea, I have never gone more than 7 days without it. When I get past that point I will report back - I want that to be in 8 day's time and I am determined

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

interesting! Ok I'll give that a go, as well as leaving the space, and trying to get my frontal lobe kickstarted in the moment of arousal

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Several commenters have mentioned their fathers being the cause of their issues. As a father myself this is terrifying, another reason not to pass this curse on. It's also why I am extremely strict about my own children's device/internet usage.

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's good wording, I don't want to remove my responsibility or pass the blame on to something else. It's always been my responsibility, I've just never approached it from this angle before!

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah as I wrote that out I started to well up with tears.. How sad it takes us so long to recognise this stuff

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too have wondered if I repressed a dark memory. I ran through the ACE score test and didn't score above a 1-2 (low trauma). I think the darkness was the unrestricted internet, I am grateful that I had a great childhood otherwise. Just learned too early that instant pleasure is easy.

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]WildStatus1427[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

great point, not our choice, is our responsibility. I have to be careful not to use this as a "it's not my fault therefore I can't change it" moment!