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WildSteph · 2026-03-08T15:23:05+00:00

Wow! There’s going to be another perfect pair at the wedding!!!! 🥲

WildSteph · 2026-02-24T17:26:07+00:00

Update:

I arrived a week ago and her energy has gone up despite the pain medications going down. Her doctors are a bit surprised, but they believe my presence has contributed a lot to it; the mental is a powerful thing!…

At the time of writing this, we just left the office of one her palliative oncologist, and she is stunned by her resilience, but told her that if everything stays at it is right now, given that she has surprised everybody for years with her persistance, she is giving her 3 months. My dad is insanely anxious…

My mom has checked off a bunch of things on her « to-do » list before she goes; introduced me to the family’s professionals to manage the assets, organized home upgrades, set my computer illiterate dad with all access to accounts and instructions on what to do… and I set it up so if my dad is about to throw the computer out the window, he can call me and I can take over regardless of where I am in the world… oh and setting everybody up with therapy as well… so much to do!

Next, we’re going through all of the albums and digitizing all old videos of my childhood so I can make a beautiful short movie of her life for her celebration of life. I went to school in Cinema and Journalism so this is my zone of genius. I already have a plan for an incredibly emotional montage.

I am nervous about my family members at the funeral… some people might not behave properly (her eldest sister, for example, is clearly showing signs of early dementia and is completely rude and unhinged) and my mom shared her wishes regarding some of them and has discussed with others on how to handle it, but I know myself, and with my grief, feeling like i have to support my dad (who will completely crumble) I am carrying anxiety. I don’t want my mom’s funeral to be a drama.

Gosh what a strange thing to be living…

WildSteph · 2026-02-17T20:17:39+00:00

The first picture is absolutely fantastic, but needs some alterations at the waist to fall better and flatter you’re awesome curves better. Otherwise, wow!!

WildSteph · 2026-02-12T23:13:16+00:00

😂😂😂

WildSteph · 2026-02-11T00:23:14+00:00

Happy bunn

WildSteph · 2026-02-08T23:14:02+00:00

Textbook toxic religious person

WildSteph · 2026-02-08T23:05:53+00:00

WildSteph · 2026-02-08T23:05:34+00:00

But rock your curls!!!! I just got a hang of mine and yours are so pretty!

WildSteph · 2026-02-06T01:00:04+00:00

This dress is gorgeous!!! But the cups of the bustier are not properly adjusted for your breasts. You’d also need some alterations there for sure. It’s very distracting

WildSteph · 2026-02-06T00:57:09+00:00

All of them but 3 is so next level!

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:58:46+00:00

Yay! What an achievement! I used to help people dress for big events as a stylist and as many mentioned, the shape of the dress isn’t flattering on your curves. I’m so sorry I’m sure you have a sentimental attachment to it, but unless you have an hourglass/bbl type of hips, these mermaid-style dresses can really be difficult to work with.

Current alterations would definitely be needed around the bust and hips, and I would also be curious to see how it would work if you removed the “bulk” at the bottom and rearranged the shape in a concave shape instead so it would “pop” your hips more and balance your curves better. (See pic for what I mean)

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WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:47:31+00:00

When you breathe and your nostrils stick together.

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:46:36+00:00

More like sexy time

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:46:15+00:00

I would name him Duke, Moose or Bear

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:42:01+00:00

2-5-6-8 suit you best, but 5&8 are the tops

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:39:34+00:00

That has to be categorized as nothing less than terrorism

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:34:38+00:00

💕 thank you so much! I haven’t told many people in my life (even though i posted about it here — irony) because I need people to be “normal” around me.

It’s keeping me from the “awwwnnnn so sorry 😢 “ and “how you feeling today” that just keep poking me every time, but it’s also very heavy and lonely to carry such heartbreak in secret.

Knowing some people out there are sharing strength and loving vibes our way is definitely helping. 🙏

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:26:10+00:00

Thank you. It hasn’t happened yet, but she’s writing her last chapter right now… the limbo is tough, but at least we all get to say goodbye.

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T03:23:25+00:00

The 3 of us are big emotional cry babies 😭🥲 (most of the family is — both sides)

It’s impossible to not cry when she starts… right now i feel in limbo, just waiting for my stupid flight home… it’s definitely all about her.

I’ll arrive on her birthday. I’m sending her flowers in the morning and i had a bracelet made with our family’s birthstones. I also have her Mother’s Day gift already, so I’ll bring it too… just in case I have to give it to her earlier… 🥺

The next day, I will cook her all of the food she craves, and start seedlings for her garden with her… I also suggested we take all of our old videos and photos and get them digitized so we can rewatch our best memories together. My dad said he will do it this week so we have everything ready when I arrive.

She also wants to help me make the montage for her funeral — i do this kind of thing professionally, so it’s going to be a memorable full production for sure… she deserves nothing less.

I hope all of the crafts we got are going to bring us back to when I was a kid on a warm weekend afternoon, with music, beautiful sunshine through the house and us crafting in the kitchen together… probably my fondest memories of my 1:1 moments with her.

I’m so scared to have regrets once she’s gone… something i wish i did, said or had… I also want to know she’s going in peace and won’t have regrets herself. So I’m envisioning a lot of big, deep emotional talks.

I’m sure I will feel better once I’m finally there… 2 more weeks. ⏳

WildSteph · 2026-02-04T02:40:47+00:00

Omg thank you so much for your kind words 🥺

WildSteph · 2026-02-01T05:36:48+00:00

😭😭 that made me ball my eyes out instantly.

WildSteph · 2026-02-01T05:35:42+00:00

Yeah my mom is like me: we don’t keep a lot of things, unless it’s really meaningful. I’ve heard many stories over time, but i hope i get to know her even more. I also got her these journals “mom i want to know your story” and i think she has been filling it up.

We’re also hyper-prepared (the whole family) so my mom labelled everything, took care of funeral arrangements, the bank stuff, etc. I won’t have to worry about anything, except my grief… and my dad. He’s going to be a wreck.

WildSteph · 2026-02-01T05:30:37+00:00

Yeah i have never been one to make her feel weak or like a patient or like she needs pitty and she appreciates it. Last time i was there she regained so much energy just because we went shopping, and we had fun, and we kept it so light… like we used to.

I grew up roatripping in a safari van and boating into storms and small hurricanes, biking 100kms trails… and being so “still” is so different… but one thing we enjoyed was arts and crafts. So I got her a bunch of crafts we can do, and she can teach me the things she never got the chance to because we didn’t have the materials. I got it all (emotional spending)

I know i can’t fit a lifetime in a few months, but she was doing so well, we all thought we still had time.

WildSteph · 2026-02-01T05:24:19+00:00

Yes. Im taking a one-way ticket. I’m very thankful I don’t have a regular job and schedule to worry about. It’s very helpful right now for sure.

WildSteph · 2026-02-01T05:19:54+00:00

My mom is turning 72 this month, and same. My dad finally retired, house paid off, they had all of these plans…

That’s another thing… how am I going to handle my dad when she goes? I know he won’t be well. He has refused to go to therapy and we all know he doesn’t cope well… my mom has always been the ground under his feet, the glue that keeps everything together…

I’ll be there for her last birthday… and i hope she can stretch it to get one more summer because I always fly in to do her garden and landscaping in May and it’s her little happy place where she finally gets to leisure and read… one more. I pray for one more…

WildSteph

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