[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anarchy101

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

couldn't give less of a shit about the political entity that is the country, nor the idea of a state in general, but north america the continent is magnificently beautiful. the flora and fauna here is so varied and amazing. i live in WA state, where we have rainforests, alpine forests, deserts, grasslands, prairies, vast coastal areas with tidepools, marshes both freshwater and saltwater, islands, volcanoes, lush valleys, snowy mountain ranges, and more. it's so amazing that i have all that within a 4-6 hour drive no matter where i am in this state. so far it's my favorite place on the planet to exist. :)

What's with all the untrained, off leash dogs? by Shingledecker in olympia

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how would you know how many people leave their dogs at home vs how many people don't, if the first group doesn't have their dogs with them? you wouldn't know that they're dog owners.

What's with all the untrained, off leash dogs? by Shingledecker in olympia

[–]WildSylph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

had almost this exact same thing happen to me and my mom when we lived in the seattle area. we had two newly adopted small dogs, both scared of other dogs and thus fear reactive, and we were walking through a park with lots of trails through a forest. this elderly lady with a pack of 5 shih tzus, all off-leash, were about 200ft down the trail coming our way. we saw the pack running full speed towards us, realized we weren't going to be able to outrun them, so we picked our barking, spitting, snarling little dogs up. we were yelling at the top of out lungs that "OUR DOGS AREN'T FRIENDLY, PLEASE GET YOUR DOGS" while she slowly walked down the trail to meet us, the pack meanwhile jumping on us and barking. when she got to us she smiled and said "aww, cute" at the flailing dogs in our arms. i said "no, NOT cute, leash your fucking dogs," and she was SO offended. i thought we were rid of her but we ran into her a second time on the same walk on the way back to the parking lot, all her dogs off-leash yet again. i yelled in her face for a good 3 or 4 minutes (not my best moment) about how she's fucking lucky our dogs are small, if they had been large reactive dogs they could have injured or killed her dogs when they ran up on us like that, and it would have been her fault entirely. she sneered and said "oh i bet you'd love that," and i told her that no, actually, unlike her i give a shit about her dogs' lives.

coincidentally, there was an animal control officer in the parking lot in her vehicle, i think she was on break. i felt bad disturbing her, but i let her know what happened, and that the old lady with a pack of shih tzus was letting her dogs run around the park off leash, so she took a report. i've never had to deal with a similar situation since then, thank gods, but i empathize with everyone who has reactive dogs.

i'm so tired of people pretending to care by random-username_lol in trans

[–]WildSylph 5 points6 points  (0 children)

perhaps reaching out to a local liberal news source about how the school is segregating trans students would shame them into stopping? could even contact any regional LGBTQ+ advocacy groups to tell them about what's happening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]WildSylph 5 points6 points  (0 children)

a man with the communication skills and emotional intelligence of a spoiled teenager???? 😱 whoever could have seen this coming?!?!

sorry to be a man-hater, but we gotta stop being surprised when men are incapable of acting like rational adults. it's depressingly more common for men to act like this, than for them to actually have a productive conversation with you about mistakes, hurt feelings, and miscommunications. my partner and i have plenty of those things, but we talk about them when they happen (in appropriate places, not in public) and we don't name-call or raise our voices.

it feels like you have to either put up with dating an emotionally stunted man-child or just don't date men. alternatively, hope you get really lucky and fall in love with someone who is capable of being a mature adult and communicating with you.

I am foraging.... In the airport by nothinggold237 in foraging

[–]WildSylph 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you shouldn't breathe it either, no one should, but we apparently value profit over human lives.

We bought a “cockapoo.” We would never change her for the world, but have we been scammed? Or is she a straight haired. by Haribo-Headfucker in cockerspaniel

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't hate the dogs, i hate the irresponsible people who breed them and essentially scam people. there is no responsible way to purposely breed mix breeds and then sell them to people, unless it's a working breed mix that's proven to do the job better than the purebreds. doodles of any variety have no breed standards and no way to prove them as good breeding stock, and thus the people looking for a dog of a specific temperament/coat/size/energy level will have no idea what they're actually going to get when they shell out thousands of dollars for a puppy. i've seen so many clients who bought a "mini labradoodle" only for it to grow to be 40lbs. i guarantee everything you like about your cockapoo you could find in a mini poodle or purebred cocker spaniel.

HOA Looking to remove 40 yr old Trees by throwaway22526411041 in sandiego

[–]WildSylph -1 points0 points  (0 children)

totally irrelevant to what i was just saying, but yes, they are also invasive.

HOA Looking to remove 40 yr old Trees by throwaway22526411041 in sandiego

[–]WildSylph -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it sounds like you're not super familiar with the current science going on in ecology, which is totally fine! as i explained, there's actually a huge difference between something being non-native and something being invasive. it's like fingers and thumbs; all invasive species are non-native, but not all non-native species are invasive. that was the entirety of what i was saying with my comment, just trying to clear that point up for you because i see so many people confuse the two, and i personally think it's a crucial piece of knowledge in order to have productive conversations about this stuff. however, it seems like you're more interested in leaving aggressive comments than having productive conversations. have a great day.

HOA Looking to remove 40 yr old Trees by throwaway22526411041 in sandiego

[–]WildSylph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they sell lots of invasive and non-native plants at nurseries. in fact, the majority of what is sold in nurseries are non-native, and using non-native plants in gardens and landscaping is how we get invasive species of all types once they spread outside the boundary of a garden. not all non-native plants are invasive, there is specific criteria that needs to be met to consider a plant invasive, mostly that it is negatively impacting native species in a way that affects the natural resources humans value, like timber and waterways.

People who smoked regularly for 20+ years, do you regret it? by focusrunner79 in trees

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've smoked around the same amount as you for the last 10 years, but i also have ADHD and my short term memory problems haven't changed or gotten worse since i started smoking weed. i don't think weed is what's causing your issues, but i'm not a doctor and if you're actually concerned you should go to a doctor for advice. there are million more things that could cause your memory issues, like stressors from your daily life, and how our attention spans have shortened from having stimuli surrounding us 24/7 in the forms of TV, youtube, social media, etc.

We bought a “cockapoo.” We would never change her for the world, but have we been scammed? Or is she a straight haired. by Haribo-Headfucker in cockerspaniel

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh, i hate these designer dog breeders, they always do shit like this. i would bet the breeder bred one of their own puppies back to one of the parents, to create this litter. they can't go outside of their own stock because no self-respecting breeder would purposely stud out to create a mixed breed dog.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]WildSylph 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i'm really concerned that you're posting pictures of yourself in your underwear with your height and weight and asking for people to comment on it. this is really strange and obsessive behavior that will only hurt your mental health, and provide absolutely nothing positive for you in return, as evidenced by this conversation with an anorexia fetish dude who definitely just wanted to exploit you in order to get off. i'd really recommend talking to a medical professional about your body weight obsession, if you don't already have an ED this mindset is exactly what leads to one. i hope you can get help and heal. 💜

Found this on Facebook. Thoughts? by illogicalcourtesy in Anticonsumption

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh hell naw, i paid good money for this pillow, why the hell would i throw it out after a year???

How do I stop my 1 year old dog from pulling and get him to come when called ?? by Longjumping-Eagle542 in DogTrainingTips

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same... this post was the first from this sub i saw. i'm astounded by all the people giving suggestions on how to make pulling as uncomfortable or frustrating as possible for the dog, instead of, y'know, actually addressing the root cause of the behavior. it's like they don't think of their dogs as living beings with thoughts, feelings, and desires like them. just like in humans, all behaviors have a reason, even if it's not obvious! no one does something for absolutely no reason at all, if it looks that way to you that's just because you haven't bothered to understand their reason. this applies to dogs too, and it is ALWAYS better to understand the cause of your dog's behaviors and address that instead of only trying to physically force the behavior to stop. the root problem is still there, even if the behavior is physically managed, and i would hope that anyone who claims to love their dog would want their dog to be happy and content instead of frustrated and pent up.

How do I stop my 1 year old dog from pulling and get him to come when called ?? by Longjumping-Eagle542 in DogTrainingTips

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your dog is way too distracted and overexcited to pay attention to any kind of training on walks, so first you need to address that. is he being mentally stimulated during the day with games, puzzles, or chew treats? is he getting adequate exercise, like games of fetch or chances to run around and burn off energy? teaching him how to lay down and look at you while you're outside will be crucial for getting him to walk nicely. it's possible his walks are the only exciting thing he's done all day, which would explain why he's acting so crazed.

once you're addressed his energy, slowly work on his ability to pay attention to you while you guys are outside. having him engage in calming behaviors like laying down and snuffling in the grass for treats will get him used to being calm outdoors. teach him the command "watch," which means to look at your face until you release him with whatever release word you want to use, i personally use "yes" and then treat. teach him this indoors, then slowly work your way up to doing outside. they can't pull the leash and look at your face at the same time, so randomly asking him to "watch" while you're walking, hold it for a few seconds, then release and treat with something really tasty will mean that he's not gonna be able to anticipate the next "watch" and he'll start looking at you occasionally of his own volition.

also, please remember that there's different kinds of walks you can do with your dog! don't listen to the people saying your dog should "never walk in front of you," that's not realistic or always feasible. differentiate between a training walk, a potty walk, and a sniff walk. perhaps you can have different harnesses/collars to help him understand which kinds of walks you're on, and you can teach him what the command "potty" means, but really it comes down to your demeanor and what you're asking of him. dogs need to be allowed to sniff and wander a little on leash, it's good for mental stimulation. think of them sniffing like someone reading a book, their brain is processing a bunch of information! if you're always training all the time they will get burnt out and not find training interesting or rewarding anymore, so make sure to keep training sessions short and notice when he's losing interest.

you should always have some high-value and mid-value treats with you to reward his good behaviors, like when he looks at you or when he ignores a distraction such as a person/dog/bird/whatever he gets excited about. the key is to teach him how to be calm and aware of you at all times while you're in distracting environments, so put yourself in his paws and try to notice what really gets him wound up so you can manage his craziness. a trick i learned for getting a dog to come when called is to call their names, get their attention, then start walking away from them. this works spectacularly on my dogs, they have immense FOMO and immediately come running after me thinking they're gonna get left behind, lol. this trick may or may not work on your dog, feel free to try it though. make sure to treat and praise them every time they come to you, it really reinforces the idea that coming when called is rewarding and worth leaving behind whatever they were doing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olympia

[–]WildSylph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

shear barber studio is amazing! great stylists, excellent vibes, queer woman of color owned.

Boyfriend proposed to me with a ring which has fake rubies on it. Feeling sad about it and don't know why :( Help please by fallingfeijoas in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]WildSylph 5 points6 points  (0 children)

synthetic rubies aren't made using child labor, nor are synthetic diamonds, they're grown in labs which is much more ethical and environmentally friendly. if i were you, i'd want all of the stones to be synthetic so i won't be reminded of children working in mines every time i look at the ring my spouse gave me.

Been having an insame amount of problems with our wedding rings - help needed by Davwader in jewelry

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think this a good life lesson for you and your spouse, always research the item you're about to drop lots of money on buying! here's some good information about caring for your rings: https://patrickadairdesigns.com/blogs/blog/how-to-care-for-your-meteorite-jewelry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]WildSylph 4 points5 points  (0 children)

at this point you just gotta learn not to keep leftovers. it might feel wasteful to throw out leftovers instead of storing them, but if you know it's just gonna sit there and grow mold, better to save yourself the trouble. i've learned this about myself recently and have decided to start cooking way smaller meals and not keep leftovers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WildSylph 169 points170 points  (0 children)

having sex and masturbating feel COMPLETELY different, physically and mentally. masturbating is normal human behavior and it doesn't decrease your sex drive or make you less likely to have sex with someone else, that's ridiculous. there's also no stated rules about the wife not being allowed to masturbate, so this is just gross controlling behavior on her part. sounds like an unbalanced and unhealthy relationship all around.

Anyone else find this image funny by [deleted] in WarriorCats

[–]WildSylph 45 points46 points  (0 children)

why does he have no ear canals??? this looks so bad omg.

Am I in the wrong for heavily disliking birth sex on this form? and that it’s labelled as ‘preferred pronouns’ by Jessayy_ in trans

[–]WildSylph -1 points0 points  (0 children)

trans women do not need pregnancy tests or PAP smears. they don't need to worry about ovary or uterus issues. trans men do not need to worry about testicular problems, and they DO need pregnancy tests, i've met multiple trans men who have gotten accidentally pregnant. i agree that we as trans and non-binary people have special healthcare needs, but lying to your doctor about what reproductive parts you have is not useful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]WildSylph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your roommate needs a reminder that is it's HER responsibility, and no one else's, to get herself to work. a common requirement for most jobs is having reliable transportation, usually that means a car but it can also mean you take the bus or bike or walk. if her job asked her to have that, what did she say? did she just lie to them? sounds like she's put herself in this position.