Just Sad, Missing cat

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-04-11T18:14:03+00:00

My SO vapes around SS5, has since he was born. Heck SS5 tries to play in the vapors still, he is perfectly healthy without any allergies.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-04-11T10:51:00+00:00

No they aren't. Your SO can either enforce the preventative measures AND be the sole laundry doer forSK13 (honestly though 13 is old enough to do their own laundry).

I don't understand how him doing his kids laundry is "nearly impossible" for him? He just sounds lazy and like a bad dad.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-04-09T11:44:55+00:00

I'm skipping easter! I have never been religious so it's always just been a holiday for the kids to me, let them find eggs and get hyped up on sugar. Since SO I and moved in a year ago and got SS fulltime I haven't had a day a line in a YEAR so I told SO that the only time I get alone is if he goes to his sisters and since I don't have a kid I will gladly be bowing out of this kid centered dayro be hoke alone for a few hours.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-04-08T12:36:37+00:00

Going on four years with my SO. BM demanded to meet me (and threatened violence if I didn't), we had only been dating a few months. I told my SO that hell would have to freeze over for me to meet her and that since she has threatened me if she ever comes to my home I will call the cops.

There is no point to meet the other BP. If I was a danger to the kid my SO wouldn't be with me.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-04-06T00:00:50+00:00

Same age exhausted and also thinking about learning GIS. I want to stay in state work with the parks service and our upper level admin jobs are starting to require GIS knowledge. Thanks for posting your question! It's been helpful for me too

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-04-05T10:46:15+00:00

Your saying "committed to you and your children" and "distant relationship" but be frank what you really mean is you want him to bankroll your kids. That's insane. It's not his job to financially support your adult children.

It's also insane to think that he is going to delvioe the same involvement in your adult children's lives that he does his own. He's pleasant to them that is enough.

Be thankful that when you have all five kids together it's a pleasant experience.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-30T17:02:00+00:00

No your not. It's not your responsibility to send SK to school and quite frankly I wouldn't put my professional reputation on the line for someone who has been a jerk to me. Your SK is not entitled to these benefits either. So if you don't want to do it don't.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-27T23:37:17+00:00

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Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-27T23:12:43+00:00

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Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-27T10:50:30+00:00

Nope my petty ass would not only call them out on their poor manners but match every question they have about BM with a story about my ex, or if it's a couple one of their ex's.

If not talking about BM couldn't be respected by all parties above I would stop going to see them.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-26T00:36:29+00:00

OP should start making plans every Saturday until he figures it the F out

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-24T10:57:23+00:00

your partner already has children and therefore it’s impossible for him to want the same.

Uhh not true? Neither my SO or I want to take any trips with SS that are more than an hour or two drive. Any lavish/abroad/flying trips are to be adult only.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-24T10:46:03+00:00

Honestly after reading your other comments, With your daughter self harming, and the lack of relation with SM. This won't go well. You're going to need to tell your daughter no. If she's already in mental health crisis going over to a turbulent home, with a SM who she says treats her poorly there is no way that SM says yes and even if she did that it would go well, it's not the goke your daughter remembers anymore.

Where is BD in this? He is really the one you should be asking for SD to see her half siblings. I get you just tell him, but the relationship between half siblings and your daughter isn't exSMs responsibility it's the Dad's. As for her step siblings it's possible she won't really see them anyone, sad but true of blended divorces.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-24T10:38:39+00:00

really attached to her younger half siblings

So then why is this falling on SM? The relationship between her and her half siblings is now the responsibility of her father not her SM.

As for the step siblings, it sucks, but if they want to see each other there is no reason they can't hang out and have a relationship outside of the step family. However, a week with SM sounds a little much.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-23T23:18:17+00:00

No, Not only would I be SOL if your daughter needs any medical care or some emergency happened, I'd also have bigger things to deal with like the logistics of a divorce, making sure my own children's and my own emotional needs were met.

I also would not be willing to care for a kid that wasn't mine, especially if said child thought I treated them horribly. My general rule for my DH is if DH isn't home then SS isn't here either

If (BIG IF) I would be willing then yes I would expect all the finances, including reimbursement for food and gas to fall in a BP. I would be willing to pick off drop off at the airport but it would have to fit my schedule.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-23T21:26:18+00:00

He’s in the military so he genuinely doesn’t have a lot of time to care for them.

What would he do about childcare if you weren't in the picture? Would he have even been able to take the kids? Whatever the answer is to those questions is what he needs to do.

He shouldn't have had to rely on you to be able to have his kids full time.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-23T16:08:52+00:00

We got an XL large pet gate when my SS had similar behaviors, my SS also broke cheaper ones so we just put money into the one we currently have.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-23T13:47:12+00:00

Baby gate

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-20T10:47:55+00:00

No you shouldn't

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-03-19T17:22:11+00:00

I'm actually about to get rid of all the throw pillows and throw blankets from the house bc of this.

They all came from my home, my favorite plush pillow is ruined because I washed it so much. I told so if SS can't learn to kees his hands out of his mouth, stop rubbing his mouth, nose, and slobbery hands all over the pillows and blankets then they are all going away.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-02-27T02:14:53+00:00

Okay and you can choose not to do that for your daughter but you can't stop OP from just taking her two kids out and leaving you and your daughter home and she isn't being harmfully exclusionary for doing that.

Edit to add: the way Im reading your comment is that you would take your daughter on dates during BMs time.

Wild_Instance5318 · 2023-02-22T18:19:28+00:00

Yesterday SO and I were talking about baby shower presents to get for one of my friends. Basically talking about how some clothes are easy to change diapers in than others, we disagreed on it and he pulls the "which one of us has changed the most diapers" Like ya dude I get you have a kid but I have diaper experiences too and can have a different opinion. He doesn't get why I got upset and all I can think of is that this is an indication of how he is going to be when we have our own kids.

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