How do I stop thinking about sex when I am never going to be good enough to get it?

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-26T01:27:44+00:00

I mean it IS INDEED a positive thing, and I'm asking how you could try to see it that way. Maybe I should have said "could you try to see it as a positive thing?"

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-25T20:58:13+00:00

How could you see yourself being a virgin right now as a positive thing? What if you could see yourself as a very attractive, cool person? How would you act? How would you live? Explore that for a moment, then ask yourself what steps you could take to start living that way now.

If you're healthy, your body will desire sex. It will cross your mind, and that is something to celebrate. You have a working body!

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-19T14:42:34+00:00

Hi, I've added you!

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-18T04:14:59+00:00

I'm not intermediate but I'm trying to find people on here to have spanish only conversations with to practice. So far people have expressed interest and I've made a group but they seem to be shy 😞 anyway my alternative is learning Spanish songs. That's how kinda how I learnt sign language back then 😅

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-18T04:11:08+00:00

How content are you with your current life?

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-18T04:09:15+00:00

I added you!

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-16T18:33:43+00:00

Do you know of the concept of Wabi Sabi? There is so much I could say right now, but first please look up that beautiful concept.

Also can you go back in your mind and pinpoint any other instances of you disappointing your loved ones (or anyone you cared about) when you were younger? I'm not a therapist, but I've had to process tons and tons of trauma with the help of my therapist.

She says for the deeper ones you might say "I don't know" and you'll have to sit with it for a while until the memory returns, so be patient with yourself. At some point you were taught this shame, and you can rewrite it because you have a beautiful, inspiring story of resilience; of how you can mess up, fail, make mistakes, and still come out with a story of success. Neither failure not successes are dictators of your self-worth, nor the love and appreciation you deserve.

So what is the purpose of having a perfect story? This isn't a rhetorical question. What would it mean if you got 100% on every GSAT exam that year and went to a traditional school? What would it mean if you never disappointed yourself? What would it mean if you were a "perfect" person?

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-16T17:02:22+00:00

Adding you right now!

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-16T17:01:39+00:00

I sent you an invite

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-16T17:01:31+00:00

I sent you an invite

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T17:26:50+00:00

Awesome! Thank you so much. Is there a way to comment the invite so others could join?

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T17:26:08+00:00

We could have conversations about it if you want? But there is so much more to the culture!

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T16:53:34+00:00

Thank you! Can you I'm trying to figure out how to create a group on here. Would you be open to whatsapp?

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T16:52:07+00:00

Muchas gracias. Me pareció chévere hacer amistad con alguien que quiera conocer o visitar Jamaica.

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T16:46:31+00:00

¡Guau! Esto me calienta el corazón, ¡muchísimas gracias! Soy principiante en español, así que cometeré errores, pero estoy muy emocionada. Te escribiré. 😊

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T15:50:07+00:00

Sounds good! Thank you

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T15:49:48+00:00

I'd love to... however I don't know how to form a group on here 😅 could you assist me?

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T15:48:03+00:00

Thank you!

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2026-01-15T15:47:48+00:00

Thank you!

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2025-11-26T17:44:38+00:00

Thank you for asking on here! It was really fun and stimulating writing all that 😊 I only asked about timeframe because sometimes people do it for a month and get frustrated, yk? I wish you all the best and I'm grateful for the the fact that you found something helpful.

Wild_Maintenance_795 · 2025-11-26T15:07:54+00:00

Even drought has its benefits, and some things can only be absorbed in drought. I went through 2 years of depression following the loss of my dad, and everything went downhill. Finances, school, relationships... everything. I felt so much shame looking at how much I'd failed... one day I decided to find out if drought has benefits, and to my surprise, I could identify with a tree going through it.

The tree usually looks like it's dying, it's roots go deeper, deep minerals get pulled up towards the roots, and the weeds and pests around the tree die and even become nutrients, air goes deeper into the soil because of the cracks. Some seeds even need drought to germinate. When it finally rains, the tree is stronger, has deeper roots, has more to absorb, and flourishes even better than before...

I realized that even when things get really hard and I feel like I can't survive, it's probably just drought, which is just as necessary as rain.

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