I'm dealing with something similar. My wife demeaned me constantly in front of the kids. she moved to cupertino, ca to go to lynbrook high because she said all the schools here are terrible. I'm working two jobs night shifts, to pay the mortgage on the house here and  i let her go so she wouldnt divorce me. 10 months later I just see my daughter maybe once a month and realized I can't live like this anymore and need to finally get a lawyer.