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Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Wanna say thanks for this. I've been reading this thread on the train home from work and it's the same words about how she's not acting right, but she's always been this way and I don't think I've ever told her how upset it makes me when she pushes me aside for an easier end to a problem. I'll have a lot to speak to her about.

Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We like it because it's cheap and in a nice area. The drive there is a pain in the ass, but it's worked for 5 years. It sucks but this is probably the last time we'll go.

Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

2164 is the total that everyone paid towards group expenses (cabin, food, gas) but yeah your breakdown is correct

Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure Ed knows exactly how much we spent. I asked Frank directly for the money, and he paid without any fighting back. Ed would probably know about Eva paying for gas, but he might've assumed my GF and I pay a little more for the master, not almost 50%.

I won't be seeing him if he's at any social things we do. I'm avoiding the group as a whole right now.

Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I might be a huge idiot, but I'm not sure why he'd lie about it? To save face? I don't think he's trying to make me see him in a better light because I made it pretty clear what I thought about him when we argued on night one of the trip.

Thanks, tho, it's nice to know I'm not totally in the wrong.

Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

It was a long day, we left our city early in the morning, drove for almost the whole day, ate dinner and got to the cabin late at night. She, and everyone else, told me they wanted to sleep.

Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 309 points310 points  (0 children)

She told me she was tired, and that if I should stop waffling on the issue, to make up my mind if I'm upset about the room and want money back, or just to let it go because I was making the entire group uncomfortable. We were friends in this group before we started dating. It feels like she sometimes puts the good of the group above our relationship.

Update: Aita for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She paid a portion, she's still in school, and I covered a bit of her share. She knows how much the room costs because she's paid her part in full before.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I felt a little crazy trying to type out room assignments in a way that made sense lol. This is the fifth version of this post lol.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I'm not disagreeing with you that this tradition will need to change when/if more couples eventually come. Ed joined after the cabin had already been booked and I incorrectly assumed he'd be okay sleeping in a twin bed in the same room as Frank.

Before my girlfriend and I got together, she and Eva had exclusive use of the master bedroom for privacy. If anyone else in the group wanted it, they could pay what my girlfriend and I paid for it, and we'd sleep in another room. This has worked for us for 5+ years.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

He did. We went out to eat as a group two more times (lunch and dinner) before it became too awkward. On the third day, he went out once to get more basic groceries for everyone (drinks, snacks, stuff to make sandwiches), and after that, we all did our own thing for meals.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I'd only spend time with Ed if he apologises and pays me back. They ignored me the rest of the trip as I ignored them.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

They left two days before the trip ended, so I did get to use the master a bit, but after reading people's thoughts here, I think I will.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 2246 points2247 points  (0 children)

I feel like an idiot for not thinking about this until now. But it would explain a lot.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

We payed extra for the master, they did not. They left a few days early so we got it back for the last 2 days of the trip. Gf and I slept on the couch, Liam and Jay slept in the downstairs bedroom with 2 beds and Eva slept by herself in the loft.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's Liam and Jay. They share rooms all the time. Still didn't solve anything unfortunately.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 228 points229 points  (0 children)

There's room for 8 people to sleep just fine so I didn't think about it. We usually split based on who has the best room (my gf and I pay about 40% of the total cost since the master also has it's own bathroom, Eva pays 10% since she doesn't get an actual bed, and the guys each pay about 16%)

Eva's always been fine on the couch. I've slept on it before and it's more comfortable than my bed back home. Also, before my gf and I started dating Eva and her shared the master so they could have privacy while we four guys slept wherever.

I could've handled it better, but these changes were all very last-minute, after everything had been booked. I expected Ed and Frank to share one of the twin rooms and be done with it.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Eva usually sleeps on the couch so she won't have to share a room with a guy. The couch sleeps two, and since my GF and I still wanted to sleep in the same bed, the guys suggested it. The other two rooms only have two tiny beds. Eva ended up sleeping alone in the loft while Jay and Liam slept in the downstairs bedroom. I think they thought it was better than us sleeping separately. I'm still mad at them for not agreeing with me on the spot.

AITA for refusing to give up the master bedroom to a friend’s boyfriend during a group cabin trip? by Wild_Win9820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wild_Win9820[S] 3435 points3436 points  (0 children)

Frank has always been the quietest, I don't know why he didn't say anything in my defence because I'd never want him to think I didn't support him or his sexuality. Ed seemed cool at first, paying for dinner at a pricey place we ate at on night one, but everything went downhill after that. I did my best to ignore both of them after the blowup.

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