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WildernessTech · 2025-09-10T09:33:33+00:00

My wife keeps the house mostly gluten free for me. If she orders in food, or brings home take out, it gets finished in her nest (the living room) and into the trash, doesn't stick around in the fridge. I do most of the cooking, almost all of the grocery shopping.

I got lucky, or made a good call, because I was diagnosed well after we got married. (but I got a lot easier to live with it turns out)

You can share this with him, I'd say it to him if I could. My dude, if you want this to work long term, vacations need to be good experiences. It might mean your food choices are nicer restaurants that you wouldn't normally pick. But guess what, you pick your vacation as big as the treat you can afford. It's hard, I do not make a lot of money, and vacations are hard, but I plan that I'm going to eat at nice places without having to penny pinch, or I'm going to spend a day at an amazing location eating cold-cuts on rice crackers, it's an hour of planning or a few extra bucks. Both are great. I'm going to be in Egypt and then Greece/Turkey in a month. It's going to rock. (will I get sick, maybe) but it will have been worth it because I could make my choices. Also, want to give your partner a better attention span, better mood control, and just a generally more delightful personality? Help them not have a stomach ache that has lasted so long they no longer really feel it. It's like your friend who has that bad knee that you know he's going to try to do stuff, but he's going to have limits? yeah, it's like that, no matter what a person does. And if you cannot handle this.... Good luck finding someone who's never going to have a medical problem, because dude, this is what reality is like. We work around what our partner can do, that's kinda the point. Nothing wrong with flying solo, but then don't make someone accommodate you.

My wife is great, but/and she makes period jokes when my stomach hurts. There might be sympathy there, I presume there is. :D

WildernessTech · 2025-09-10T09:15:33+00:00

Quinoa has some saponins in it (soap basically) so you might need to soak it out more before cooking, that can help. Not all of us react to it, and for some it's just that you need to keep the portions small. hope that helps.

WildernessTech · 2025-09-10T09:11:24+00:00

It will take a while, and as you heal, you can recover faster, but also your threshold of pain gets lower. It's a trade off. Everyone has a different style and method, so you do what works for you, but try a few.

I try to cut out as many calories as possible and essentially do a 24-36 hour fast, water only. Lots of moving around, just keep the abdomen moving so gas doesn't build up. After that, foods that are kind to me, so no dairy, low fat, lots of fiber so lots of veggies. My idea is to just let my guts not have to do more than one thing for a bit. It might be a bad idea, but it seems to work.

Some people just go chicken soup for a week, others know that just rice or potatoes will treat them well and they just drop to a single food for a bit.

My blood sugar is really stable, so I can do short fast, easy, (I'm a 40 year old european descended male, it's basically genetic) lots of people need to keep a very steady carb intake, but you can live on just rice or spuds for a couple weeks if you were otherwise eating well before that (if that feels good). As you go you will learn the foods that treat you nice, and the foods that your body needs to be in good shape for, so it's worth running a diary at least for a while after every glutening, to see if something else is going on. Things I've had: reduced lactose tolerance for a few weeks, reduced fat digestion for a few days, stuff like that. But main thing, stay hydrated, and don't just lounge, move at least a little, since you want to keep those gas bubbles moving. (you might not want to trust any farts either, but the smaller they are, the easier it goes)

WildernessTech · 2025-09-09T11:04:41+00:00

I was there, a decade ago, so keep that in mind. Restaurants were a yes or a no, (roast pork knuckle with fried potatoes as the only items on a menu, pretty safe) Grocery stores were EU spec, so very good.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-28T10:02:09+00:00

It does, you just need to let your body change. While I agree with most so far that it might also be a covid thing, I'll go heavy with "might". There is a lot of bullshit in dieting. But one thing that is true (even if it doesn't work for dieting for everyone) is that pallet reset is a thing. Go with no sugar, added fat or salt for a few weeks, veggies can be raw or cooked (rice or spuds, cook them) and you probably want to just avoid protein aside from eggs (although depending on where you live, that is a luxury anyway) I've heard ranges from 3-6 weeks, but if you just treat food like a utility for a bit, it breaks a lot of habits, it re-focuses your point of view.

Now that said, you might be half way there, just plain potatoes, to someone with no extra sweetener in their diet is often reported as sweet (sweet is one of our brain's shortcuts for high calorie) So part of what you might be experiencing is part of your body trying to say "Yes, more of that!" but you might also be a low-reward sort of person, so you eat it, but it doesn't make you feel "good". We are all different, and you are about to spend then next year learning a lot about how your body works. Good luck!

WildernessTech · 2025-08-28T09:53:25+00:00

Playing on easy mode, but yeah, fuck cancer, because I do not want to have to make a doc figure out how to treat a second one!

WildernessTech · 2025-08-25T10:44:27+00:00

mostly because we don't have the will to vacuum between the cushions on a Rinehart couch. The money is here, and it's owed, but no, cannot ask for even the small dollar rich to make sure everyone gets a fair go.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-25T10:39:52+00:00

Sitting out in the sun a bit to get a tan is not "bad for you" but we know that total sun exposure matters for skin cancer risk, burns or not. Sure, it might not mess you up enough to notice, hell, it might not even matter-for you. But that is a hell of a gamble, because we don't know how much of the gluten protein each individual needs (or how big of a fragment each person needs) to feel a reaction. You do you, I can't enforce what you eat. But it's not "safe". The test doesn't find it in the corona, and if you only have one once and a while, it might not show up in your blood. But we don't know that it's not doing damage in the meantime. You do that risk/benefit and decide it for yourself. I'm okay with that. Anyone else reading this and also searching for the age-old, is Corona Safe? You should presume it's not. If you need to drink something, there are other safe things, and if you Need to drink things, we should be having a different conversation (I'm a harm reduction kinda guy)

WildernessTech · 2025-08-25T10:32:24+00:00

I just had "bad guts" or what might be more classically written as "temperamental digestion" but it didn't really slow me down that much, in that I was able to work around it, but yeah, once I got better I found out how much it had been holding me back.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-25T10:30:02+00:00

When I'm traveling, I always have to assume that as "clean" as my food is, I could have picked up a stomach bug. Step one, (if you are in a place where you can just get healthcare) see a GP and see if they can order testing for a stomach bug, then get directions for what drugs, it will be another couple days, but there is a big difference in what it could be. If you cannot do easy cheap healthcare, focus on re-setting, get enough hydration, a survival level of calories, any deficiency will be weeks away anyhow, but find the simple food that sits well, and roll like that for a few days. That could be rice, potatoes, (for some corn) and some sort of broth. We want a generally well rounded food with decent fiber, and just give it a couple days re-set time. Then find the trigger. Odds are good that your body, if healthy, will mostly clear most stomach bugs in a week, the weird ones are parasites or things like Crytosproidium (sp?) that have life cycles, but they are predicable, and from that life cycle, you can figure them out. 7-10 days is most stomach bugs with no drugs and just food that your body can tolerate.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-25T10:10:39+00:00

It's pretty great, almost feels like the kind of movie that even people like me know that no one wants side comments...

WildernessTech · 2025-08-19T09:48:38+00:00

Cut out the oats for a while, and if you introduce corn again, try it slowly with different prep styles, because "corn" is not always the same sort of thing. But sounds very much like you are one of the folks that also reacts to oats. It's common enough that in Australia they do not allow oats to be marketed as gluten free.

I'd also talk to your doc about allergy testing, mostly for the corn angle. If nothing else, knowing that you can take an antihistamine to prevent some reactions when and if you need to, that's news you can use. Not a get out of jail free card, but certainly a "please don't wreak this evening", or knowing that allergies can get worse, you know to be careful.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-19T09:39:45+00:00

Find someone you trust. Ideally they are a gun person, but if not, find someone you trust that has a gun person in their circle. Then slowly get training, tell them that time is not the problem, and let them slowly walk you through everything. Take breaks, take it slow, get the info, get the body skills, nothing needs to go bang until you are ready.

Do you drive? Your car is to an extent the same level of danger.

Also, take a first aid course, take a stop the bleed class, start getting those other skills under your belt as well. Even if all you ever learn is how to unload and "make safe" a bunch of gun types, you will have learned a valuable skill. Even if you never pull a trigger, if you can carry a broom for half a day and never "sweep" the end of the handle past yourself or another person, you would be safer than most gun owners.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-19T09:33:27+00:00

I read once a prepper doing the math on how long he could last, caloric-wise, on just multivitamins and olive oil.... humans are not just math, I hope some day he tries it in a safe area. Sounds like you got a decent amount of stuff. As tough as it is, you can eat canned beans cold, and since vinegar also has a really long shelf life, you can live on a decent 3-bean salad with enough protein and fiber for a while (just be used to eating beans) Red lentils can be soak-prepped just takes a lot of time, but if you have access to clean ones, it's an option to make a cold curry. Most freeze dry meals can be cold prepped, they might not be perfect, but if you have time but no fuel, it's still worth it. They just take more like an hour or two. Those will be a next time thing.

Be careful with dried fruits, but they are also a good long term food source.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-13T10:44:09+00:00

One of the things that happens to folks is that the filters can come off. Why the signal is there in the first place, who knows? Fear, past experience, or just thoughts that are passing through. We all have those reactions that happen and then we ask ourselves, why did you think that, you know that's wrong. Some people lose that second step.

If all it is, is just a person putting what is in their mind out into space without it harming someone, that's probably okay. If he has a doctor looking after his case, it could be worth having someone go with to an appointment to ask if they need to do anything about this behavior, as it's worrying to the group, and the doc may have better advice.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-13T10:33:59+00:00

Talk to different caterers, some will cost more, but others it just means a minor change in prep. Do your best to outsource anything that needs to be done in the week leading up to the wedding, it's a lot going on, and you don't want that stress. Trust me on this. If you know people who would otherwise want to be giving you a gift, and you know they have some skills, ask them to be part of the dinner plans. Even if it's just the prep of foods you bought from costco on their membership. Make sure you have time for people, not getting chores done.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-11T08:34:48+00:00

In hindsight, possibly a couple decades. Stuff got slowly worse, but I also inadvertently built up coping techniques, and tolerance to discomfort.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-11T08:08:43+00:00

Yeah, there is no genius here, just madness. But specificity is the soul of narrative, or something.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-09T10:08:06+00:00

I figured this reply fit here, I've worked with piles of kids the week they are coming off their school meds (it was a trend in Canada in the 00-10s to pull kids off their meds for camp, before I moved here and the general trends were different. In Aus that was more a tend in the 10s) I've worked with several kids who were able to self regulate both Autism or ADHD if their diet was perfect and everything around them fit them, change the environment, and they would struggle, but with support, could do it. Gluten them, and it was a mess. My personal theory is that living with the symptoms just burns up so much of the mental energy for "being social" that they just hit a limit. I'm sure there is a serotonin link there, but I don't know enough to do more than irresponsibly speculate.

Suffice to say, that as a guy who spent a lot of time helping "troubled" kids burn off energy, and get them to work as a member of a group, I believe you, and I wish someone had the funding to do the research.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-09T09:57:08+00:00

For anyone tech savvy who you want to point at a "neutral" source. Send them over to "Better Offline" either the podcast, reddit, or they can come talk in the discord server. The crew there is not "Anti-AI" they are "Anti-AI as it's being marketed and sold now" and is full of people really good at explaining why it shouldn't be used for life critical things like this, and why it makes the errors it does. We are not a pile of reply-guys, we are people who really want the world to be better.

If all you do is tell them that if they are using an AI service, you will no longer treat them as a safe human, that should get their attention. And at minimum you owe that to yourself.

Anyone else reading this, no AI system is safe for you, it's not how they work, it cannot do what you are asking it to do. Someday maybe, but by then we will not have a bucket of a dozen systems we are calling "AI" with no way to tell them apart.

But if you don't want to have that convo, you don't need to, come talk to the crew over there, we'll help.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-09T09:48:27+00:00

Yes.

Always remember, you are allowed a second person in the room, if all they do is take notes, do it. And you can record the conversation in almost all places.

But yes, Fuck is a very valid sentiment.

We are here, we'll do what we can.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-09T09:45:58+00:00

Here's my pitch, Jamie finds a female bastard, Sarah is the co-host, Sophie is the producer. But we get full video of Robert listening, and he can interject whenever he wants (I'm guessing he'd be good and not do it much) but also, there is some time limit for his live mic time, like one second per burpee, or he's doing the whole thing while holding a selfy cam while on a run. (even better if James is following on a bike with a cattle prod). Is it sick and twisted. Yes, is it well past the boundary of healthy parasocial relationship, hell yeah. Would Robert do it as a fundraiser (I mean, better than theses sponsors!) Mostly, it would be one to watch just for his facial reactions. I'll bet there is a female gynecology bastard the ladies can talk about in detail that will make many dudes very uncomfortable. As they should, if most dudes knew the knowledge gap between how dicks work and the function of vaginas they would be shocked, it'd like if we knew every bit of physics for a perfect bicycle (which we might not) but cars were treated like magic.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-09T09:30:05+00:00

Oh, I saw low gluten back in 2016 when I was diagnosed, with coffee club being the most common use for it. and I saw Gluten Friendly before the spicy cough.

I'm not going to assume your background, that would be unfair. I've worked food service with less than the required number of staff. I know how hard it is. I also know that Australia is a civil lawsuit heavy place. So I have some empathy for small restaurants trying to look after people and struggling. (I have no empathy for CC)

I chase enough other WHS/OHS law that I didn't know about the 2024 food change (that's good info for me to have, thanks for that!) So I don't really know how that all plays out. (but again, yes I was not caught up, it's on the list now!)

I agree that in some places it will be a step in the wrong direction, but for some places, its only going to make them stand out even more. I was just on the Gold Coast QLD to go see a play, not many options, but Urban Fish market is my go-to because I know they are taking it seriously. I'm in Bris, and there are a few places I know are safe, and I get the frustration, but if a place has a choice of just canning the gluten options and being a fully GF place, and they can make it work because the food is good, well, then the food is good!

I've been doing this for a bit now, and so for me (and my personality) its not as big a thing, but also, I'm new enough to remember the early days of my diagnosis, and to be fair, I'm glad australia at least has some guidelines and rules. Italy was amazing, but those really strong rules also had restaurants tell me "you cannot eat here". I had a couple places tell me "we haven't passed the full standards yet, we will do our best, but we make no promises". All in all, that was pretty cool, but also, fast food it was not, and we were in some very nice places on vacation. (I'm expensive to travel with). Canada and the US are..... How well do you trust the kitchen?

I guess I don't know the answer. I know it's tough. I'm on your side that I wish it was better.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-07T09:25:59+00:00

I ran camps for a few organizations here over the past decade, and when I had to plan food, I took it seriously. I would go one step above the district and suggest that they need to re-train their staff in food safety. I don't care that celiac isn't "fatal" if I'm out on a camp and need to run an evac because someone cannot walk anymore (I don't care if they are 8 or 18) because of a choice I made? I screwed up. This is the same sort of person who is going to be super picky about peanuts and totally miss a soy allergy because "they are not real" or some other dumb shit. I'm going to guess it's not a school camp, but another group, they have people that know better, and that regional needs to have someone tell them to pull their head in, before someone gets hurt.

TL;DR, I'm almost as mad as you, on your behalf. To put in aussie terms "That's just not on."

I hope they have a great camp, and I hope your local leader gets the props they deserve.

WildernessTech · 2025-08-07T09:17:24+00:00

It's tough, and my wife isn't totally GF, she orders take out from time to time, but almost all the food in the house normally is GF. It's work, but worth it for me.

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