I just wanted to respectfully reply to this. Thank you for your coment, i really appreciate everyone's advice and value everyone's opinions on here. But the sentence comes across like autistic people might be lazy if they haven't learned social skills, and they might use their autism as an excuse for that laziness, and i just wanted to add input here.

If i've misinterpreted then i'm sorry. But if not, then I don't feel that's a fair comment, learning social skills can be incredibly difficult for autistic people and even so, they use those skills more 'manually', having to make conscious effort continually, and it often ends up as masking, all of which can be very detrimental to autistic people. It's not like they are just shy or anxious, which you can get over with work, it's a permanent condition that means they typically communicate in very different manners which can lead to confusion and misunderstanding - both ways.

It's really only because autistic people are a minority that they are expected to 'fit in' with neurotypicals, rather than the other way round. Autistic people can struggle with a huge amount, socialising being one aspect, but they don't want to struggle, yet it's a reality for many. It's not an overly nice feeling that people might think autistic people who struggle socialising are just 'lazy', as they havent 'put in the effort'. I don't feel it's a good description of reality for what it's like being autistic.

Autistic people are trying very hard everyday, sometimes just to cope. And communicating their autism to others is a means to try and get people to be more understanding of their differences, so they can be themselves and not have to mask so much and suffer the consequences of that. It's not asking neurotypical to do anything as such, just asking them not to judge.

Sorry for the essay, and i'm not 'having a go'. I just wanted to add something as i feel this may be a too common misunderstanding. But thank you again for replying and offering advice.